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writes:I just want to know what are the rules of dating? Am i supposed to let the person know when I'm going out or not?...simple as that..I'm dating a guy but I'm not sure if he's serious cuz I always am the one who texts him no matter what and he texts or calls me first once in a while. So what are the rules basically when dating?
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reader, N91  +, writes (18 June 2011):
 Even if he was your boyfriend you wouldn't always need to tell him....you are leading your own life and nobody can stop you from doing what you want...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): Even if he were your boyfriend you are not obliged to advise him of your every movement. He is not entitled to know where you are, who you're with or what you're doing at all times.
And it is never a woman's job to chase a man. Don't always be the one to contact him first. You aren't giving him a chance to prove he's really interested in you and you're making yourself look desperate.
This guy you're talking to is no different from any other guy you know. You owe nothing more than the common courtesy you'd show anyone else.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 June 2011):
 if he's not your bf you owe him no information about what you are doing without him...
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reader, lsd123 +, writes (18 June 2011):
 its not important for him to know wer u going or not...as he is not even ur boyfrnd
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (18 June 2011):
I would think if you are dating, you are not under any obligation to let him know where you are at any given point in time. However, you need to ask whose dating rules you want to date by. There are "the rules" which are the socially accepted norms, there are the rules according to other people such as me, there are your boyfriends/"guy you are dating"'s rules, and there are your rules. The only person's rules that count are your rules, though you will also want to take the guy's rules into consideration so that you can "relate" in a way that you both like.
As far as this particular issue is concerned, all you need to do is decide what you want. If you think it has reached the stage where it is important, or nice, to let each other know when you go out, then do it because you want to. If you want him to let you know, ask him. You don't need to worry about what you think he wants, if he wants to know when you are going out, you can leave it to him to tell you that he wants to know. And then you can decide whether you agree with him and want to tell him, or if you disagree and don't think it is his buisness where you are at all times of the day or night.
You might be asking this question because you don't think he is that serious about you so you want to know when he is out....
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (18 June 2011):
 Well I have to admit I don't like the premise there are hard fast rules, other than obvious things like don't cheat etc. In this instance I am going to have to ahead and say 'no' - I wouldn't go out of your way to say your going out. He's your partner, not your minder. Obviously if it comes up in conversation ie, 'what are you up to' then don't conceal it either but dont feel like you have to report your every movement and action to him, that could get very constricting if you feel like you do and ruin the relationship. Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhes not my bf..we are just dating
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhes not my bf...
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