A
female
age
36-40,
*raina
writes:So well its almost summer time, we have 4 more days until school is out. My boyfriend lives three hours from me when were at our homes - he says we will most likely only see each other once this whole summer (3 months!). I don't really like that idea at all..so the past couple of weeks Ive been trying to get him to hang out with just me more (no friends around), but it always seems to fail.His roommate (best friend) follows him around like a lost puppy, we are together so much I feel like I am dating both of them (two-in-one package).Well every time I ask him to hang out, he says "no, I want to be alone" or "I am going to hang out with Bob (lets call his roommate Bob)."I just don't understand why he has to hang out with someone who is always around him. And why I the gf who only gets 4 more days with him, has to be pushed aside for this. And now I am really mad because of other reasons.----so I get a text from him saying "Bob and I are going to hang out tonight" which absolutely infuriated me, how dare he not spend time with me, and instead spend time with the person hes going to live with all summer? Id be okay if it was with someone else...but no it had to be with Bob. well then later he tells me "I cant go with because "were going somewhere and its not right to invite you to this" I was like "what the heck?" im like "whats does that mean" he goes "well to be 100% truthful, we were invited to a graduation party. I asked "why wasn't I invited? I Though she and I were were on good terms, she even came over to hang out in my room the other day, but maybe she was just using me to watch my HP deleted scenes. . And I got mad because I was like "omg, why would you go to that? shes a back stabber apparently" she told them not to tell me about it!He apparently "really wants to go" I said "if you go, you will hurt me, why would you side with this woman?" --- Am I in the wrong for any of this?
View related questions:
roommate, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 He is not to be trusted! You deserve better.
A
female
reader, Lraina +, writes (3 May 2011):
Lraina is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told him I was most hurt that he lied to me about it and I had to weed his real plans out of him.
He said he was trying to "protect me and to avoid conflict"
Maybe if he would have said "I'm going to this party" I would not have been mad, but if he made up "fake plans with his roomer" ugh that makes me mad.
...............................
A
female
reader, aunt honesty +, writes (3 May 2011):
No sweetie you are not wrong at all. If i am honest it sounds to me like your boyfriend is just not that bothered at all. He said you will probably only see each other once over summer holidays he hasnt even tried to make an effort to arrange something so that you can both meet up more over the summer, and now you only have four days left of school and he is making up excuses not to go out with you. He is totally out of order. If he cared about you at all he would have told this girl he would only go if his girlfriend (you) could come as well. This shows he doesnt respect you or care about your feelings what so ever. You are better off without him hunny.
...............................
|
