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anonymous
writes:OKAY! Here is the deal....my ex and I went out for 6 months....during our relationship he cheated on me with some girl that I know. He begged me not to leave him and I gave him a second chance...bc I loved the man. During our relatipnship we shared intimate moments and he even asked me to marry him. We broke up bc of many conflicts...like him keeping secrets from me and the past still clinging to our relationship...he told me that he didn't love me anymore and of course I was heart broken. A month later in a party we hooked-up bc he said he had missed me and that he still loved me and I am willing to admit that I still had feelings for him too. Next week...he acted like if nothing happened. I gave him the cold shoulder and I was well on my way to forget him then....he comes crawling back....telling me that he wanted to kill himself bc of me. We took another shot at our relationship and it went to the dump after this "girl" that he cheated on me with started to put things in his head that it won't work....when I asked him what was happening with our "relationship" he said "I don't know" and in that moment I gave up in trying to make things happen. I told him that I was sorry that I don't feel like I use to and I was tired of being there when he needed me. He got angry and the next day he asked out this "girl"....I got mad...and I showed him my wrath. He choose her before me 3 times and I swallowed my pride and I was damn sure he wasn't going to do it again. Now we don't talk. He tells her that everything he ever felt for me was a lie. And of course it doesn't sit well with me. If he openly admits that he was a cold fish when he told me he loved me...I will regret him. I don't feel anything for him now...but for some reason the thought of him is still there...but my heart doesn't feel anythin I'm not sad, angry, happy....or in love....I'm just dead....why would this be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): What you are feeling is quite normal. Now dust him off you for once and for all and don't go back to him no matter what. He is bad news and can't decide just who he wants. That is not fair on you and you deserve better. Move on, there are loads of better blokes out there.
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 Hon this is normal.... trust me your head, heart, and body are all fighting on the inside about who gets to express what you are gonna feel first. One of them is going to win and you'll start feeling something eventually.... when you are ready to feel it. You've had a horrible and confusing emotional experience with a guy that is nothing but bad news. Your body feels numb because it is protecting it's self... if you let all your anger, sadness, hurt, feelings of rejection, and insult out all at once you WOULD feel like you are going crazy. You will feel things gradually as your mind is able to wrap itself around, and come to terms with what happened in this relationship. Until you are able, and ready to deal with how you feel, you will probably feel like you "feel nothing." It's in there, it will come out. In the mean time, take care of yourself, listen to your self, try to continue on in your day to day activities, and be patient. This will get better.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 i think youre still in shock over it all you feel used and abused by him and you still havent had time to let it digest, try getting out their doing things that make you happy have fun and try and put him in ure past, ure young and many more fish in the sea hun hope this helps xxxx
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