Should I tell my bestfriend that her boyfriend was cheating on her?
Q. I need to get someone else advice on this. should I tell my best friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her? My best friend and I are close, so I feel bad. My sister came and told me that my best friend boyfriend has been cheating on her....
A. 14 October 2011: If I was the one being cheated on, I would want to know...BUT wiser people have said "It is none of your business." Such a tough thing to go through. Just be there to help her pick up the pieces. My own sister kept my ex's affairs a secret, and I ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my b/f that I was raped as a teen?
Q. Should I tell my boyfriend that I was raped when I was in my middle teens? I've worked with this guy for almost four-years, but we just started going out a month ago. He is my first date since I was raped and I feel like I am having difficulty ...
A. 14 October 2011: no, keep that for your husband. New boyfriend does not need to know.... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 14 October 2011: oi! DON'T do this. dump this guy.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I'm uncomfortable with him seeing his ex?
Q. How to deal with this pending meet of his? Ill try to keep this as short as possible. My bf is going to see his ex this weekend to help her out and I dont know how to handle my feelings about it. She is a much older woman and nearly 30 yrs hi...
A. 14 October 2011: Um...let's see, you are living with your ex, yet you have a relationship with someone else? You are wrong, and have no rights over him. He is with you because you are truly not available to him 24/7. YOU will be the one to hurt in the end. He ... (read in full...)
My parents have refused my girlfriend who has been on wheelchair since birth, now I want to marry her without their assent, don’t you guys think I have taken the correct decision ?
Q. My girlfriend has been on wheelchair since birth but she's well educated and doing teaching . I think she's so pretty that one can easily compare her with Fairy. She's 5 years younger than me and I am her first boyfriend . We are in a relationship ...
A. 14 October 2011: Please marry this lovely girl for a lifetime of happiness. Do the right thing. So good shallow parents produced Angel of a son.... (read in full...)
I haven't spoken to him in 2 weeks since I found out his devastating news!
Q. Ok,I need some advice. I've been to ashamed to share this with family or friends yet. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I'm 28 and he's 26. I found out recently almost by accident that before he started dating me he was involved...
A. 14 October 2011: Pass on this guy, he's a predator. Not worth the heartache, and you will NEVER trust any of your teen family/friends around him. Keep moving.... (read in full...)
Empty nester thought she found the one.
Q. I met a nice guy almost 2 1/2 years ago. We are both 46. I have been divorced about 16 years. He was just getting a divorce when I met him on yahoo personals. This was his second divorce. I asked him at the time if he needed time to sew his wild ...
A. 30 July 2011: Hon, you sound just like me (not the same life) but you are walking down a road I have traveled. Stop! before it's too late.
I am 45years and met my hubby online after about 2 years of intense online dating w/lots of men. There ARE good people out ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband comparing our marriage to my best friend's?
Q. hi there, i've been married for merely two months and already I'm miserable! For the past two weeks we've beem arguing none stop. last nite he told me that I should be more like my best friend (who also recently got married) and be more of a woman ...
A. 30 July 2011: Because you brought your "best friend" into the marriage. And as very few women learn, friends ruin marriages. Keep your life to yourself. Do not let anyone but family through those doors, lest it's for a family gathering. As I read the rest of your ... (read in full...)
Trapped in a sexless marriage for almost 20 years, wife won't have sex and won't say why she doesn't want to. Should I leave?
Q. I have been with my wife for almost 20 years now. We have had a sexless marriage for most of that time. We were arguing about it even just 1 year into the relationship. It's not that we never, ever have sex, but we go years in-between having i...
A. 30 July 2011: First, I would NEVER want a long term marriage to end but in YOUR specific case, you need to move on. Why? because your wife REFUSES to get help and address the issue. You DO NOT have to suffer any longer, and you have done your best. It truly ... (read in full...)
Does she want to have an affair with me?
Q. Hi Cupids. I am a married man and I am friendly with a married woman whose daughter is in gymnastics with my two daughters. Recently she has been confiding in me about how her husband and her don't do things together and that she is unhappy...
A. 30 July 2011: Ah, women are tricky, and you are walking straight into a trap! Be warned...
Your life will be destroyed if you go any further. What I suggest, is that you have your WIFE take your daughter to gymnastics class from now on. Don't ever go back lest... (read in full...)
Trapped with over-protective parents
Q. Ok so long story short i come from a muslim family and my parents are way too overprotective, im 20 years old and im not allowed to go out with my friends or anything, everyday i go to college and then come straight back home.I love my parents and ...
A. 4 February 2011: Take it from a Muslim wife, w/o child, Life for me is very lonely. I am sure it's worse for you because you should be out with friends. They are just trying to protect you. They don't want anything to happen to you. Just remember, you are not alone. ... (read in full...)
Single... and lonely!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm 20, and I've been single for over a year now. I'm ready to date again, but I can't seem to find anyone who isn't married,taken, or interested in me at all. Most of my friends and people I went to school with have boyfrien...
A. 4 February 2011: Honey, I have been there and that loneliness aches! Maybe you need a makeover? You are a bit young to be needing Match.com so spruce up your looks, and be extremely careful meeting people, always let someone know what you are planning. Please for ... (read in full...)
I wanna stop gettin violent with my boyfriend!
Q. I wanna stop gettin violent with my boyfriend, when we get pissed off we tend too break things, an throw stuff, an say hurtful things, how did we get like this? I don't want every argument too have this outcome, an latley its been me doing it. Wats ...
A. 4 February 2011: Do you eat fast food?? It's toxic and can cause mood swings like this. Look into that. ... (read in full...)
How do I confront my husband?
Q. My husband and I have been going thru a rough patch the last year, he accused me of cheating on him ended it with me. We desided to work things out after that I found he was chatting with girls on match.com and even tried to meet with them. We went ...
A. 4 February 2011: Umm...men don't like confrontations, talking, and all that stuff. You say your sex life is good, then why is he venturing out? You say you love him, so looks like you just need to look the other way when he gets his "massages". I say kick him out. ... (read in full...)
Do men treat their girlfriends differently???
Q. Do men treat their girlfriends differently? If so, why? I broke up with my ex just over a year ago. I thought I was getting over him quite well until I saw some photos of him on a social networking site with his new girlfriend. She talks of...
A. 4 February 2011: Yes! What he does with you, he will not do with someone else and so on...that's what men don't realize when women try to break up a marriage. They don't want to be the hot sex kitten, they want to be a wife!
The next phase is that ALL men will say ... (read in full...)
We differ in opinion and he calls it a day nearly every few weeks now!
Q. I have been seeing a guy who lives 50 miles away and we only meet at week-ends due to work commitments. We have both had problems adapting as we have both lived alone for years. When we used to argue I would get up and leave and go home. I ...
A. 4 February 2011: Relationships are so hard when you are a bit older and used to being alone, yet crave companionship. You both have social anxiety issues. I would recommend when you visit. Only visit in public places. Not in private ones. You both are invading each ... (read in full...)
How can I look and feel more sexy for my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 17 and ive been with my boyfriend for around a year and a half, I'm a size 14 but really hate my body, I know my boyfriend loves me and my body but i see him looking at other girls on facebook and stuff, I feel like i cant satisfy him, we hardly ...
A. 4 February 2011: Honey, I was a plus size teen, and I know your angst. The best thing is to develop confidence. That's sexy! I think you are a bit too young to be having sex though. Being smart, hitting the books, is very sexy to men. Have a life dear. That's the ... (read in full...)
Jealous of husband's female friend!
Q. Should I be upset that my husband of thirty years, talks to his lady friend on the phone almost every day, sometimes several times in a day? I guess I am just a little jealous because he doesn't talk to me that much. And I caught him lying about ...
A. 4 February 2011: Loose-the-female-friend but how? Lose him. Let me tell ya, I was one of those types of ladies that had "male" friends. My husband made it clear, if you talk to them, I WILL LEAVE. So I don't talk to them at all because I respect my marriage. Very ... (read in full...)
He excludes me from his life despite all I have done for him! What should I do?
Q. My guy is a plumber by profession. I love him very much and we been in love for three years. When he had little money on him last year i rented an apartment for him, fed him through last year. Yet i don't know much about his life. He excludes me ...
A. 4 February 2011: Walk away from this one.... (read in full...)
I know he is never going to leave his wife for me, so how do I go cold turkey when I have to see him everyday?
Q. Hello I am a 33 year old lady who has got myself into a bit of a mess. I started seeing a co-worker in December 2009. He and I are both married, unhappy, but both staying for childrens/financial sake. He only married in January 2010. He didn...
A. 4 February 2011: Let me tell you about your "love" relationship. You are his EASY play toy at WORK. Nothing more, nothing less. It's not love. You threw it at him. The only remedy is to quit this job. There will be others. Don't even give an explanation. Delete his ... (read in full...)
Does he regret cheating on me?
Q. Its been two years now since I broke up with my ex of five years and although I caught him cheating on me, and I ended things, and have not spoken to him since. He was my best friend. I am wondering if he ever regrets what he did? Or if he ever ...
A. 4 February 2011: I would say YES! he thinks about what could have been. But men are wired differently than us. He will not let it affect the REST of his life. So don't you do it either. Move on. You will be the better for it. And of course, NEVER do what was done to ... (read in full...)
We both like her but he won't ask her out!
Q. i really really like this girl at college but my best friend also really likes her. he doesn't know that i like her and i'm not going to tell him because i want him 2 go out with her cause he's my best friend and i want him to be happy. the thing...
A. 30 January 2011: You, find a new one to like. She's off limits, you hesitated and lost...... (read in full...)
My wife's male friend told her he loved her and she ask me what to do!
Q. My wife of 8 years with two kids asked me what she should do about her male friend who told her he love her. He said he knows she is married and she can't help him, but he can't stop thinking about her. He loves to talk the whole day with her. ...
A. 30 January 2011: You have all the answers, and you just stated them in your post. Your wife, should not have ANY male friends that have her personal contact information, phone, email, etc. You are right, she just needed that "outside" attention, so you need to step ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say and maybe I'm not good enough for him?
Q. i really liked this boy weve all ways texted and talked and ive told him i liked him but he didnt feel the same way but then a few months later i kindaa felt he did and he would all ways talk to me and now hes just ignoring me and i dont know the ...
A. 30 January 2011: Honey, learn early, men are lazy, and they definitely do not want ANYTHING that's easy to get. Move on, he's not a quality person, he will leave you for the one who plays hard to get. Trust me.... (read in full...)
How do we trust our friend who bailed on us?
Q. Hi, last night my 3 friends and I decided we were all gonna get dressed and ready for winterball together. But at the last minute one of them bailed and went with other girls, even though we had been planing for weeks. So my other friend and I get ...
A. 30 January 2011: Hmm...you all are cut from the same cloth. You're "friend" who went out with the other girls, is of course not your friend. You were not good enough for her, she thought she'd have more fun with the other girls. And you should NEVER have called h... (read in full...)
Do I go for the one who gives me butterflies?
Q. i like a boy in my year and i like a boy below a year at my school aswell but the boy in my year seems realy shy when it comes to girls and i like that i dont like boys who are vein. the boy below me is the same but when i walk past him i always ...
A. 30 January 2011: Let them decide, that's the way it should be. Man chases woman.... (read in full...)
How can I be enough for him when he is answering ads and meeting people?
Q. So, I have a bit of "situation" right now with my boyfriend and I have never had a problem like this in my life before. I am not one to get other people involved in my relationship issues but I cannot even tell my family or friends what is ...
A. 30 January 2011: OMG-he never fell in love with you. You gave him a free place to stay! WAKE UP! Let him go, who wants a guy on the down low?? Find a real man who will work, protect you from the world, and take out the trash to boot.
Oh and you're right, you are ... (read in full...)
I don't like the person my boyfriend has become!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 18 months now, im 27 and he is 33, we both divorced, we met at the beach and we had a lot of fun at the beginning, he use to take me on dates, dining out all around town and I would sleep at his house every single ...
A. 30 January 2011: YOU asked him to move in, and this is what you get! Playing "house" isn't always fun.... (read in full...)
I had a miscarriage and am afraid to tell my boyfriend
Q. I was 3 months pregnant and started having really bad tummy pains... My boyfriend, who i live with, said its just something to do with the pregnancy and told me not to worry about it, whilst he was doing his paper round i decided to talk to his mum ...
A. 30 January 2011: It's great that his Mom was with you. Have you thought to all 3 sit down together? And if he leaves, it means he didn't love you anyway, so let him go. Practice safe sex in future relations until you are in a committed relationship.... (read in full...)
I feel like he is pushing religion on me, but he keeps asking me out
Q. A man asked me out that I met at a party. We met up for drinks and it appeared to go smoothly. he invited me out for a fancy dinner a few days later. I accepted. I am 48 and he is 50. The evenign started out soo good until the subject of religion ...
A. 30 January 2011: You are right, remain good friends, but he is not the partner you are looking for at this time. He is on a "mission", probably issues of guilt, and now wants to "fix the world" and he is starting with YOU. ... (read in full...)
He comments that I smell great. Does he want to date me?
Q. There is this guy at my gym who will on occasion tease me about my workouts. He will make comments about the machines I am on and the weight I am lifting. Then one day I am getting a protein shake and he walks up to me and say's god you smell ...
A. 30 January 2011: Please tell us what you wear, I am constantly searching for that "signature" fragrance.... (read in full...)
Good or bad sleeping with your ex?
Q. Me my ex broke about 2 weeks now, she was so mad and fierous she dosent want to talk to me. Just last night she texted me saying she wants sex. I replyed no cause I have feelings for you still. For about an hour I texted her ok I'm giving in I want ...
A. 28 January 2011: Well, it happens to all of us, sounds like you two still have a connection though. Try to work things out I say.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my online friend my real name? And was it wrong of me to lie about my name?
Q. I started exchanging messages with someone I 'met' on a internet forum. Completely against my expectations, we still 'talk' about a lot after 3 weeks. The problem is that I didn't tell him my real name and he did give me his. (first names only, ...
A. 28 January 2011: Don't tell him your real name, but tell him the name he knows you by is just for online chatting. My husband knew me by my online name, and sometimes he will say it now, but it sounds very bitter...he thinks I chatted with a lot of people I guess ... (read in full...)
Should I make new friends or stay with her
Q. Hi! So my best friend, for 3 years has been "changing" a lot. First off, she's acting like someone who she's not. Whenever the "populars" come around she starts to act like them, but when she's with me, she just acts normal. Also, she has started ...
A. 28 January 2011: This is an age old question, friends since childhood changes as we age or get new friends/boyfriends...I suggest seek new friends.... (read in full...)
Online dating? Experiences and advice?
Q. I have never tried online dating. I am moving to a new city and am considering it to meet people. Like cellphones and facebook I thought I would defy the trend of online dating for a while before I join the masses... I've never met a person w...
A. 28 January 2011: First of all you are in your 30's so DO IT! and now. You must be leary of studio photos, as those are scammers from UK and Nigeria. Keep in mind, doctors and engineers ARE NOT going to be online looking for dates they are TOO BUSY! Watch for the ... (read in full...)
If he is the father to another womans baby what should I do
Q. What should I do??? My boyfriend of 3 months (who is 24) and I (I'm 21) met and fell in love very quickly, despite previous heartbreaks in serious relationships for both of us, but due to stress he was going through with his family we "broke up" for ...
A. 28 January 2011: Are you serious!? You're BOYFRIEND?? Don't you mean YOU are the OTHER woman!! You are the mistress, this man has a child on the way because he sleeps around without protection!! Move on, delete his number. When that baby comes, I don't know of ONE ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and have never been asked out on a date? What's wrong with me?
Q. I am 22 and have never had a date or even been asked out. I feel like there's something really wrong with me. I am not outgoing like other girls and I am definetly not nearly as pretty. I just feel really down about this. What is wrong with me?...
A. 28 January 2011: Men like women who look like girls. Get a makeover. Looks matter.And NEVER ask a guy out! Read the book He's just not that into you, and follow it! I did and it works. But my best male guy friend said "He'll worry about the money, you worry about ... (read in full...)
Why do men in porn films last so long?
Q. What do the men in sex movies do for them to keep long during sex(about an hour) before they cum? Are they real people like us?...
A. 28 January 2011: Drugs, sad but true...O! and detachment. Who's ever ate the whole bag of chips, and now can't stomach the thought of eating them again, but you do and you hate yourself for it. ... (read in full...)
Do you think he is too old for me?
Q. Do you think this man that is 11 years older than me is too old for me. I am 20 years old he is 31 we've been together 8 months and he's just amazing, really knows how to treat a woman. I don't have a problem with the age difference and neither does ...
A. 28 January 2011: It's not that he is too old, everyone's red flags are waving because we don't want you to get hurt. Me thinks at 20 you should be with someone closer to your age. Do you really want to settle down now?? Of course all ladies love things, is he ... (read in full...)
My work environment is now so unhappy. No one is talking to me at work. What have others experienced in the same situation please?
Q. I put in my two weeks notice at work. Now no one is speaking to me! Can any one tell me about their last two weeks at work? Any other "what did you do the last 2 weeks of working at a former job"? I am having a tough time please advise......
A. 28 January 2011: Anonymous Jan 27th THANK YOU! Your words I will clip to my desk when they start to say hurtful things. I cannot have children, so NOW they are talking "baby talk" which is fine, but they are really pouring it on, and talking about their ability to ... (read in full...)
I need to know if he wants a child with me?
Q. I have been with my guy for going on 2 years. He has a 7 year old son. When we first met I told him I wasn't sure if I ever wanted to be married or have children. But within 3 months I knew that I wanted to be a mom one day. Knowing that he does ...
A. 12 January 2011: Honey, do yourself a favor, when they don't want another child, they do not, and to try to trick him is the oldest trick in the book to keep him. And all women will tell you it doesn't work. By the by...he doesn't want to have a child with you. You ... (read in full...)
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