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writes:Is it cheating if I want to experiment sexually with a woman? My boyfriend said it's cheating even if it's just for experimentation. I on the other hand have no problem with him experimenting with a man if he so chooses. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 If he says it's cheating then that's what it is!
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reader, tux  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 I always hated when people thought it wasn't cheating if they had sexual relations with a member of the same sex.. I've dated a couple of girls who were bi and had a few cases where it was brought up. But in the end, if you are off with someone else, you are deprieving the other of time and emotional energy that is being spent on someone else. It's cheating plain and simple.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (5 March 2009):
I am keeping this short yes it is cheating!
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reader, salvadda +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Just ask urself this question...would it be cheating if ur b/f said to u that he wanted to experiment sex with other women rather than only with you? No 2 sex partners r the same. The sex of a person shouldn't be the issue, the act is what is to be considered. This is ur b/f ur speaking about not a casual sexual partner. He is ur b/f because he cares/loves you. When someone is committed to someone else the sexuality of a person doesn't matter. Gay ppl r just as committed as straight ppl. When u have a mate it shouldn't come down to sex only. Please think of his feelings, his thoughts, what u would put him thro. You would open the door to many problems, thoughts, and feelings. You may not think it's cheating, but u have to know that it would hurt the person u r with to do such a thing. It might be ur b/f who will start to question himself in thinking if ur the person for him. It might also make him look at u in a different way, such as wondering if u will perfer woman over him, wondering if he will loose u and so on. Ask urself another question. Would this experiment be worth the chance of loosing him? This is not only about u and what u want it is also about what ur mate wants, and togetherness means that for a reason..*respect* it comes in many forms in a relationship. Yes to answer ur question I do believe it cheating. If it is something u r really feeling strongly about take time to research urself might it be that u r really r attracted to woman and just finding out. Some ppl don't know relize their sexuality till later in life, and with most it does starts off as an experiment. There is certainly nothing wrong with being gay, but in ur case ur not a position to pick it when u want to. I am not putting u down it is ok to be curious, but u r not single and u should think of ur b/f's feelings also....give it some more thought ....good luck & take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): Look, this is such an easy question to answer. It is cheating if there is no mutual agreement on either partner doing whatever thing she wants to do in terms of having sexual and/or emotional relationships with other people.
If you agree and he agrees, then go for it. If you agree and he objects, then it IS cheating. If you don't agree and he agrees, then it IS still cheating.
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reader, Replacement +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Of course it's cheating, what she's got between her legs doesn't negate the fact that it's cheating. You know why? Because it's cheating to your boyfriend, and he's the one that you want to be in a relationship with. If you want to experiment, it seems you may have to leave this relationship.
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