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writes:Hi. I've recently become involved with a guy who has broken up with his gf of 2.5 years, I really like him and he seems really into me but there is a slight problem. His ex-gf is an acquaintance of mine, not a friend but a good friend of a friend of mine. She doesn't know I am with her ex and my friend is covering it up. I feel really guilty about it even though I don't know her that well. Am I doing anything wrong?? I would hate if the situation was reversed and someone I kinda knew (we are friendly when we meet at mutual friends events)did this as I like to think I come across as a nice person and I don't want anyone to think I am a bitch. Any advice would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): because you socialise in the same scene maybe you need to come clean. after all this other girl invested 2.5 years with this guy, so do the decent thing and make it known that you two are now together. by sneaking around it means that you know deep down that you are doing wrong and you are only fooling yourself. your good friend is also in the wrong by covering up your relationship from her friend. so there is deceit all around. if you all did not think much of this then why the sneaking and covering up. you would not want to be in this situation a little while from now, so please confess, get everything out in the open and then walk with your head held high, currently you are burrowing your head deep into the sh1t, avoiding his ex because you know that you are in the wrong by keeping him your secret. imagine how ackward it will be if your secret is discovered, this person may be terribly hurt and you will be viewed as a fake.
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (19 August 2009):
 I don't see a problem with this but yet again I dated and slept with my ex's best friend. I think it depends on how and why they broke up. If you had stolen him away (not that you really can) then there may have been something wrong but at the end of the day he was single you were single and that's all there really is to it.
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (18 August 2009):
Well, personally i think it would have been a really big deal if you would be dating a friend's ex. If she is just an acquaintance to you , I do not think you need to justify to her or yourself as to why you are dating that guy. It really depends on the person's personality tho. If you feel terribly guilty and if her as a friend , matters a lot more and if you really feel for for or care about her calling you a bitch so much more than you care about the guy, Its better to break it off with him. But if you really and genuinely like the guy, its not like your risking your friendship with your such a good friend or a best friend. With any good or bad thing yu do in your life, theres always people who dislike you or like you. You just have to see how much they matter.And also, They sure broke it off for a reason and when the guy is willing to move on and really likes you, you dont have to worry about the girl if shes not too close to you. I hope it helped....I pray for the best of you both.God bless!
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