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writes:I've always wanted to wait until I was married to have sex... but recently I've been really wanting to go further with my girlfriend. I want to now (or soon, at least), but at the same time I want to wait. I really love her and I really want to have sex with her so badly... but I don't want to rush into things until the right time. I can't decide. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): It's not a religious thing (I'm not religious), it's just something I've felt like I should do (no specific reason, I guess). As for marrying a woman: yeah. I've always been attracted to girls, even when I was a kid (you know those kiddie crushes). Never to guys, though.
Thanks for the advice. Maybe I'll talk with her about it some and think about everything carefully.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Well, don't rush!
When is the 'right time'? That's for you to judge. But if you 'really want to have sex with her so badly', and she feels the same way, I'd say the right time is now.
Waiting till you're married to have sex...well, I'm sure people did just that for centuries. Very few people do these days...those who do, probably for the most part do so out of religious conviction. From a practical point of view, it does seem totally preposterous, the idea of two people actually getting married BEFORE they'e established whether they're a good match sexually. Big risk, no?
As you're female and have a girlfriend, is it too nosey of me to ask whether you've always envisaged yourself getting married to a woman?
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reader, purple_butterfly +, writes (16 August 2009):
this might help
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html
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reader, WDE123  +, writes (16 August 2009):
I see that you are young and hormones can really be screwy so try waiting. To help with that maybe you should get a male toy? have her use it one you. it is difficult to wait but if its what you really want to do then by all mean wait!
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