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*heHelper96
writes:Hello, im a 16 year old guy and i have recently (3 weeks ago ish) met a girl who is 13 she is a great friend and we talk everyday. i was talking to a friend the other day who is a guy about her and he was laughing and said stuff like "you like her " and i said "well its a shame she's not older" anyway today he told her everything which i told him in good faith and things are realy awkward and tense between me and her. what can i do?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (4 August 2012):
 And I still think your male friend also likes her and that is why he was so disloyal. I think he wants to put her off you to give himself a better chance.
He obviously follows the "all fair in love and war" doctrine but I don't think he did a nice thing at all. In fact I think he was just tactless and mean to do what he did.
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reader, Abella +, writes (4 August 2012):
Don't stress over it too much, but yes she felt insulted by your remark. You possibly meant little by that remark and said it tactlessly without thinking. Such things happen. Do not be so hard on yourself. But she read more meaning into what you said and it hurt her feelings and made her think you were not nice.
Try to behave respectfully when you see her and in time perhaps she will forgive you for that careless remark.
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reader, TheHelper96 +, writes (4 August 2012):
TheHelper96 is verified as being by the original poster of the question hello,thankyou for the help i dont want to sound stupid but i feel realy upset because i have known the guy for years and is our first ever argument. also i was there when he told her and she said "what?" and just kept laughing this made me pissed off. when he left and it was just us it was incrediby awkward and we were just pretty much in silence the whole time except for a few random comments from time to time.i dont want to lose them as friends. was it wrong of me to say"well its ashame shes not older"?
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reader, Abella +, writes (4 August 2012):
Your other friend is no friend. I suggest that you stop trusting him. What he did was a hostile act. Ignore him, he is a loser.
Maybe he even likes the girl himself.
The girl no doubt is offended and yet you have no way of knowing if your "verbal diarhorrea challenged friend with no tact" may have even made it sound worse (than what you really said)
Try to speak to the girl and tell her that you do not know what your friend said to her. But that what ever the alleged accusations that you will answer each accusation and apologize for any offence caused by what you really did say
And let her know that you would be honoured if she would still be willing to be friends with you.'
Guard yourself if you find yourself in the company of the friend to betrayed you. Or better still ignore him. He deserves nothing more. He undermined your position with this girl and no doubt hurt her feelings too. By what he said.
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