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*oxglove
writes:Hello everyone,I have one minor issue with my boyfriend... he is otherwise perfect and I am extremely attracted to him. He is a 10 to me inside and out, all except for the fact that he will not cut his toenails. His hygiene is excellent otherwise. He has told me that he doesn't cut them because it is "natural" to leave them like that, and he just doesn't think of it as something that he needs to do. I tried to ignore it the first year we were together, but it is becoming a major turn off for me.I've told him that it bothers me, and he'll go cut them a little bit, but I still feel that they are way too long.How can I bring it up in a sensitive but firm manner that this is a major turn off for me? I don't want him to think that I would be so put off him because of a physical trait. Though it has caused problems in our intimancy, so it's not just a surface thing.Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Foxglove +, writes (5 August 2012):
Foxglove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers! I would imagine the pedicure idea is worth a shot. I don't believe his toenails are an OCD related security issue, as I have OCD myself and he gives me a lot of support in the problems I face. We are very open about that sort of thing as a result, but I suppose I could gently ask him if that is a factor. Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2012): No offence at all but I would not bother with the foot bath pedicure idea. Your guy sounds like he has some sort of fixation with his toenails that is not to do with them being 'natural' as such - they are some sort of security measure for him that he cannot let go of, and his insecurity will ultimately be about something else entirely. It is possible that he needs to see a psychiatrist about it as it could be a form of OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
If, however, his reasoning is that it is natural to keep them that way and you don't think it is something serious like OCD then you could do an 'actions speak louder than words' thing on him and wear no make up, never brush your hair and let it grow out of shape, do not carry out hair removal on any part of your body, stop washing and ...yes...grow your own toe-nails. See how long it takes him to realise that 'natural' also includes grooming and that grooming in males and females is infinitely preferable in a civilised world. Animals groom all the time, naturally.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (4 August 2012):
 Offer to give him a luxurious foot massage followed by a pedicure
Soak his feet, in nice warm water and give him the foot massage.
if you can borrow one of those things that also massage the base of his feet while he soaks his feet then all the better.
Maybe use Badedas in the water - available in England - I buy mine online. It has a masculine woodsy tang. Badedas will make the water he soaks in smell really good.
Get ready plenty of towels.
Give him a nice bottle of his favourite drink. And a bowl of nibbles and maybe some chocolate if he likes that,
Put on some soft music.
Have all your utensils ready.
Once his feet are softened then start cutting his toenails straight across. Don't cut too close or it will hurt him.
Use long handled nail scissors as his nails may be too tough for tiny ladies nail scissors.
use a nice body lotion (one again a manly one) on his feet as you massage his feet.
Softly pat his feet dry.
remove all the bits and pieces and come back to give him a kiss in the middle of the forehead as a thank you.
I am sure he will love the pampering.
Good luck. It could become a regular ritual. And a loving thing to do for him. He will need to similarly pamper you in another way? Maybe he could take you to lunch at a really nice place over the weekend?
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