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writes:I don't know where to start with this. What I really want to know is, am I being a fool and allowing myself to be played? or is she real w/ what she has said... does she really love me and is true?....I'm dating my best friend. we have been friends for over a year, and have been dating for a month or so. She and her ex bf and I were all friends actually, but she and I were close friends initially, just formed a relationship w/ the bf bc he was there.... ne way, they broke up about 5 mos ago. she has been dating other people, but then fell in my arms. She has told he she has fallen in love with me..... ok her and the ex live together aswell as have a biz together. She tells me that she wants to do her own thing and isn't ready for a serious relationship, I let her go. told her to take this time to find herself and what she wants. ne way she moved out of my apt and back into her house w/ her ex. He is dating someone else, but when he found out that Danielle was coming back home, it seemd to me atleast, he canceld his plans on traveling w/ his currnt 'female friend'. Danielle and her ex actually hang out alot now. they spend alot of time together, and danielle spends less time w/ me. I'm beginning to feel that she is up to something and not telling me. I mean i told her htat i understand that ex's live together for financial reasons, bc if one leaves the other cant survive financially, and vica versa, so they remain living together until things change.... BUT IT SHOULD ONLY BE THAT! All the extra effort of hanging out and spending more time with him, just makes me wonder.... I don't want to seem jealous, but htis is definately questionable behavior. and as far as the ex? He keeps tabs on Danielle. yesterday danielle came to my apt (not because she wanted to, but bc my ex was here... it was the only way, it seems, i could get danielle to come over), and her ex text her and called her THE WHOLE TIME SHE WAS HERE!!!!.... and i'm just thinking to myself... if they're just friends and biz partners, why is he worried or even concerned about what she does w/ her free time.. right??? ne way, help me guys i'd appreciate it. thanks
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 I'm afraid you are being played big time here. Never get involved with someone that is living with their ex. It is as simple as that. There will be loads of stuff going on that you will never know about, she will tell you nothing is going on but believe me, something will be happening behind closed doors!
I think you need to let this one go. She clearly is not ready for a relationship if she jumped from her ex to moving in with you, and then back again. She really needs to be single for a while, and live on her own/with friends, to really figure out what she wants.
She definately doesnt love you, I think she is probably craving male attention since the slpit with her ex, and anyone will do at the moment. Whether it is you, her ex or any other guy she comes across.
Do yourself a favour and forget about this girl. And forget about your ex too! Dont start behaving like her, having your ex round to provoke a reaction is childish and you are only messing with people's emtions. Cut them both out of your life and move on to someone new.
I hope this helps!
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