I'm feeling lost and I don't know what to do
Q. Dear friend it's me again asking for our help. My question is dear is it possible leave with somebody for three stright years and don't love this person. I just don't understand why because me n my boy friend live all this time together, n he still ...
A. 5 March 2009: Dear Friend I have made letter longer than usual for you. I have gone into more detail than usual. You letter touched/moved me and I felt your pain thus the reason for making it very long. I hope you will read it all, *a few times over* if you have ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if I want to experiment sexually with a woman?
Q. Is it cheating if I want to experiment sexually with a woman? My boyfriend said it's cheating even if it's just for experimentation. I on the other hand have no problem with him experimenting with a man if he so chooses. What do you think? ...
A. 5 March 2009: Just ask urself this question...would it be cheating if ur b/f said to u that he wanted to experiment sex with other women rather than only with you? No 2 sex partners r the same. The sex of a person shouldn't be the issue, the act is what is to be ... (read in full...)
Are there no decent men out there any more???
Q. Can anyone help me why is it so difficult to meet somebody that is serious? I have had failed relationship after relationship and it normally involves the guy being full of it or a cheater! Is it me? Am I doing something wrong, the way I present ...
A. 5 March 2009: Don't give up hope. As far as African American men go there r many good ones.I would like to state that there r men of all kinds, colour, race, religion ect. that fall into this category not only the african american man, men r men as women r women. ... (read in full...)
Just thoughts please and general advice needed!
Q. Referring to the question http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-can-i-say-or-do-that-isnt.html Well since I posted that a couple of things. We have spent more time together and agree to meet at some point. One day as we were saying bye she wa...
A. 4 March 2009: I read ur letter and will try my best to give an honest opinion with great respect to ur request. I do want to say something to u that I know ur need to hear. I am not thin person myself..*s* I know where ur coming from when ur stated that u r ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I have the patience to show her how relationships work outside of the bedroom. What should I do?
Q. hey i am a bisexual female who currently has a gf . we have been dating on and off for almost a year now. i have cheated on her twice and i felt terrible about it , fortunately for me she took me back. i vowed to change my ways and i have no ...
A. 4 March 2009: I am a bit confused after reading ur letter but I will try to answer u as honestly, without judging you,and with a great deal of respect for the both of you. It is very hard for ppl in ur situtasion. When ppl perfer both sexes there will always be a ... (read in full...)
I feel like a wonderful person when I don't see my ex but I'm used to him, I realy love this other guy, what should I do?
Q. Hi everybody well I need some of your opinion. Well I was engage for 16 years he never ask me 2 marry I am the one who always asked him when are we going 2 get married his answer always is someday. Well we had some problems like 7 months ago so I ...
A. 3 March 2009: First of all I feel bad for u and I'm sorry for what ur going thro. I relize why u want to get married and it's a valid reason. 16yrs. is a very long time to wait and it also shows ur loyalty to endure this for such a time. It seems this man might ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is close to his brother but I don't get along with the brother
Q. Can someone tell me what to do when you don't get on with yout boyfriends brother but your boyfriend is really close to his brother? Me and boyfriends brother really do not get on and we have rowed three times in three years, i don't know how to ...
A. 2 March 2009: This is more common than u relize in families. Some ppl dread X-mas, Thanksgiving, etc. because they don't get along with in-laws, brothers, sisters, brother-inlaws and so on. I can only say that someone has to be the hero. I know how ppl can push ... (read in full...)
What if my husband doesn't get me an anniversary gift?
Q. My 5th wedding anniversary is coming up this Saturday. I got my husband something I know he will really like, but I'm thinking he is going to not get me anything great. He has a habit of not getting me gifts. I don't think I have ever gotten a ...
A. 23 February 2009: I found ur letter very interesting, which why I'm answering it. It doesn't mean he doesn't love u or doesn't care about the special occasion. You said he has always done this, so it might be that he really forgets it. The reason why ur letter did ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, but how can I get my more experienced guy to take it to the next level?
Q. Hi, I am a 19 year old female, college sophmore, and a virgin. However, I don't want to be one anymore! I have been going out with this guy for some time, and I want him to be my first. But I am so nervous! I am pretty self-concious about my body, ...
A. 19 February 2009: First Congats on being a virgin for 19yrs. that alone is an achievement.I won't try to change ur mind because this is a personal decision and u r of age to decide for urself. You told this person u r a virgin which is a very honest thing for u to ... (read in full...)
Partner has depression I need help to understand how he thinks
Q. This question follows on from where my last one left off. I got some very sound, impartial - and ACCURATE advice, so I'm hoping for more of the same. Well, even just a sympathetic ear would do... Cheers. Let me start by saying this is a long d...
A. 17 February 2009: This is a VERY touchy subject in its self. I will 1st state that anti depression drugs do ulter a person's mood but not to that extent. It is very hard to explain why ppl like to be in that situation. Some ppl may look down on it, but it is not to ... (read in full...)
How do I regain his trust?
Q. How do I show the man that I love that I have changed? I went through a lot of traumatic experiences in a short amount of time and it put a lot of stress on the relationship. I left him multiple times until I finally did for good. I never cheated on ...
A. 17 February 2009: Trust is the most important part of a relationship. Ofcourse love comes first, commuication, understanding etc. Though I do believe and u urself know that he has reason to be the way he is, it is hard to handle. Hurt is a very hard thing to get over ... (read in full...)
Desperately want to have a loving relationship, but not aggressive enough to get what I need, please give me some suggestions ?
Q. Learning to date and select a mate at 49 (or is there hope for me) entered relationship 25 yrs ago lookig for lifetime companion. She wasn't the one but got pregnant and was giving in to mother and sister to abort but feeling terrible and I w...
A. 16 February 2009: This is very hard to do for u because of ur state. Though I will say it is not hopeless.I feel for u and know it can be trying to also trust.I don't know if u can explore some kind of clubs in ur area. I don't mean night clubs. If u go to church ... (read in full...)
Does he still like me? He's ignoring me again
Q. let's say it snowed all day long.if a guy is really into a girl would he throw snowballs at her or ''wash'' her face with snow or not?today it snowed,so the kids from our school had big snow fights in the breaks and we had a lot of fun.my crush was ...
A. 14 February 2009: Of course it counts. It doesn't matter how old you are. It does matter how you go about it though.I won't tell you it's puppy love or how at ur age it will pass. I will tell u that boys mature later than girls. Boys at that age can be afraid of ... (read in full...)
How do I help my man regain his confidence?
Q. I have met a guy and been seeing each other for 2 months now.He's wonderful and caring and so attentive. my question is tho that after he split from his ex(1 and 1/2yrs ago) he had a breakdown. she was nasty and banned him from seeing kids..she...
A. 13 February 2009: My heart goes out to u. It is very hard to deal with something such as this. The meds also will change his mood so most it is not his fault. I might suggest that u find out what he likes to do, take interest in what he likes. If he has a hobby or a ... (read in full...)
I want to deal with our constant arguing and settle down, I just don't know how?
Q. I've dated my girlfriend for the past five years. They've been really great in a lot of ways and she's made me very happy and I like to think that I've made her very happy too... But in the past six months, my wires have been very frayed. You see,...
A. 11 February 2009: After reading what u wrote I believe u love this woman. Women r very complex creatures *s* It is very hard to deal with emotions that r racing. If u might in a nice way explain that u do love her and maybe seek some counseling. If she is racing as u ... (read in full...)
Can guys and girls be just friends?
Q. Dear cupid, i was just wondering, can girls and guys just be friends??? i kind of have this dude friend who's best friend went out with me. his friends won't accuse us as dating or something because of the way i broke up with his best friend, ...
A. 8 February 2009: YES it is very possible to be friends with a male as is a male to be friends with a female. The ppl that don't get it r usually ppl that feel it's all about sex, which it is not. Tho there is a fine line that u don't cross if u just want to remain ... (read in full...)
What does he mean by saying he liked my name?
Q. I would like to say sorry for my weak English first. I think it's hard for you to make sense. I have a coworker (Mr.A) and he's calm, he likes sitting at his corner. The first time that I came here I heard something about him and his girlfriend. ...
A. 3 February 2009: This man likes you and in his own way is teasing you or flirting with you. If you feel the same way don't let your english stand in your way. I am sure that he will try his best to understand what you want to say. Don't worry about guessing things ... (read in full...)
We're always at each other's throats. How do we stop?
Q. Well, i have been going out with this girl for a year and four months now and i can say that we're always at each other's throats. All we ever do is fight. It's really starting to get to me. As well as her. I want to know, how can we stop fighting. ...
A. 1 February 2009: I'm sorry the last sentence in my pervious answer to you should be....*shut up and kiss *ME* not *YOU*...very sorry ... (read in full...)
We're always at each other's throats. How do we stop?
Q. Well, i have been going out with this girl for a year and four months now and i can say that we're always at each other's throats. All we ever do is fight. It's really starting to get to me. As well as her. I want to know, how can we stop fighting. ...
A. 31 January 2009: There seems to be so much stress put on ppl these days. I will try to explain something. If this woman means so much to you plz try to let things so. Is who is right so inportant to you? There is a right way to argue. Stick to the subject, never ... (read in full...)
A lesson to be learned here...
Q. Met this guy on internet dating site. Texted, only, for 5 weeks, and then we arranged to meet. Because he works till late.... he came to my house.... I was sure he was someone I could trust. Of course, our texting was mostly of a sexual nature... ...
A. 30 January 2009: Just so other ppl read this.DON'T every invite a guy to your place that you don't know. Never have sex on the first date it gives him the wrong impression. What ever happened to meeting ppl in the real world. Internet is fine for commuicating, but ... (read in full...)
I think my husband is cheating on me
Q. I think my husband is cheating on me! I know this is true because of the things he’s been doing to me and my kids. His behaviour has changed dramatically towards me ion the last two months and I could really kill right him this very moment. Let...
A. 29 January 2009: I feel very sad for you. The letter you wrote in anger/hurt is a somewhat a good way to let your feelings out. I do think your reasons are valid. Being with someone for many years as you have can change things. We are caught up into work, children, ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my gfs low sex drive??
Q. dear cupid, My,girlfreind has a really low sex drive, she has been like this ever since i met her and now its starting to hurt me because i want her to feel the same way sexually about me as i do her. When we have sex its always me coming on to ...
A. 28 January 2009: gary123, you didn't say what kind of inplant so it makes it difficult to assume. You are very young and I understand for you to show love sexually is very inportant. It is an expression of how we love eachother. I see by what how you write you do ... (read in full...)
What are the pros and cons of giving a baby up for adoption, and the pros and cons of keeping it?
Q. Ok, I waited until I was 18 before I started having sex with my long term boyfriend of two years. I made that decision, because I did not want to leave any burden upon my parents if I was to become pregnant. My now fiance and I plan on marrying in ...
A. 27 January 2009: From what I read you have been very responsible and sometimes acciendents happen, so don't feel bad. The good thing is that your fiance is excited and happy, which means it he wants the baby, and please take his feelings into consideration. He too ... (read in full...)
I think I'm paranoid
Q. Hi! I've been in a relationship for 10 months now with a foreign guy living in my country. At the begining we had an argument regarding his ex-girlfriend living back at his country. They had broken up 3 to 4 months before we started dating and ...
A. 27 January 2009: You're very welcome and it sounds like you know what you're doing. I will pray for you and I wish you and your b/f the best of luck....*ss* ... (read in full...)
I think I'm paranoid
Q. Hi! I've been in a relationship for 10 months now with a foreign guy living in my country. At the begining we had an argument regarding his ex-girlfriend living back at his country. They had broken up 3 to 4 months before we started dating and ...
A. 27 January 2009: First off I don't think you're paranoid. The thing about the internet is that it can be a very good tool for secrets etc. If your b/f trusted you I feel he would have had no problem in telling you that he was sending messages to his ex tho I didn't ... (read in full...)
My b/f is constantly attacking and has tried to kill himself
Q. I love my boyfriend very dearly but now I'm unsure how to act with him because of his constant attacks which are pretty much unprovoked and the time he tried to kill himself. For example, I might mis pronounce something and he will totally fli...
A. 25 January 2009: From what you wrote it seems that your B/F has issues. Without judging him I will say that maybe he has issues long before he might you. He seems to want to control you and how you act, which is not a good thing. You didn't say if he abused ... (read in full...)
I'm not comfortable with the woman on top position
Q. I really need your help! I have been dating my boyfriend now for 2 years and i am now trying to avoid sex. Im very shy about it and have started refusing it. Im very embarrased about the fact that i cant get on top of him. When i have tried in the ...
A. 25 January 2009: There is nothing to feel embarrased about. You did say ur b/f is understanding, that helps. If he laughed at u it might have in because he thought u were cute..*s* Just because you are on top it doesn't mean you have to do all the work. If he is ... (read in full...)
Will he get in trouble?
Q. I am 16 years old. The man that I am in love with is 27. I live in the state of Maine and it said I could be/do anything with anyone over the age of 21 with parental consent. But he is still concerend that he can end up in jail. Can he still go to ...
A. 23 January 2009: He should end up in jail. There is something wrong with a man if at the age of 27 he wants to be with 16yr. old. If you have good parents they will see right thro this man. You say you love this man, think of the age difference. He will be so much ... (read in full...)
How close can friends of the opposite sex be?
Q. Guys please, My best friend is a man in his mid-forties (I am in my mid-fifties and a trained nurse), we are not romantically involved (even though I would like to be), but my friend talks to me about everything, I mean everything. He h...
A. 3 January 2009: Believe it or not, men also need to talk about such that as you wrote about. Hubby and I have had the same conversations, but not the beginning of relationship. When you have been together or known someone for a long time you also become friends. ... (read in full...)
Any information about making the experience of sex beautiful, satisfying, and pleasing for her?
Q. Ladies, Can you reply? I have been seeing a woman who is more than years older than I am. I really like her and would really like to experience sex with a more mature and experienced woman. And in particular I would like to experience sex w...
A. 3 January 2009: I read what you wrote. It seems to me that you forgot to mention if this woman likes/loves you, are you friends? I didn't even get yours/her age. To be brief. If you realy care for this person, just be friends. If you realy think it's worth it, you ... (read in full...)
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