How do I get more comfortable with sex?
Q. I am in a new relationship...about 3 months old and my boyfriend is ready to have sex but im not sure that i am ready. I am a virgin...well he penetrated one time and there was some blood but he didnt penetrate again because I was nervous. I can ...
A. 27 October 2008: Well first off. if he penetrated you then I'm sorry but you're not a virgin any longer. it doesnt matter if he only put it in once. Now as for making it more comfortable, I suggest you use a lot of lube. and try and relax, it doesnt hurt as bad as ... (read in full...)
My bf thinks I have an eating disorder! What should I do?
Q. So my boyfriend caught me making myself throw up and he freak out. Now he keeps asking me if I have a eating disorder. I mean can make myself throw up without having one. Plus I have a modeling contact and the agency that im with says I to be nee...
A. 27 October 2008: WHAT?!? What kind of modeling agency is that? They tell you that you need to LOSE weight! You weigh only 100 pounds. even if you were only 5'0'' thats still a bit UNDER weight if anything. With most modeling agencies they look at the face and body, ... (read in full...)
Do girls like giving oral sex?
Q. Do girls actually enjoy giving oral sex? Or do they feel obligated to do it?...
A. 27 October 2008: Personally when I perform oral, I dont like it, and i do feel obligated to do it. But thats just me. lots of women out there love doing it!
Victoria~... (read in full...)
He wants me to ride him but I don't know how!
Q. Dear Cupid My boyfriend and i been having sex and he is complaining that we dont do a new position and that he wants me to ride him only one problem i dont know how to ride lol what should i do ???...
A. 27 October 2008: Riding is when the girl gets on top. While you're on top you just do whatever feels comfortable for you. You have to experiment to get used to different things. Oh, and BTW, you should tell your boyfriend that what he said was very rude. That's not ... (read in full...)
I made fun of a girl without knowing she was my boyfriend's sister and he dumped me...
Q. So there's this girl that my friends and me like fun of. She overweight so we cal her fatty mcpatty (she eats McDonald's all the time). My boyfriend (I haven't met his family yet) and me hanging out at the mall. And I saw her and im like there's ...
A. 25 October 2008: You know, you obviously aren't ready for a relationship, if you can't even be nice to people. It doesnt matter if that's his sister or not. YOU have no reason to talk about anyone. It's rude and immature. I know if my fiance said something mean like ... (read in full...)
He doesn't satisfy me sexually.
Q. I have been in a loving committed relationship with my boyfriend for over four years but the intimacy and sex has been insufficient (for me) for the past two plus years. We have talked about it a number of times but eventually after all is said and ...
A. 24 October 2008: I have to tell you, when MY boyfriend said that to ME, I was really hurt, and my self-esteem was at an all time low. I started being really scared to do anything sexually for fear that yet again, I wouldn't satisfy him. Maybe he's performing badly ... (read in full...)
Meds for sex...
Q. Please suggest some medicine by which any lady gets horny and ready for sex?...
A. 23 October 2008: Well, I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt, and assume you're not trying to date-rape anyone, but that you just want your lady to be more "frisky" It's called ZESTRA, it works, you can find it near the condoms in your local pharmacy. It ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to give me oral sex but finds it hard because she was molested as a child... any advice?
Q. Hello, my girlfriend and I are in a rather unique situation. We've been doing sexual things for just over four months now. I've given her oral and fingered her, and she's touched me. We have never had sex and she has never given me oral. Here's the ...
A. 21 October 2008: I can totally relate to your girlfriend. I was molested as a child, with oral sex on the man. I love my boyfriend and want to please him, and I know he likes oral, but sometimes I just can't bring myself to do it. The best advice I can give is to ... (read in full...)
Should I get a divorce or stick it out?
Q. I have been considering a divorce for some time (years). My husband and I have been together for almost seven years and he has a son from a previous "one night stand" that we see often because of me. He lives on the other side of the country, but ...
A. 21 October 2008: Being honest here, I would say that this guy sounds really horrible, that may not be the case, but thats how I see it. He cheated on you, while you were pregnant with HIS child. That's not right. I dont know how it would be possible to stay in ... (read in full...)
Air trapped in the vagina during doggy style - any suggestions? Anyone else had this problem?
Q. When my husband and I have sex doggy style - sometimes he gets so much air in there it hurts for hours! I don't know what I can do about this. I haven't told him this before - I didn't want to make him feel bad cause I know hes not trying to hurt ...
A. 21 October 2008: First, make sure that when you are having sex that your back is as arched as possible, this will allow the air to rise to the "surface" otherwise known as a "queef" Another thing you can do is tell him not to pull out while having sex, this will ... (read in full...)
Why is it such a big deal to me to think about my boyfriend's sex life with his ex'es?
Q. My boyfriend has had two girlfriends before me, both of which were long-term relationships. Naturally, he was intimate with both of them. And I totally understand that. However, it really bugs me to know the extent of their physical relationships. ...
A. 21 October 2008: It's a big deal because it seems like your boyfriend is trying to freak you out! I would be extremely pissed if my boyfriend told me about his past sexual encounters. It's not something that anyone wants to hear about. I suggest you talk to him, and ... (read in full...)
Should I leave before my husband does to be the one who has more options?
Q. Í' m very panicked now. My husband is going though mid -life crises, after 20 and more year marriage. Does it sound very typical? I'm sure it is. He does not have sexual desire,or any other affection, or excitement toward me..Is it any min now ...
A. 21 October 2008: My boyfriend is a bit older than me, so I can tell you about my experiences. When going though a mid-life crisis most men find it terribly difficult to get aroused in the first place, just because they are having such a difficult time. If you have ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a gay guy!
Q. What do you do if you love a guy...and this guy is gay? I told him i loved him AFTER he told me he was gay.....so im tellin him theres no point to say what i want to say. I gave in and said what i wanted, when i did a few minutes later he said he ...
A. 21 October 2008: If you really love this guy, and he is truly homosexual then I suggest that you just be friends, I mean who knows, it could be a phase?? But, it's better to be friends than nothing at all right?? As for what to do, I would try and get out and meet ... (read in full...)
I wish to have a child with my hubby before it's too late but he won't cooperate...
Q. Hi me and my hubby are both 39.We have children from past relationships but i really want one with him before its to late.I did a home ovulation test and its fine and ive been to the doc for blood test, that was fine too.My hubbys home test came ...
A. 21 October 2008: Well, first off how many children does he have of his own? Maybe he's doesn't want anymore children because of past drama with an ex wife, that he doesnt want with you. But, if you really want to have a baby, then I suggest you take a look at WHY ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is bothered that I'm "beating" him in the career field. Is there anything I can do to support him?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in the same profession, and he's been having a bit of a tough time lately. He's someone whose self-image is closely connected to his academic and professional success, and for most of the time I've known him (we met in grad ...
A. 21 October 2008: You can help by simply being there for him. If he's feeling bad because you're "beating" him, then maybe try not telling him about promotions or things that might make him feel worse. It might seem like lying, but I think that it would be in his ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and worried that I will bore my boyfriend in bed... how hard is it to make a guy climax?
Q. hi everyone, i feel kinda wierd asking this, but my boyfriend and i are talking about sex, im a virgin, and he definately isnt. i want to be good for him, and not be known as the boring virgin who just lied there. i have no idea what to do. how hard...
A. 21 October 2008: Well, first things first, To make it more "fun" then you just laying there, try getting on top of him, I know that my boyfriend loves this. You get on top, and you move up and down, alternating between pace, such as start off slow, then go fast, ... (read in full...)
What is this white,thick discharge?
Q. i am a 19 year old girl and i have been with the same boy for about three years. i was his first and he was my first! i have alot of discharge but i dont itch down there sometimes it smells and somethimes it does not but it is always in my underwear ...
A. 21 October 2008: A way you can prevent yeast infections and UTI's is this: Drink a glass of cranberry juice with a teaspoon of apple cider vinegar! Sounds gross but it works great! Yeast thrives in a sugary environment, so drink the cranberry concoction, and if your ... (read in full...)
I told my girlfriends secrets to my friends, and she's furious!
Q. My girlfriend (Im almost 18 and shes 17) made me promise not to tell that she stuffs her bra and wants breast implants when she finishes high school. To make a long story short, I was hanging out with my friends (most of them are girls who hate m...
A. 21 October 2008: This is SAD! I can't believe that you being almost 18, can't keep your mouth shut about thing that shouldn't be said. I expect this out of a 5 year old, not an 18 year old. If I had told my boyfriend something like that I would expect him to keep it ... (read in full...)
I am so insecure about "down there" after he asked me this!
Q. Sorry if this is graphic but I have always been a little uncomfortable with myself in that area but now I am so self consious about sex!! My "lips" are large, especially the right side and they are a darkish color, like gray/purplish. My now ex ...
A. 20 October 2008: I don't know about the labia thing, BUT I have a secret of my own. I have inverted nipples. Now, alot of people would say it's ugly, but it doesnt matter because my bf LOVES them!! He says it makes me unique, kinda like those people with one blue ... (read in full...)
Please.. anybody that has a chihuahua, please help me!
Q. Okay, this may have nothing to do with sex, or relationships, however it does have to do with LOVE. I recently got a new chihuahua puppy, she is the love of my life, I'm really worried that she might have Hypoglycemia. She isnt eating well, an...
A. 18 October 2008: good news! She's eating, and she's MUCH more active, I gave her some Nutrical, she seems to be pretty perked up!! thanks for the advice... (read in full...)
I don't want her little sister to live with her as I don't like kids!
Q. My girlfriend's sister (who's 5) was being abuse by her parents. To cut a long story short, child services called her asking if she wanted to be her guardian, or she'll be in foster care. She told me she doesn't want her sister to live with brun...
A. 18 October 2008: I personally think that you are the BIGGEST JERK EVER, this child was being abused, and you don't want to help her because you don't like kids!?!? What kind of person does that? And to top it all off she's your girlfriend's SISTER! This is wrong... (read in full...)
How can I control my panic attacks??
Q. I hope someone can help.Every now and then,i get panic attacks.I think about death,and not being able to see family or friends again,e.t.c,and start shaking,get out of breath,and a couple of times,have even screamed with fright. How can i ...
A. 15 October 2008: I am not an expert in "panic attacks" however, I get them often, about 3 times a day. I take medication for this. My doctor says that when you feel like you're about to have a pain attack to go lie down in a dark room, and slowly count backwards ... (read in full...)
My mum wont respect my privacy- even steals my underwear!
Q. my mother has no respect for the privacy of me or my brother and treats our rooms like shops where she can take things from. if we try and confront her she just laughs. i have recently to my horror discovered she is even wearing my underwear, and ...
A. 15 October 2008: I recently had a situation like this one. I caught my mother wearing personal things of mine. I didn't think it was decent to say the least. To make it short I moved out. I understand that with times the way they are right now, it might be difficult ... (read in full...)
Five years ago I got drunk, and naked, friends took pictures, and made me famous around town, I am humilated, should I get over it?
Q. I recently posted about a situation where 5 years ago i got drunk and naked and everyone took photos of me and passed it round my home town and they still haunt me today-everyone that i meet gets shown them and while i didn't want it to (i really ...
A. 15 October 2008: Technically, If you are completely naked in this picture, then They are breaking the law by distributing these pictures of you without a proper release with a legible signature from you. If I was in that situation, I would honestly Tell them to ... (read in full...)
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