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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am 25 and have been seeing my 19 year old boyfriend for nearly 6 months, we kept it quiet for a while just to get to know each other but about a month ago we I met his parents. His dad was lovely and welcoming but his mum acted strange towards me intact the first thing she said to me was that I look young for my age which she seemed relieved about. I kinda guessed that she may not like the age difference but I want her to understand that I'm not going to get pregnant and married and ruin her sons life cause I'm not ready for those things either. How do I prove that I'm trustworthy and that I really care about her son? Or am I being nieve to think this relationship is fine? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): You're not being naive. Honestly the only thing you can do is keep at what you are doing. If you don't want marriage, kids, etc right now then she will see that. Don't ever let a parent ruin a relationship. You can't please everyone and the main person you need to keep happy is your man not his mom. If you truly are not ready for all those things then just be your self and she'll get the picture.
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (15 June 2011):
Just keep being civil and polite to her and carry on as normal, acting like you have something to prove might make her more suspicious or make you look insecure about the age gap. You might not be looking to get pregnant/married but there are older women out there who are. Really though it just sounds like his Mum wasn't expecting it and was a bit shocked. If she hasn't been out & out rude then I suspect if your relationship lasts a long time, she'll come to accept it.
Age gap relationships are very dependant on the people, if you and your bf are happy with things as they are and have no problems then I would say your relationship is fine.
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