Why does she keep on asking me about my Gf?
Q. This girl I work with continuously asks me about my relationship. She (and I) were a little bit flirty with each other for a while but I know she has a husband so I never persued anything. Any way I started dated another girl about a few months ago ...
A. 24 January 2013: Girls are often attracted to guys in a relationship or are married. It's not that they do it on purpose but it's an indicator that if you are in a stable relationship then you must be a decent guy. It's an indicator that you are relationship ... (read in full...)
Is is true that guys think less make up is better?
Q. So the guy i'm seeing has been coming over mine recently, the thing is at the beginning I used to wear a lot of make up thinking i needed it. But now i've noticed I like waking up with only a bit of makeup and feeling more fresh looking, although ...
A. 24 January 2013: Some awesome comments from the guys. I am the same if I'm goint out to a wedding for example, I think it's normal to put on make up just as I as a guy would be clean shaven, showered and cologned with a smart suit. It's good to want to look nic... (read in full...)
He had sex with me and now that I havent heard from him, my fear is coming true
Q. This guy i've been seeing for a while now, i felt really comfortable with him and i've known for ages i wanted to sleep with him, just i wanted to be sure that he was interested in me and not wanting me for sex. So it's been over 3 months, which ...
A. 24 January 2013: Look it's as simple as this, he's a dog chasing a car and it's not an insult to you, it's an insult to him, it sounds like this douche actually waited 3 months to have sex with you then when he got it he let faster than a rat out of an aquaduct. S... (read in full...)
Am I too jealous of what my boyfriend watches?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months. We are really close. He would never ever cheat on me. Yet I still have jealousy issues. I feel like my jealousy is severe. Like some other women, I don't like when my boyfriend watches TV because I know he ...
A. 24 January 2013: Jealousy bordering on paranoia, no offence, just calling it as I sees it. Do you ever go to the beach with him? Do you get jealous of all the half naked women around? I think you have self esteem issues. You have to understand even highly sexed guys ... (read in full...)
Why cant my boyfriend tell me that he loves me?
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 21 months hes 45 I'm 44 I'm divorced, he never married no kids. Last year after a scuffle and a very emotional deep conversation he mentioned that the only reason he never said I love you is because he ...
A. 24 January 2013: It could be he's just one of those guys who finds it hard to say something as emotional as "I love you" or it could be he feels he doesn't need to and that his actions are stronger than his words. Perhaps he is even scared to say I love you, for ... (read in full...)
Women--how would you feel if your male partner turned you down for sex?
Q. I haven't had any experience with this kind of thing myself but I'm just curious to hear opinions. You sometimes hear from men that their partners are always too tired for sex or are stressed etc. I know that obviously some men are going to get...
A. 24 January 2013: It's funny because a guy turning down a woman for sex is almost considered blasphemous, but the opposite is seen as normal. If a guy turns down sex say once in a month (just throwing numbers around) I think it's def no big deal, guys get tired just ... (read in full...)
How important is oral sex?
Q. The basic question here is how important is oral sex to you? I'm aiming this at both genders just to get an overview from both sides. I've been with some people who absolutely love oral and others who aren't really that interested in it and i'd li...
A. 24 January 2013: It really depends on the person. There are SO many sexual activities you can perform and oral is just one of them. Me for example I don't have to have oral sex but it's a damn good thing to receive from a partner. It's entirely up to you and your ... (read in full...)
How do I get my partner to do more foreplay, and have sex more often?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles just a quick question. What do you do when you have a partner that wont do much or any foreplay. He will not do oral sex at all, not even once a year, he will kiss me before and during sex, I do have to intiate it most of the ...
A. 24 January 2013: That sucks. I can understand a guy occasionaly just not giving a s*** but if he does it all the time. Firstly he sounds selfish, telling to pull his finger out (metaphorically) and do some work. It's like this, chores and taking care of kids should ... (read in full...)
Feeling neglected. Why doesn't my partner want to make love?
Q. Me and my partner have been together 2 and a half years and we love each other dearly. He is very affectionate and cuddles me and kisses me but when it's time for bed he just turns over and goes to sleep. Leaving me feeling frustrated, hurt and ...
A. 24 January 2013: Some good answers here, it could also be that the honeymoon period has ended for him although it's unlikely. I don't think porn is the issue either, I could get off on porn and have my gf ask me over and I'll still be in the mood to do it. Perhaps ... (read in full...)
Made love ? or just sex ? whats difference .. how do you know if you made love
Q. how do you know if you made love to someone ? and it wasn't just sex.. whats the difference ???...
A. 24 January 2013: To be honest I think sex is sex. It's just that your having sex with someone you also have non-sexual feelings about and the feeling is mutual. I think if you have to define making love it can also be when your sexually attracted to things other ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive
Q. My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...
A. 24 January 2013: I would also say go hell for leather and take her to court it's the least she deserves. ... (read in full...)
What chemicals in our bodies allow us to detect who is the perfect lover for women and men?
Q. I am dating this one guy and once we made love it seems like something about us was a quick connection.Making love to this man was very intoxicating not in a sick way but it was very emotional he took me on a ride that I never wanted to end. I...
A. 24 January 2013: Pheromones are believed to cause the attraction, dopamine is the "love drug" that makes you feel in love with the person. It is believed that every single emotion is the result of a chemical reaction of petpides in the hypothalmus which I think is ... (read in full...)
I am left feeling guilty because I don't want to give my b/f a blow job
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years. I have had a bad experience with blowjobs in my past and i know my boyfriend really wants one but i can't let go and give him one. I'm not ready. But he's become withdrawn and he tells his friends ...
A. 23 January 2013: Listen to a male's point of view. Chris Rock said something which is very true, men can not go backwards sexually, in other words if he likes BJ's and had them in the past it's very hard for him to let go of that. The second thing is to identify... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if first time sex felt right?
Q. So I had sex for the first time last night and I have some questions, I apologize if this is a little explicit... I didn't feel any pain when he entered me, thankfully- my hymen was already broken through fingering and he knew what he was doin...
A. 23 January 2013: Even as a guy my first time was crap, mainly because I was so nervous. In fact my gf was questioning if everything was ok, did I have problems down there which made me feel worse. But it did get better with time especially when I relaxed and became ... (read in full...)
Could I be bi-sexual? Can open-minded be considered a sexuality?
Q. I've questioned what my sexuality or how to define my sexuality ever since I was a child. It's probably been about 13 to 15 years long I have questioned this. Can open-minded be considered a sexuality? I grew up keeping to myself, and really tryin...
A. 23 January 2013: Gay, bisexual, straight these are only terms society uses to profile someone so they know how to deal with them. Freud's theory was that everyone is born bi-sexual but most develop a preference. What most people today don't realise is sexuality is ... (read in full...)
I think he's suffered a lot of abuse. How can I calm down my aggressive boyfriend?
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend just under a year. He's had a pretty unfortunate life up till this point and I suppose you could say suffered a lot of abuse from a young age (though I don't know any details as I avoid asking him about it)....
A. 23 January 2013: Best thing to do is get him to go to the gym or martial arts classes and smash weights/punching bags to release energy as someone who has had anxiety and anger issues it does wonders as I also suffered abuse. I think he needs to consider ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to reduce my sex drive?
Q. Hello, I have a sex question. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two months now, im 18 hes 25. And Lately he says all ive wnated to do is have sex, and i have. Im consantly "horny" when im around him, and when im not with him i thinkg a...
A. 23 January 2013: Have you explained that you don't get off much when having sex with him? If you have then it sounds like he's only interested in getting his rocks off. Most guys would jump at the idea of a horny woman wanting to orgasm and would do anything you ... (read in full...)
Housework and chore trouble with my boyfriend, do I move out?
Q. My boyfriend and I have lived for a few years now and the housework situation is getting out of control. He grew up with maids and is totally incompetent. Which would be OK I guess, but he won't listen to me or try to learn. I'll try to explain to ...
A. 23 January 2013: Your expecting too much. But at the same time he sounds disrespectful. Nothing wrong with making a mess as long as he cleans it up. He eats the groceries from those bags so tell him to STFU and carry something. Otherwise get rid of him.... (read in full...)
I'm almost 21 never had a boyfriend and feel like such a loser
Q. Hello I would like to ask for help to determine why I'm so lonely. Okay to start I'm about to be 21 and I've never had a boyfriend I feel like such a loser! I don't know if it's because I'm depressed or what? I have a low self esteem and I also only ...
A. 23 January 2013: Both sexes look at the body to some extent but once they see the personality and compatibility that becomes secondary. You're definately not weird or abnormal and there are plenty of guys who have no problem with an "overweight" partner. All gu... (read in full...)
I am sick of my B/f sneaking around behind my back to jerk off! Is it normal for men to be like that?
Q. Okay so anybody's advice would be excellent, especially a womans. I'm 18 and have been with my 22 year old boyfriend for 1 and a half years, our sex life is average, and I'm always keen even if I don't finish. He's jerked off to internet porn during ...
A. 23 January 2013: Watching porn is no big deal, sometimes guys (and girls) just want to get off without having to go through the whole thing of foreplay, pleasing the other partner e.t.c. Watching porn next to you or masturbating though is kind of weird. If I was ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling self conscious about my chest size?
Q. Hi all, I'm feeling a little self conscious about my chest size. I'm an A75/34AA, which is pretty flat. I always thought they'd grow a cup bigger but sadly that has been my bra size since I was 13. My boyfriend doesn't mind my chest size, but I ...
A. 23 January 2013: If your really keen on surgery and think it will help you feel better then it's entirely up to you. Just remember though if part of it is also about attracting a guy then believe me there are plenty of guys who don't care about breast size. If it's ... (read in full...)
Can a drunken kiss ever be a sincere kiss?
Q. So I've known this guy for 15 years, but we've never really talked. Over the years we've seen each other at parties, sometimes drunk and other times not, and we talk at all of the parties. Before Christmas, we talked while I was drunk and he was s...
A. 22 January 2013: Alchohol is a social lubricant and generally shows people the real you as it lets inhibitions go. If he continues to contact you via sms or call then theres a good chance he is genuinely interedted in you. I would say talk to him and see where it ... (read in full...)
How do I meet a guy for a lasting relationship?
Q. My relationships with men have been unsteady and rocky, even though, I have tried to have a lasting one. It seems like the men I am interested in are not interested in me and leave abruptly or cause me to break up with them. I think I am fairly a...
A. 22 January 2013: Some people go through a multitude of relationships to find the right one, others don't. It has nothing to do with you as a person.
As for finding someone who want's lasting relationships they are out there, I happen to be one of them. Alot of ... (read in full...)
Lack of experience and concern about my size is holding me back from forming relationships.
Q. I am a virgin and I am interested in sex and relationships but I am afraid because I am in experienced and i have a small penis. The internet forums I have been on I have seen women talk about not being able to stay with otherwise great guys who...
A. 22 January 2013: As I said to a previous guy, the size might matter to some sex fiend who only want's sex and is superficial, but for someone who want's a relationship size rarely matters and there are plenty of women who are interested in a relationship where size ... (read in full...)
What can I do to relax and cope and overcome my fear of sex with my husband? We love each other and he is a good husband.
Q. hi, i am a married girl. My husband loves and cares for me. he is a very good husband and i too love him a lot. but the problem is i am scared of sex. i will get scared of pain. whenever we want to have sex, i will become scared and then we cant...
A. 22 January 2013: Perhaps some kind of trauma occured in your past you don't remember? I have read of studies where women are afraid of sex and even women who have a phobia about penises. I think some psychological evaluation and therapy could help, also like some ... (read in full...)
No GF, I am a virgin and I failed college. My self esteem is at an all time low. How can I gain confidence?
Q. I am finding it very hard to like myself right now. I flunked out at college, I am a virgin and I have never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl. I have accomplished nothing and feel that I never will. I will be turning 22 in a few days and I don't ...
A. 22 January 2013: A lot of people flunk college, I got into university in Australia and failed miserably and was not allowed to ever take that degree again. I'm not sure what it's like in your country but a degree doesn't define you, there are so many accomplished ... (read in full...)
She said she's not going to make love to me any more. Why did she react so angrily to my questions?
Q. Hi,I'm kind of confused my girlfriend just sms ed me that she's refusing to make love to me any more. I think this is due to the fact that I saw her with a man walking down the street, so I stop gave her a lift to her home. That evening befo...
A. 22 January 2013: She used sex as a weapon. If you don't leave her it's your problem. Never EVER let a woman in your life use sex as a weapon, it's one thing if she has her period, has worked a 12 hour shift, or is genuinley angry about something you did wrong for ... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to be accomplishing through sex?
Q. In every magazine I have come across, whenever they write about sex it always has to deal with orgasms. from this I have the perception that if I am having sex with a woman she has to orgasm every time otherwise I won't be a real man and she will ...
A. 22 January 2013: There is no single answer to that. But I'll try to give you a clearer picture, if your having sex with a FB then the point of sex is pretty much to have an orgasm to fulfill the base needs of humans. When your with someone as a gf/wife it's a little ... (read in full...)
My mother doesn't like my choice. How do I deal with this situation? I am extremely stressed!
Q. I find myself in a very stressful situation. I habve found the guy of my dreams. He is caring, respectful, and loves me to death. We've talked about a future together and what not. But the thing is that my mom doesnt exactly aprove. She thinks he's ...
A. 22 January 2013: Talk to your mother and find out what exactly makes him not meet her standards. But always remember this, no matter what she says, your not going out with/marrying your mother, your doing that with your bf. This might sound heartless but it is the ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have wanted compliments - not dinners?
Q. Is this wrong to think like this? My ex did alot of stuff for me paid for meals, drove me places etc but he didn't make me feel special in a sexual way. I feel like I would of preferred him to make me feel sexually special rather than take me out ...
A. 22 January 2013: I'm not sure what the point is since he's your ex, but if your looking for advice on future relationships then your right and it's refreshing to hear a woman say what you said.
Unfortunatly most men have it all wrong. Yes there are women out ther... (read in full...)
Short with small penis - what should I do?
Q. I’m a 22 year old virgin male – cause I only want to date when I am financially stable. My problem is that I’m short (5'4) with a small penis (3 and a half inches erect). I look like a hobbit. Plus girls always say I’m cute and sweet, which ...
A. 22 January 2013: Unless you have a micro penis, which you don't you'll be fine. Honestly I'm reasonably well endowed (just saying for the sake of the arguement) so Iv'e never felt your problem, but trust me a woman might fantasize about a thick penis but if that's ... (read in full...)
Is she too proud to admit she made a mistake?
Q. 3 months ago I heard my ex flirting on the phone with a man, which really hurt me and made me write a touching goodbye message to her. She told me she loves me and didn't want me to leave her. I ignored her for two weeks to hurt her back but she was ...
A. 22 January 2013: She's playing games and your playing games and it f***** up the relationship the fact that she flirted then wen't hot and cold is not worth your time and honestly it's not worth your time playing games either. ... (read in full...)
How long to get over a break up?
Q. He was the third bf. My first ex was my first love - we were together 2 years and I got over him in one year, the second I got over in one month. But this one, we were together just around one year but I can't get over him at all. I was strongly i...
A. 22 January 2013: I don't know if you are religious or spiritual so not sure what you define as being in love, but there are scientific studies that show the hormones and chemicals in our brain when we are in love/in a relationship are as powerful if not more ... (read in full...)
BF loves to cuddle and I can't sleep! Is it because I'm too warm, or because he's in my space too much?
Q. Hi there... basically I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now really very happy together got a real good honest relationship. I have an issue he is really cuddly, I on the other hand am not so much. I do enjoy a hug now and again bu...
A. 22 January 2013: I'm a guy and incredibly hot (literally and metaphorically) kidding! I also find it hard to get to sleep so I know exactly what you mean. Even when I cuddle my gf while sleeping we both can only go on for a short amount of time as it gets too hot ... (read in full...)
I don't think my wife loves me anymore, but another woman has taken an interest in me
Q. Me and my wife have been together for 5 yrs and married for four. we have a child together, she is 2. I have two teenagers that live with us. she does the world for them and me even when I wasn't working, but even when I was working she has been...
A. 22 January 2013: Interesting all the female responses called you a cheat yet you actually said " I want to leave my marriage. I'm miserable and just there for my baby." you also said "very little communication" I guess the women here decided to use selective reading ... (read in full...)
Nauseated after rough sex
Q. I was just wondering if this has happend to anyone. My bf just got out of jail and we had rough sex, but since then I feel so nauseated and dont knw why.. Plz help.....
A. 22 January 2013: Lol he got out of prison thats why. On a more serious note as a guy that has happened to me. But I'm aware of why it happens when getting close to orgasm I tend to hold my breath without being aware of it and once I'm done I feel so sick and dizzy. ... (read in full...)
My husband could have me any time... So why does he need to masturbate to porn?
Q. When I go to work my husband downloads porn and plays with himself. It hurts my feelings because he could have me anytime he wants. He could have had me before I went to work. He has even looked at porn when me and the kids were sleeping. It ...
A. 22 January 2013: First question I would like to ask is, does he know he can have you any time? Have you told him this? I was in a relationship where I had to practically beg for sex and was made to be this guy who just thought about sex even though I was with her... (read in full...)
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