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anonymous
writes:So I have been seeing this girl for a couple months and we got to talking recently about our work and job history. she is a decently successful actress in commercials and some background TV spots. now here's the thing: she was a model first, and she said she slept around with some producers and agents in order to get good castings and roles in parts.When I seemed upset she said it went on all the time in the entertianment industry and almost all the big stars nowadays got there because they slept with the right people. I asked her if she regretted it. She looked at me like I was from the 1800s and said no she didnt regret it. she didnt like it too much but it was like a rite of passage. something you had to do. Aunts, would this bother you? Am I being too much like a protected and naive little boy?Really confused......
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 Personally I dont think you are being to judgemental, yes everyone has a past but it is up to the each person to make there own choices in life, and not a lot of people like the idea of people using others, so no just do what your heart tells you to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all of you who answered and gave me a reality check.talking to this girl I feel like it is normal and I was the crazy one. i am glad to hear other perspectives. i have to be honest, it just does not sit well with me and i am thinking of breaking it off with her. i mean, for me, this attitude of sleeping with and using people to get to the top is not the kind of value system I can live with. i hope i am not being too judgemental. I still welcome your thoughts if you have any more. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Lots of people steal and double-cross their way to the top too. The fact that it's common practice doesn't mean you have to find it acceptable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011):
My girlfriend is in the entertainment industry. Yes, this happens. No, this does not HAVE to happen. It's a choice some people make. Does it help them? Sometimes. Is it required? Absolutely not!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Totally agree with how you feel. If my partner did that it would turn my stomach.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (30 April 2011):
No you do have the right to feel quite shocked about this, at the end of the day she pretty much sold her body to get successful. However I guess it was her choice and now you just need to decide if she is worth continuing to date or not. If you can let go of her past well then I guess thats what you should do and just remember that her future is now with you if you can handle it.
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