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male
age
41-50,
*mad khan
writes:hey people! Here's my issue. I met this girl on an on-line dating site here in Spain.We had one date- and things got along fairly well. She seemed really intelligent (teaches at university) and not at all boring to talk to. I had some reservations because being american, I'm not used to fast advances, and I felt she was kind of too touchy feely in the beginning.So we had a second date- and I learned that she didn't really believe in long lasting relationships, that in most of her relationships, boredom would set in- around the 5 year mark, and then over. I disagreed, being the romantic I am, and we talked about other stuff. Finally we had a few drinks and I told her I'd walk her back- she invited me upstairs, and we had sex- something I've NEVER done after 1 date. Now, she didn;t at all seem like the type to do something like that. But it was GREAT. I haven't had sex like that in atleast 3 years. An entire day has passed, and a couple of hours ago I sent her an SMS, just telling her that I had a great time last night, etc...and I haven't heard back. I have the impression that I was a "one night stand", and yet we had some really intimate moments, its difficult to believe that I wont hear from her again. You always hear about guys doing this kind of stuff, but smart, interesting women. Their better than that!I basically wrote her a short email, that last night was really nice, and it;d be nice to see her again. But, though she said she wanted to see me again, I think shes still playing the field-I feel strange, a feeling I can;t decipher, and also a little worried as, half the time we had unprotected sex. Is it possible she's just interested in having numerous partners? I feel a strange, unfamiliar feeling, and I wish I didn't have sex with her that quickly. any counsel would be great!
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reader, emad khan +, writes (15 April 2008):
emad khan is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for your input people! An update: it seems we'll see eachother again.
I don't believe she's a reliable long term partner (of course I could be wrong),
But shes cool to hang out with, and of course- the intimacy aspect. I'm thinking of just treating it as a fun, not to be taken seriously, fling- for as long as it lasts.
I definately will not allow myself to get involved emotionally. So there it is for now. Thanks again!
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 I don't think this woman is a good catch. You will only be hurt in the end, she already told you this. Don't think you could change her, you couldn't. My guess is that this woman was not into you for anything beyond what she got. It is possible that you will hear from her again but beware that she has already told you she intends to get bored with you and then over.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 OMG What possessed you to have unprotected sex with her? I think that she is a predator, Period and just used you for sex and has moved onto her next conquest.
She made it clear she did not want a relationship and gets bored easily. If I was you I would get yourself checked out and see if she has not given you STD. Please if you do want a serious relationship, court a lady properly and take your time to get to know her before you reach third base. Please please wear a condom next time you want to get intimate with a woman.
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