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anonymous
writes:I think I may be involved in an online affair. He is 40, I am 18. We have been talking for over a year now on the internet. Our conversations were strictly about things other than sex in the beginning, but now they are mainly about sex. When we began talking, he wasn't married, but since then he has regained contact with his ex-wife and they remarried. I get confused about this though, because he still talks about having sex with me. We have exchanged pictures too, and the other day he said he masturbated to mine. I don't know what to think about all of this. Am I involved in some kind of an affair?
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (17 November 2010):
Yeahhh you are SURELY involved in an affair. firstly consider his age...you are just 18 girl. you'll find so many young men. on top of that he is married. if you want to have fun, have it with a young and single man. don't give up your virginity [if you are ] to someone who you might me disgust to remember afterwards. and remember by doing so he is cheating on his wife and you are helping him to do so. how would you feel when if you was in his wife's place, knowing your 40 yr old hubby is having an affair lets call it online affair with a 18 yr old girl??
and as for that man i don't think he loves or cares about you. if he does he would not re marry his ex wife again...he just fantasize about you.. he want to have fun with you...
forget him girl..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): Yes you are. Not only that but he's 40 and probably just some dirty old man. I recommend you don't send any pictures over the net because they could end up anywhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): Yes. You are involved with a married man. He has no feelings for you. If he had, he would have pursued you not married someone else. Hes using you as a nice diversion but he will drop you like a hot potato when his wife finds out whats hes up to online. Try and move away from this sort of activity. Its not wholesome. You would do better to get out more and meet some decent guys around your own age x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): Wow. Delete him, block him, do whatever you have to do to end this. A 40 year old involved with an 18 year is in it for his own personal satisfaction and making him feel good about himself (and likely you are not the only one) ... and he's married??? yikes! Even worse. Run, get out and find a healthy relationship with someone closer to your age and IRL.
Sorry you got caught up in this. There are real men out there, don't think they are all like this. Best of luck to you :-)
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reader, Lothorien10  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 You are. Be clear, if the guy really cared about you, or if the two of you are as close as you think he probably should have told you about some of the feelings he was feeling towards his ex wife. You should stop talking to him completely, think about how his wife would feel if she found out about this cyber relationship? Socialise with your loved ones more and maybe you'll meet someone that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): yes you are. He is a married man and should not be chatting with an 18 year old. If you ask me he is crossing the lines and I would be careful, if his wife finds out about you she could be very angry. If I found out my husband was not only chatting with an 18 year old about sex, but masterbating to your pics as well?!! Looking at porn and sexy videos is one thing, but when your married and you are not only getting off on them, but he personally "Knows" and interacts with you as well, that is a relationship, im sure his wife would not appreciate. I hope this doesnt upset you, but this seems like a very inapproprite relationship, dont waste anymore time on this inconsiderate jerk.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Yes you are, you need to stop contacting this man, he is married and he is using you for his own sexual fantasies, stop this now before you end up getting caught up in something nasty all together, what if his wife were to findd those pictures and out of revenge posted them all over the net, wouldnt be very nice for you would it. block him from your internet and go out with your friends and meet single guys in person and get to know them.
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reader, :)31215 +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Yes, beause he's not single anymore.
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