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writes:I have met a guy and been seeing each other for 2 months now.He's wonderful and caring and so attentive.my question is tho that after he split from his ex(1 and 1/2yrs ago) he had a breakdown. she was nasty and banned him from seeing kids..she chucked him out.now he sees kids regularly and its obvious how much they all love each other.however although he is still on meds for depression..(shrink says will reduce them soon)he does have insecurities and gets really down sometimes.Other than hugs and being with him and reminding him how much i love him( no lie i really do love him completely..hes great and my boys love him already)i dont know how to help him regain his confidence.can anyone advise me? do you think i should see my gp for advice? Has anyone been through similar? i love him and want him so much but dont know how to deal with his insecurities.thx everyone
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 My heart goes out to u. It is very hard to deal with something such as this. The meds also will change his mood so most it is not his fault. I might suggest that u find out what he likes to do, take interest in what he likes. If he has a hobby or a sport he likes to watch join in. Give him lots of praise no matter what. Do special things for him also, make his favorite meal. Let him know how much he means to u, and tell him how great he is. It is very hard on him since he doesn't have full control of his emotions. If and when his doc. reduces his meds this might change. If u have anyone to babysit ur children for a day, maybe u and him can have a day to urselves, go out and do something, even if it is a walk in a park. Alone time helps. Try not to let him see you sad, or upset this might add to his depression. It will be very hard on u, but if u really love this man the sacerfice must yours. I wish u the best of luck.
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