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writes:hi, i have recently had an upset with my lovely gf of 6 months, we just had out 6 month anniversary on thursday. the sunday before i asked her if she wanted to do anything for it n she said she didnt mind, so i assumed that she would keep it free thinking i had something in mind.wednesday before the anniversary, she arranged to meet her ex. i was offended and a bit pissed off, cause i dont like her seeing her ex as it is, i still let her being the good natured person i am, but on our anniversary? i thought it was taking the mickey, but i also thought let it slide, some people dont value 6 months often. on the day of our anniversary, i dropped her off at work as normal for a thursday morning n asked her if she was definatly hanging out with her ex tonight, she said she would after the gym. i wnt off to work, at the end of the day i raced down the road to pick her up as quick as possible because i know she dosent like waiting around. i get her to her home and have a quick coffee n me and her mum had a few pokes at her about her seeing her ex n i had a little talk with her saying that i am jealous n i dont like the idea of her seeing her ex blah, blah n told her that i trust her but not him. i go to leave, tell her i love her and "happy 6month anniversary" she turns back to me and says dont say it, its not that important. i get home an hour later, and text her to let her know im home and for her to have fun with her ex. i get a text back saying that she cancelled on him n that today should be about me. i thought bit late now, but asked her what made her change her mind n why so late? she text back saying that her ex had his time, its my time now and shes upset at me for not stepping in and saying something about me and her going out on the night instead. i did have plans, yes, but i didnt wanna step on anyones toes by asking her to cancel on her ex. she eventually turned round and said that she is very hurt that i was not assertive and didnt ask her to cancel on her ex. no matter how i put it, i was in the wrong, not assertive enough etc. i mentioned that she shouldnt have made other arrangements i the first place, and i said that we could celebrate on the friday, she said that it would not be the same, n she kicks up a fuss saying that i cant afford it ect as im in debt. what does she want from me? arrrggh!is she being difficult deliberatly n how do i avoid getting into these situations, n what should i do about her? 6 months and she blows me off face2face then makes a fuss that i got bowled over when i get home and shes not infront of me n shes making me out to be the bad guy, when all i was doing was being my usual thoughtfull nice self. i dont like mind games, or trapping like this. whats ur take on this? thanks
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