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Am I still a virgin if I've never had sex, and only masturbated?

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Question - (29 July 2021) 7 Answers - (Newest, 17 August 2021)
A male South Africa age 26-29, *usic lover writes:

Hello I'm an 25 year old guy I was wondering I've never had sex with anyone yet and have only masturbated, does that means im still a virgin or not, and are there a difference between sex and masturbation.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2021):

The fact that you don't know the difference between getting head and getting laid, doesn't speak well for sex education or your natural innate curiosity. My sister is 11yo and she asks me questions everyday. You

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (2 August 2021):

kenny agony auntYes you are still a virgin, you are a virgin until you have sexual intercourse with another person.

Masturbation is something one tends to do alone, or with a partner. Sex or making love involves the coming together of two people involving intercourse.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2021):

Some people will say oral sex constitutes sex. It is a form of sex. But if you are not penetrating someone or being penetrated by someone you are still a virgin. You may have some sexual experience but you are a virgin. Masturbating while a virgin still makes you a virgin.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2021):

Definitely you are. As long as there is no penetration(sexual) then you are a virgin.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2021):

Yes, my dear, you're still a virgin! Sex is mutual sexual stimulation "traditionally" carried-on between two people; leading to mutual pleasure and (hopefully) orgasm for both participants. Debatable evidence that a woman is still a virgin is that her hymen is still in-tact. There is still oral and anal-sex between a couple; which would bring evidence to the argument that a person who has performed either is no longer really a virgin.

People resort to semantics and hypotheticals as arguments these days; so you can debate the issue forever!

Masturbation can be performed alone, or with a partner. With a partner, it becomes sex. Self-stimulation doesn't undo the fact you've never had sex with another person.

There is no physical evidence whether a man is a virgin; unless you go medically-forensic, or if you can read minds. You can submit him to a polygraph. You can check for anal-tears or scarring caused by anal-penetration in the case of one who has practiced anal-sex. You could do the same in the case of a female, if you wish to go that far. But then, what's the point of it? Virginity isn't necessarily a sign of purity. How you think and demonstrate your values and standards is more indicative of one's virtue and refinement. Of course, religion, culture, and moral-tradition may beg to differ on that point!

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (29 July 2021):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntYou are a virgin until you have full sex with another person.

To answer your second question, the biggest difference between sex and masturbation is that masturbation is all about YOU while sex involves another person and should be about both of you equally.

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A female reader, Plexi Canada +, writes (29 July 2021):

Plexi agony auntOf course!

A virgin is someone who has never has had SEXUAL INTERCOURSE!! and you fit that description......you would also still be a virgin if you had received a blowjob but have never penetrated a woman or a man!!

Masturbation is just self gratification( playing with yourself)!!!

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