Worried Ex is getting the wrong impression!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me in July and at first I tried so hard to get him back and to make things work. Then I read a lot of advice that told me to cut contact with him and get out of his life so he could miss me and that way I would stand a ...
A. 18 August 2009: patience is the key..let time pass by and youd get the answers to all your questions... :)
if he tells you he misses you and does something to show you how important you're to him, then you will know . and then it would be worth it to be back... (read in full...)
I really need to know what he's thinking..and need advice from guys!!
Q. I REALLY need advice!! My boyfriend and I finished in June and I was very upset. However for about a month afterwards we were still talking every day, meeting up and generally trying to fix things. He believed that the break up was down to me not ...
A. 18 August 2009: I agree with jessjess :)
when the only problem you people have is you not being able to show him how much youlove hm and him being insecure, you can work around and so can he.
I think u both should give it a shot because you both love another ... (read in full...)
Would she accept being my girlfriend?
Q. Theres this girl I like but on facebook it says she single and only looking for 'random play'. But I want to ask her out to be my gf! Does this mean she will say no?...
A. 18 August 2009: You did not mention if it was some random girl or some girl you know. If its sumone random and you ask her to be your gf, she`might take you as a creep and block you. :P . so in that case, start with sending a msg and hotmail chat.
if its sumo... (read in full...)
If he believes in "no contact rule", why doesn't he pay me what he owes and be gone?
Q. My ex is a smart person who was always practical and thought about things in a logical way. When we first broke up he asked me to stop texting him as cutting contact will help us recover fast. I respected that, but eventually we got back. He sai...
A. 18 August 2009: Well, the moment you reply, he gets a chance to play with your mind again or probably to keep touch with you for longer. If it was me, I would send him one text saying: I do not want the money.goodluck with your life. and then not reply to any of ... (read in full...)
Worried Ex is getting the wrong impression!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me in July and at first I tried so hard to get him back and to make things work. Then I read a lot of advice that told me to cut contact with him and get out of his life so he could miss me and that way I would stand a ...
A. 18 August 2009: you know what?
good job. I know how hard it is to not keep touch with sumone who really like/love and you made him get in touch with you again after a while, which is good.
Now see, it wasn't you who broke things off. It was him. and don't wo... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about dating the ex of an acquaintance. Am I doing anything wrong??
Q. Hi. I've recently become involved with a guy who has broken up with his gf of 2.5 years, I really like him and he seems really into me but there is a slight problem. His ex-gf is an acquaintance of mine, not a friend but a good friend of a friend o...
A. 18 August 2009: Well, personally i think it would have been a really big deal if you would be dating a friend's ex. If she is just an acquaintance to you , I do not think you need to justify to her or yourself as to why you are dating that guy. It really d... (read in full...)
I'm 19: is someone 4 years younger too young for me?
Q. ok i like this guy. he is four years younger than me but he is very mature and he looks mature as well.. i know that if i were to date him many people would start judging and i'm really afraid of what they might say....
A. 18 August 2009: Its always advisable to not do anything which you would regret later on possibly as from now on, youre thinkin about what people are going to say. and also its illegal. I see 3 problems 1) people are guna judge you for sure 2) its illegal 3) eve... (read in full...)
We've just moved in together and it's me that's doing all the work! I can't move out, so what should I do?
Q. Hi, I just wondered if anyone has any advice...I've just moved in with my boyf, but we have been together three years. He doesnt do anything around the house. No cooking, cleaning, Nothing!!! I lend him my car to take to work every day, which cuts ...
A. 16 August 2009: When the guy doesnt change, you should start changing , not for his better bt for yours. There is no way u can leave the place before a year so just change your ways of living which might hit him and give him enough time to realise. Coz i think if ... (read in full...)
Older women Vs younger... What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages?
Q. Datin older women, its a fad that's taking over under the radar more than you think. I love older women, between 28 and 39 is awesome, they just know more about what they want and either already have it or are very close to getting it. I have been ...
A. 16 August 2009: Girls of my age are more confused, less settled and need to be pampered and understood more than we like to understand and act mature. Girls your age, are less sorted out as theyre not settled, or not done studying and have not been with enough guys ... (read in full...)
How big or not big do ladies like him to be?
Q. Yes this is a freaky question but I'm in the mood so here it goes, ladies, when it comes to the cut of a penis for you, what's your preference. Yea we got all these topics about "I'm too small" or "I'm too big", but not too much on " what she ...
A. 16 August 2009: When a girl likes a guy, or loves him..thats like the last thing shes even guna think or worry about. ... (read in full...)
I have always wanted to wait until marriage. Now I'm having second thoughts...
Q. I've always wanted to wait until I was married to have sex... but recently I've been really wanting to go further with my girlfriend. I want to now (or soon, at least), but at the same time I want to wait. I really love her and I really want to have ...
A. 16 August 2009: this might help
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight when I can't control myself?
Q. I am a 16 year old girl and I want to reduce my weight around 16 kgs but the problem is I can't control myself so what should i do? tell me some solution.and i can't even do yoga and excerise because in some days school will reopen so then there ...
A. 16 August 2009: same hereeee!!! I am doing the same starting yesterday. Now the only solution is to eat less and exercise. Now you said you cant exercise? but then the only way would be to go on a complete crash diet. something like having just apples and honey wa... (read in full...)
What's going on between my old teacher and me?
Q. ok so just 2 days ago i saw my old science teacher who i had when i was in eighth grade. im really attracted to him and i know the feeling was mutual when he was my teacher. but i wonder if the feeling still is? Now I'm 17 and I believe he is 30 ...
A. 16 August 2009: The potential problem in you thinking like this about your teacher is that it cannot happen. he might be married or in a relationship and also because there is a 13 yr difference. I just think its guna be a lot complicated because you dont even know ... (read in full...)
I love my cousin is it wrong to want to marry her?
Q. Hi friends I am frm India. For the past one year i am in love with my cousin that is my mom's elder sister daughter.In India we cant marry mom elder sisters daughter. but til this moment i love her to the core and DE same from her too.IS there any ...
A. 15 August 2009: Being from India myself, I think its a really big deal in the society there. Would you be able to bear with all the nonsense youd have to face if you end up with her? People will look down on you and youd hate to go out if youre planning on living ... (read in full...)
Three guys and I have feelings for all of them!
Q. I've been with this guy for 3 and a half years and I'm happy. I have two best guy friends that are just friends. The more I talk to them and hang out with them the more I start having feelings for both of them. All three boys are best friends. What ...
A. 15 August 2009: Write down what you feel abt all 3 of them and sort out your feelings in terms of who do you like the most and who are you most attached to emotionally? do this when you have hardly anything to worry abt. It will take some thought and weighin ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to be next in my life
Q. Here's the deal, several years ago I was heartbroken by an ex that tore out my heart and threw it in the trash:(, so sad I know, but moving on I've moved on since then, I mean my God that was high school lol. But I think about her here and there ...
A. 15 August 2009: I would say it doesnt hurt to meet up and talk to her? you dont have to be with her in a relationship or date her right away. just talk and meet up a couple times and see how that goes. :) Its your call at the end of the day coz she broke your hea... (read in full...)
I love my b/f but really like someone else too
Q. me and my boyfriend are both 19 and have been together for 4 years with about 2 months break with in them years. hes slept with a girl in one of the months we split what im getting over now. ive been talking to some other guy whos telling me that ...
A. 15 August 2009: I think you should split up with your bf if youre not interested like you seem. cheating is always a bad idea and your bf doesnt deserve it. However , Id advise you to weigh the pros and cons of being with his other guy over your bf. sweet words ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity and its totally forbidden! What do I do?
Q. well...i live in the middle east in a country where sex before marriage is a sin worst then killing i've been with my bf for almost 6 months and we already had sex nobody knows about it...not even my best friend i'm so affraid of telling anyone b...
A. 15 August 2009: I realise that youre very disturbed but just calm down for now. Impatience and freaking out wouldnt help at all. First of all, Id assume that you used protection and getting pregnant is not a worry. Now see dear, youre not sure if the guys wants to ... (read in full...)
Present for 15 year old girlfriend?
Q. What should I get my girlfriend of 4 months for her birthday? She will be 15. I want it to be something that doesn't bank off how much I spend, but reflects on how much thought I put into it......
A. 15 August 2009: Well, I gifted my bf 20 small things when he turned 20.However it turned out a lil expensive.so thats one idea that someone already gave you dont have to spend a lot on 15 gifts too. some of the lil things could even be bought from dollarama. (some ... (read in full...)
My boyrfriend never seems intersted and I'm getting bored.
Q. Hi guys, right I really need ur help, but I would appreciate it if u wud answer this as if u were me so put urselves in my shoes. Ok basically its about my bf of 3 months, I fancied the pants of him from the moment I saw him then eventually we got t...
A. 15 August 2009: Never love a love that hurts ... :) you know its making you miserable and if this goes on, you will start flirting with people even more. This is just now how a relationship should work. have a talk with him and still if things stay the same, its ... (read in full...)
Yes baby! No baby! Yes baby, NO! Confused!
Q. hi so im in a pretty messed up situation, here is the story...im 19 years old my boyfriend is 30. we have only been together several months. he is in a lot of debt and i just graduated from school. i am pregnant i found out the end of may,i told him ...
A. 15 August 2009: When your instincts and god's signs of you missing all the abortion appointments for whatever reasons are against abortion, dont do it. You have your parents to support you and you can live with them. Like both of them said, you should try to keep ... (read in full...)
Dating for 3 years troubled the whole time
Q. Well it all started about three years ago. we have been going out for three years and its just been so hard since day 1. Well first of all let me say he dont work he dont go to school and he is pratically like they say a bum. I work i am going to ...
A. 15 August 2009: I am sorry if this is not the ans to your question...
but just read through this story that i read a few days back and it left a big impact on me. Hope it does the same on you
But before that Id like to tell yoi something. No person and relation... (read in full...)
He has pics of his ex everywhere!
Q. HOKAY.. so im nineteen years of age and im dating this guy who is twenty five. So he just broke up with his ex five months ago and they were together like seven years, and have a kid together. He has pictures of her everywhere!! like his facebook ...
A. 15 August 2009: I can completely understand your situation. try to put urself in his shoes for the moment. I am not saying that his ex and his son are very important to him , even more than you. Youre more important and thts the reason youre his present.
Now,... (read in full...)
Ex runs hot and cold and I can't figure out what's going on in her head
Q. Im not even sure where to start with this one, this is a problem im having with an ex im having who i still very much have feelings for but i just cant bring myself to be honest with her about it anymore. But i just cant figure out whats going ...
A. 15 August 2009: Being a girl, I can tell shes just playing mind games. I used to do that with my ex too. However, this seems to be going on for quite a while.
Okie, I dunno if Id be able to help you a lot. But this is what it sounds to me. When any 2 peop... (read in full...)
Do I tell him I like him on our first date or wait a little longer?
Q. I've known this guy for two months now.We talk to each other on the phone a lot when we're not too busy. We'll be going on our first date this weekend scine we met two months ago. My feelings for him is getting stronger, do i tell him when we meet ...
A. 12 August 2009: I personally think you should just hold it in a lil longer. See how the date goes and plus wait for what he has to say first??
hope it helped!... (read in full...)
I cant help bringing my trust issues into my new relationship
Q. I just recently "got over" a long-term ex who cheated on and me and then broke up with me. I've moved on and am now with someone else, but I still have residual trust issues and they are making me feel very clingy. I don't have a large group of f...
A. 12 August 2009: I have such an issue and i have actually made a list of things as to why i think my bf loves me very much and for some reason it really helps my anxiety. try writing diaries and reading some questions on this site or articles abt guys in general. I ... (read in full...)
He's cheating with a woman he knew 25 years ago! How can I cope with all this?
Q. I've been married to my husband for 20 years now. We've built a dream together; a life together. We have five beautiful children; our youngest is 12. I simply can not imagine life without my family. I love them all so dearly. So why is it that m...
A. 12 August 2009: I am too young and have no kids that id understand your situation. I pray for the best of you and your kids and husband. I really hope that your husband gets his head straight and realises the importance of his actual family and stops cheating on ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine a life without oral ...
Q. i'm having a big problem with my fiance... he loves getting orals, even insists on it... but won't give me any. the main problem is that fondling and all the rest, including penetration give me orgasm, but not really powerful. my ex always gave me ...
A. 12 August 2009: This is actually a tough one. You should very very seriously try talking to him once again. But i guess it seems youve already tried. Now, I realise that sex and pleasure are a very vital part of any marriage but if you love this guy, and cant be ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too perfect a relationship???
Q. Basically before this guy, i didnt believe in serious relationships in your adolescence. i met him freshmen year and now we're going into junior year and still together, even though i switched schools. our relationship has been nearly perfect with ...
A. 12 August 2009: uh dont jinx it. Its really good how you both are understanding one another and loving each other a lot and being extremely honest. Thats a good start. No relationship is perfect in this world. There are problems and disputes between every couple ... (read in full...)
She read my e-mail, about her weight, and dumped me, any advice?
Q. My girlfriend of 11 months invaded my privacy, went through an email and saw an email I sent my best friend which said exactly this: "I love my girlfriend. She has a beautiful face, but she is letting herself go. How can I get her to drop 15-20lbs?" ...
A. 11 August 2009: well this is not a good enough reason to breakup with sumone. But i can understand why she would be so hurt. Try buying her some roses and talk to her. well you cuda been emailing some other girl , flirting with her. But you were talking to your ... (read in full...)
I feel my wife wants me to compromise too much. thoughts please?
Q. We all know that marriage is about giving and compromising, but what should I do if the compromise I have to make is against the personal values i hold dear, and I have to give in to demands that don't make sense to me? My newly married wife and...
A. 11 August 2009: Being a girl , I know how irrational we women can get at times. whatever your wife is saying makes no sense to me even though Im a girl myself.I duno if you tried explaining this to her calmly after a nice candle light dinner or outing , so that ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether I should leave him or not, please help?
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs now. Im a senior in highschool n i know i have my whole life ahead of me but i really do love him, but at the same time i wonder wat it wuld be like 2 be with someone other than him. i mean iv dated before him, ...
A. 11 August 2009: I am in the 3rd year of university and something very similar happened to me. there wer a lot of problems between me and my guy and there came a point where it was really impossible for me to forgive him and i broke it off. but he was really not ... (read in full...)
I want to get close to him but I'm afraid of catching something!
Q. ok i have this really gig problem i am with a guy that is alot older than me and i like him so much but im so scared of getting close to him and have any kind of sexually contact with him because im scared of catching something and afraid that ...
A. 11 August 2009: if you think somethings wrong and if a situation is scaring you, avoid it , till your instincts tell you the opposite. you shud be comfortable with any sexual contact thats happening in a relationship.... (read in full...)
Need some good advice on getting and keeping a boyfriend?
Q. I;m an 18 years old girl, turning 19 very soon,and I feel very sad about my future boy- friend issue. I' don't know what am I doing wrong, but everytime,I have a ""chance'' it turnes out nothing at the end... Usually ,the guy already has a gi...
A. 11 August 2009: confidence and self-respect is the key. I used to be like you when i entered university. I thought something was wrong and I just cannot gt a boyfriend. when i got one, and it dint work out, it always felt like i duno how to keep relationships.
... (read in full...)
I fell hard for my therapist.
Q. Hi, I went to a psychotherapist last week and when I was filling out the questionnaire in the waiting room he came in and it took me about 5 seconds to fall for him. I immediately knew I was attracted to this man. I even thought about leaving an...
A. 11 August 2009: Now that youve already had 2 sessions and spent that much money, It'd b better if you atleast ask him out once. Its not a crime to like sumone, if hes married or has a gf, too bad.
hehe. If you date him, Im sure youd b distracted from the prob... (read in full...)
I fell hard for my therapist.
Q. Hi, I went to a psychotherapist last week and when I was filling out the questionnaire in the waiting room he came in and it took me about 5 seconds to fall for him. I immediately knew I was attracted to this man. I even thought about leaving an...
A. 11 August 2009: Now that youve already had 2 sessions and wasted that much money. Might as well as him out before you change your therapist.. may be he likes you too . who knows???
heheh :)
However if hes married or has a gf, get a new therapist and mmove on with ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he still seems to want me, what is going on with him?
Q. we split up nearly 18 months ago after being together for over 2 years and being engaged. we split as he dumped me and he wanted space didnt know what he wanted his head wasnt clear - he lost about 3 stone in weight and everytime i saw him he bro...
A. 11 August 2009: To be in a relationship, both the guy and the girl should be willing to be with each other and be sure of what they want. This guy sounds to me like he might be loving you, but he is so depressed or scared , thats why he doesnt want to be in the ... (read in full...)
My BF likes to kiss other people.
Q. My boyfriend is great we get along great but he's a heavy drinker (not an alcoholic). We've been dating for 7 months. He's a forgetful person, even more so when he drinks. He really lets lose and has fun when he's drunk but sometimes does things ...
A. 11 August 2009: If I were in your place, I'd feel paranoid and disturbed too. I am very sure that you love him a lot as after all this, youre asking us if you were being difficult? The answer is NO. youre not being difficult at all, youre just being concerned about ... (read in full...)
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