He's in two major relationships, could he still like me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am really interested in this guy but he now wants nothing to do with me. It all started when we were getting to know one another. Everything was going fine...we did get intimate with one another but we didn't have sex. Anyways it...
A. 12 March 2008: I don't think you did anything wrong other falling for a loser. think about he talks to you about maturity and yet he is the one in the middle of two strange relationships. You say that he is cold to you when you are apart but somewhat romantic when ... (read in full...)
It's not you... It's me?!
Q. After dating a guy for a month, having a blast together and talking about future dates and fun plans together... I had a "bad day" at work and was really quiet while spending time with him that evening and it upset him in the long run - ...
A. 12 March 2008: You totally correct. Everyone has their bad days and would have to guess he does as well. He should have appreciated the way you handled it rather than compare you to his ex. That was inconsiderate and disrespectful to you. Perhaps one of the only ... (read in full...)
Should I still pursue this guy as I had a REALLY good time or just leave him alone?
Q. I've been flirting with a guy for several months and we finally were able to meet for sex. We have both been eager but nervous to get together, as we are both sort of shy and reserved. It ended up that he could not get it up, but gave me some ...
A. 12 March 2008: This has to be one of the worst things that can happen to a guy and yes I have been there. The wierd thing is that it never happened to me with a girl I wasn't that interested in. It only happened when I really liked her and was most concerned about ... (read in full...)
I want him for nothing other then pure passion, but could we remain friends?
Q. ok i need help!! i'm with my man for years now and i love him to bits don't get me wrong. but there's this guy who's in the same situation as me and we both want eachother soooo much, just for sex like! we always tell eachother that it cant happ...
A. 12 March 2008: Do it already. You know you want to and the longer you wait the greater the chances you have of getting caught with the text messages. If you don't hook-up you will probably regret it. Who knows maybe it will be great and maybe you'll be ... (read in full...)
I love him and want to get marry but he doesn't. What should I do?
Q. I've met this man 18 years my senior when I divorced my husband of 22 years. He helps me to go through the divorce and get my life back on track. We get on well and been together two years now. I love him and want to get marry but he doesn't. ...
A. 12 March 2008: I suspect the real question is why he doesn't want to re-marry and if the real issue is not that he doesn't want to get married but that he doesn't want to get married now. Maybe all he needs is a little more time. He just may have the fear that ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner I slept with his mate when we were broken up?
Q. Hi, i am a 8 month old pregnant female and with my partner for 3 years now.We have been on and off in the three years.But i have really hurt him throughout the three years.And it is all coming back to me now.Firstly,we got together while i was wait...
A. 12 March 2008: I am so happy to hear you have worked this out in your own mind because that is what is most important right now. Regarding your so called friends, this also may be a blessing. Through this you have found who your real are. You stated that your best ... (read in full...)
I have been seeing him for 2 years and have still not met his family!
Q. I have been in a relationship with the same man for almost 2 years. I have not met his family yet, in fact when I ask him, he says he is not ready. He says his family isn't like mine. My children are very protective of me, I'm a widow, my family ...
A. 11 March 2008: Your no spring chicken and neither is he. What the hell could he be waiting for? You two have been in a relationship for two years and neither of you are getting any younger. Hell at the rate he is moving along his family could be dead before he ... (read in full...)
Should I apologise or is it a lost cause?
Q. Hi... I was seeing this guy over the summer who is at an Ivy league business school and I'm in art school so we're opposites. Anyway over the summer he took me out to some really nice dinners but I didn't act too interested. Then I realized I ...
A. 11 March 2008: Don't appologise and yes it is probably a lost cause. The only reason you even thinking about appologising is to maybe start the communication again and it won't work. You already knew it wasn't going anywhere but you thought you could push it along ... (read in full...)
I'm very into someone at the moment and very apprehensive of attempting to start a relationship with them.
Q. Hello, I'm at the age of 19 and about 4 inches when errect. I was wondering if that's enough to satisfy a woman, as I'm very into someone at the moment and very apprehensive of attempting to start a relationship with them. I'd just hate to be ...
A. 11 March 2008: Go for it. You are what you are and you should be happy your alive and healty. As far as satisfying her thats up to you. If you think its all about the penis then your all wrong anyway. Its a strange thing about size, its the matcho thing for guys ... (read in full...)
I realy like this new guy I'm seeing but I think he might be having an affair with his friend's wife.
Q. I realy like this new guy I'm seeing but I think he might be having an affair with his friend's wife. He talks to her and emails her more than he talks to me and when he says he is going to thier house he says her name not her husbands who he knew ...
A. 11 March 2008: Anyone here telling you they are having an affair would just be guessing. The fact that they are as open about it as they are would lead me to believe they are just very close friends. Could that get out of control someday, perhaps but that would ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to choke me during sex.
Q. My boyfriend likes to choke me during sex. I told my female friend this and she said "thats hot" Is this normal? Why do people like this?...
A. 11 March 2008: Whats normal to one person is not always normal to another. If you like it keep doing it but be careful I have heard of this getting out of control and going too far which could result in permanent damage or death. If you get a chance watch the ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him to keep his comments to himself without being nasty?
Q. I get along with my new boyfriend ok but he is not religious. He says there is no point and that I have no freedom. This upsets me that he has no faith but I try to ignore the comments. He believes we came from monkeys I do not. He believes in stem ...
A. 11 March 2008: You say you get along ok but obviously you don't. The fact that he has his beliefs and you have yours is not the basis for a breakup. However, the fact that he ridicules you for yours is. This is an issue of respect. Many couples live together quite ... (read in full...)
I can't help but feel bad that I broke up with my ex fiance.
Q. I can't help but feel bad that I broke up with my ex fiance. I don't ever want to be with him again because he was emotionally abusive, but the part I can't seem to forgive myself for is that I knew he wasn't a Christian from the beginning and that ...
A. 11 March 2008: You seem to be a very confused person. Why you would feel bad about breaking up with someone who didn't repsect you and abused you is bizarre. Anyone, male or female who physically or mentally abuses their mate is an asshole and should be dumped ... (read in full...)
Why does he smell his fingers???
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and we have had sex. I have given oral but not received it, which was more of my choice because of me being worried about smelling bad (even though I don't think I do). Lately, I've noticed that after ...
A. 11 March 2008: Its called the sniff test, he is doing exactly what you think he is doing. regarding smelling bad, like everything else, everybody has an opinion. regardles of what you mave have heard everyone has a scent and I don't mean that in a bad way. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have doubts before your wedding? Did you...?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 7 years. we are getting married in less than 3 months and I am having doubts. I have been with him since i was 17 and hardly had any other relationships before. i just don't feel attracted anymore although i do ...
A. 11 March 2008: The fact that you are having doubt I believe is normal. However, your statement regarding not being attracted to him are certainly concerning. Since you have been with him for so long you would naturally have strong feelings for him and his family ... (read in full...)
I love my friend but her husband is dying so it would be the most inadequate moment to confess my lesbian feelings now. How can I control myself?
Q. I'm not really sure if this is a question, i just need some advice on what i should do. I'd appreciate your input. I'm a lesbian it's something I've never hidden about my self, i'm feminine and a flirt and some times it gets misconstrued. I'...
A. 11 March 2008: It's too bad that so many people are so judgemental. To me I don't really understand gay life but I do appreciate that everyone has the right to feel as they do. As I read your posting it didn't appear to me as though you were looking for ... (read in full...)
What to do to my body to make the first time special? Paint my toenails? Shave my pubic area?...
Q. Just a question. Planning on sleeping with a guy this weekend and am wondering if theres anything I can do ot my body to make it extra nice? Should I shave my pubic area? Paint my toenails? Wear perfume? Scented body mosturiser?...
A. 11 March 2008: Just by your asking I suspect you will do everything right, it appears you already know how to pretty up. I suggest you go easy on the purfume and very easy on the body lotions. As far as shaving, thats a personal choice. I like it that way but ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner I slept with his mate when we were broken up?
Q. Hi, i am a 8 month old pregnant female and with my partner for 3 years now.We have been on and off in the three years.But i have really hurt him throughout the three years.And it is all coming back to me now.Firstly,we got together while i was wait...
A. 11 March 2008: Slow done lady. It's so easy for people to judge one another isn't it. Did you make mistakes, perhaps but if you had separated from your current partner I would suspect he would imagine you may have had another relationship while you were apart. The ... (read in full...)
Do you think we'll ever get it together?
Q. I met a guy after splitting with a long term ex we had fun but I didn't want a relationship. Anyway we stayed friends time went on and I was ready for a relationship, trouble was he had met someone by this time. We stayed friends and then...
A. 10 March 2008: Think about it you slept with him while he was still seeing another. The worst part is that you kept doing it even though he didn't commit. You made it easy for him to have his cake and eat it. Besides that I think you aren't sharing all your ... (read in full...)
When my bf goes away I cry and worry for a few days...any advice how I can cope??
Q. I just need some advice really. I have been with my bf almost 2 years We love each other loads He is in the army and travels a lot. The travelling has become more and more over the last 6 months The time he is away can vary from 2 months to 2 wee...
A. 10 March 2008: Life is full of choices. You have the choice of thinking about the great times you have together as well as your future together or thinking in the negative. You are lucky, he is only gone for a couple months at a time. During my time the tours ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my ex?
Q. hi every1 i need help im really feeling down about my life i have 3 children 2 with an ex that hasnt bothered to see his children in 9yrs that was not nice for me or my children found that hard to cope with. he was violent to me but never wanted him ...
A. 9 March 2008: All relationships need to be built on trust and respect. Do you really believe he respects you? I think you need to have a serious heart to heart conversation with him and tell hin exactly how you feel and what you expect oput of the relationship. ... (read in full...)
My mum won't be there for my baby's birth. Am I over reacting?
Q. I am having a scheduled c-section next FRI. because the baby is breech. My mom is not going to go. She said that she will just come by after work, she works in the same area as where the hospital is. But I am having the surgery at 10 a.m. and she ...
A. 9 March 2008: You didn't mention the babies father but I will assume he will be there. The point is you can not in any way control what someone else does. You appear to be a bright person and of course under the circumstances somewhat emotional. I do not suggest ... (read in full...)
I really like him and the thought of losing contact with him really upsets me.
Q. hi, I have dated a guy for 3 weeks which ended over a month ago, but i still can't get over him. the sex was amazing and we communicate really well. we still talk and sleep together but he says i'm not what he is looking for in a girl friend and ...
A. 9 March 2008: Unless your in it for the physical relationship move on. He has been honest with you and told you that you are not what he is looking for in a girl friend so clearly its all about sex. I don't understand why your feelings are hurt, he told you the ... (read in full...)
I'm dating but kissed another guy and now I feel terrible about it. Should I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Hello, I have been going out with my boyfriend for about three weeks now. We go to the same university and as it is the Easter holidays he went home a few days ago. I’ve not gone home yet and last night I went out with one of my friends because she ...
A. 9 March 2008: Drop it. He doesn't need to know every minor detail and yes it is minor. The fact that you let yourself get drunk would be of greater concern. That part I don't understand. You said you went out with a friend who was really upset and needed to be ... (read in full...)
Does she love to hate me or does she really care?
Q. Hello all. Just needed a little advice about my ex. We were together a year and had some right ups and downs mainly because of her moods, which in turn made me moody. It wasn't very conventional as she is very independent and a little selfish, as am ...
A. 9 March 2008: You would have to be totally out of you mind to start this relationship back up. Do you both have feelings for each other, I would guess from what you wrote yes. But what those feelings are is probably the remnants of what little good may have ... (read in full...)
My BF always hugs his girl friends and this makes me utterly jealous!
Q. I Love My Boyfriend Sooo Much. But It Just Kills Me When He Hugs All His Other friends!! We are soooo close, we were always best friends before we went out. Everyone Thought he was Gay before we started going out, and all his other friends ar...
A. 9 March 2008: Hugging other people means nothing if he is loyal to you. The question is loyalty. Sleeping over at another girls house is reason for concern and I seriously doubt he would want you sleeping over another guys house for three days. I am assuming ... (read in full...)
What do you think about this??
Q. This is my situation. I have already made up my mind of divorcing my husband right after you see what I am going through. My husband came out the 1st week of January 2008 and told me that he loves me to death as the mother of his kids but not ...
A. 9 March 2008: There really isn't anything to think about. He appears to no longer have the same feelings for you and as sad as that mey be it is life. You will be fine without him. The statements you make about him being selfish appear to be more out of ... (read in full...)
This relation bores me to tears but I'm terrified of moving on and being on my own again!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for four years now and feel that I'm stuck in huge rut and am finding it difficult to leave him. I've reached the stage that having sex with him is a chore and I don't really want to spend time with him. We are toge...
A. 9 March 2008: I suggest you politely tell him how you feel and move on. From the sounds of it you will be doing him a favor. Think about it, you said he had been your "rock through troubled times" and yet you have never had the decency to share your feelings long ... (read in full...)
Do I continue dating the new man or get back with the ex - who unpredictably announced he is returning from abroad.
Q. My bf moved to another country and told me he wasn't coming back, we kept in touch by emailing each other. It took me ages to move on but eventually I did and i met this guy who's amazing. We've spent time together and the other day he kissed me. I ...
A. 8 March 2008: Move on. he left you with out any concern for your feelings and I wouldn't be surprised if he would do it again. naturally I am assuming he didn't ask you to go with him. If he did and you refused then the circumstances of course are different. ... (read in full...)
Why did he email and call me after our date and then ignored me?
Q. I met J through a centralized network of online communities. Last Sunday, we had a great date, three hours long talking over drinks. I emailed the next day to say thank you for drinks and that I had a very nice time. He replied that evening tha...
A. 8 March 2008: It sounds like you two had a connection but not as strong as you feel. When it comes to being attracted to someone I don't think there is that much difference between men and women. If it is strong we all do what we have to do to move along. I ... (read in full...)
If he missed me that much then why am I bottom of his priority list? Am I being unfair?
Q. Hi there, Really need some help. It was finished with me and my boyfriend for two weeks. We met for lunch today and decided that we missed each other and wanted to give it another go. One problem though i asked him did he want to meet up tonight ...
A. 8 March 2008: His going to the cristening is the right thing to do. However, I fail to see any reason why you could not have gone also. Unless of course there was more to the break up than you have shared. Regarding his parents I find it hard to believe they ... (read in full...)
My live-in partner has cybersex and watches porn. I want to leave but he always convinces me to give him another chance!
Q. I've been dealing with this problem for almost a year now... First of all, I'm 23, and my boyfriend is 42. We met 4 1/2 years ago, when he was still married, and stupid me, I was his "mistress" for a little while until he was busted and got ...
A. 8 March 2008: Being his mistress has nothing to do with the real problem. Lots of people have relationship outside the marriage and wind up in new ones that are long and lasting every situation is different. By bringing that up you only cloud the real issue and ... (read in full...)
If a boy does not answer a text promptly, does it mean he is not very interested in the sender?
Q. This is a question for the guys to naswer. See when you like a girl and she sends you a text message, how long does it take you to answer? Do you answer straight away or do you leave it a day or so? If you leave it a while does that mean you're ...
A. 8 March 2008: It all depends on the relationship. I think text messages are great and I answer mine as quickly as I can especially if I like the sender. Waiting days to respond makes no sense to me at all. Remember, sometimes text messages don't come through ... (read in full...)
I appear to be the one making all the sacrifices, is this relation worth it?
Q. I met this 37 years old guy who is single,i am a lady of 26 years and single too,the problem is that the guy appears to be too busy with his work so leaving us little or no time to spend together.The guy is also broke,while i have a good job and i ...
A. 8 March 2008: If he is 37 and broke I can understand why he might be working so hard. Its not easy to get ahead in this world and the pressure sometimes is brutal. However, if your the one having to call all the time that is an issue. And if he is working so many ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my ex's best friend?
Q. I went out with a guy for 2 months and during that time he introduced me to his best friend. After we broke up his best friend confessed to having strong feelings for me. So now i'm stuck i dont know what to do. Is it wrong to go out with him beca...
A. 8 March 2008: Do whatever makes you feel good. keep in mind there may be others in your group of friends that might not like it or might feel uncomfortable.... (read in full...)
I can't open up to my bf, how can I explain my barriers to him?
Q. Hey everyone. Ok I have a question..lol. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months now. And still havent opened up to him.. We have kinda talked about this and I have tryed to explain to him that it's not easy for me to open up.. I have...
A. 8 March 2008: Your young and so is the relationship. I don't know what exactly he wants to know or what you think your holding back but it really doesn't matter. When and if you truly fall in love with person and truly trust him you will share what you feel like ... (read in full...)
My gf watches too much porn, it has not affected our sex life but I do feel somewhat insecure!
Q. This is probably an unusual question but I need help with it so please bear with me I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years, and this has been a problem for about the last 2 and a half, we cannot seem to resolve it. She watches way too ...
A. 8 March 2008: Drop it. Why would you care about what she watches if she is loyal to you. That's the real question. If she is then let her have her fun. if she were communicating with these people or meeting with them then you definitly have issues. sounds like ... (read in full...)
Can one be in love with two people at the same time, as my gf claims? What should I do?
Q. hi i've been dating my girlfriend for six weeks, we met on the internet, we both got on really well, and love each other, we were talking about honesty and trusting each other being a big thing in an relationship, she told me by text the next day ...
A. 8 March 2008: Of course someone can love two people but not in a romantic way. She obviously is confused or very selfish. She may even be playing you two against each other for some personal benefit such as money. What ever her reason is you have a problem and ... (read in full...)
My husband has a very controlling nature and the past year has got worse...
Q. I have been married over ten years and my relationship is in tatters, my husband has a very controlling nature and the past year has got worse, the physical abuse has stopped but the emotional abuse is just as draining, will he ever change and is it ...
A. 8 March 2008: To begin with a man should never hit a woman. Regarding verbal abuse, other than the visable scars from physical abuse there really isn't much difference. Actually most bruses go away after a short time but emotional abuse typically lasts a long ... (read in full...)
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