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writes:hi ive been really good friends with a women who is in a relationship already, we got along so well its unreal, she shows all the signs she likes me and my feelings for her have grown for herso i told her how i feel open up to her and said i dont think shes happy at homenow she has block me out and put up a barrier between us am really upset as i think a lot of this person as we were getting on so well that sometimes when am with her we both get jaw ache from laughing etci cant understand why shes done this please any advice would be great Reply to this Question
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reader, steph007  +, writes (21 December 2010):
She wants you to find an other one for yourself, and be happy, since she does not want to give you any sexual attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): thanks for the help
i think she has got feelings for me and is unsure what to do, i had a accident and she came to see that night which cheered me up alot
not long back i was really busy and didnt have time to talk and this really bothered her and she keep asking have i done something wrong
i does my head in because am sure she likes me
i really am heart broken and i know its wrong to chase a someone in a realonship but i have never felt like this about someone before
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): She is in a relationship and regardless of whether you sense it is not going well, she obviously does not want any compllications with you. You may have misread things, maybe she is a fun sort of person but that came over to you as encouragement. Sorry, but she probably felt awkward about your declaring an interest when that was not what she intended.
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (21 December 2010):
 You were her friend. Her friend. Not her boyfriend, she has one of those already and it is possible that she just liked you as a friend. I think its awesome that you opened up to her instead of burying your feelings for the next ten years, but I don't think you timed that right.
She is already in a relationship. It sounds (since she put the barrier up) that she just viewed you as a friend and now that you have said something she has to reevaluate everything about you. Every conversation you have had.
You crossed a controversial line and she probably doesn't know what to do now. Give her time. If she doesn't come around then I suggest finding someone new (easier said than done) and try to move on with your life.
I hope this helps you man. Let me know how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): like i said i dont understand it we get along really well, i think shes un happy at home thats why shes ask me out for drinks etc
and now i want to do something about it shes pushed me away shes allways laughing at things i say her eyes look dilated when speaking to me allways touching me etc all the signs are there
texting me smileys faces in the morning etc maybe shes unsure what to do and need space i wont see her for 4 weeks now as am away
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): She's prob cutting you out for her own personal well being and not necessarily something against you as a person. She's in a relationship and perhaps she doesnt want any temptation or subject herself to any risk of unfaithfulness. Chances are she does have some feelings for you otherwise she wouldnt be doing what she has done. Id keep your distance here and I know thats probably tough. If she's in a relationship, respect it and dont go chasing after her. In a way, I feel she may have led you on, which isnt cool. That should tell you something right there, maybe she isnt right to be with. Good luck here pal.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 December 2010):
You read the situation badly, and crossed a line you should never have even thought about.
She clearly is well into her relationship, and you were clearly a friend and nothing more. This is why you should never go near someone who is already taken.
She has blocked you, because you crossed a line and went further than you should. You were a friend, and that was it. Ultimately she loves her boyfriend and will allow nothing to come between her and him.
I'm afraid you've got to get on with your life.
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