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Harbbey3000
writes:I met this 37 years old guy who is single,i am a lady of 26 years and single too,the problem is that the guy appears to be too busy with his work so leaving us little or no time to spend together.The guy is also broke,while i have a good job and i do most of the calling,he says he loves me and wants to have kids with me but he can't afford marriage yet.Is this a normal relationship because i appear to be the one making all the sacrifices Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 I would first find out how what the financial situation really is and then go from there. Tell him you are considering leaving because you are not getting what you need and see what he says.
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reader, Harbbey3000 +, writes (10 March 2008):
Harbbey3000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx oldersister,i just need him 2 pay more attention,how do i acheive this?
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (9 March 2008):
What didn't help about the answers you got? Is there new information or something?
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reader, Harbbey3000 +, writes (9 March 2008):
Harbbey3000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI need answers pls help me
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reader, Harbbey3000 +, writes (9 March 2008):
Harbbey3000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell am not even sure he loves me,wat are the signs to watch out for in a man who luvs his girl.i need to know
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reader, Paladin +, writes (8 March 2008):
 If he is 37 and broke I can understand why he might be working so hard. Its not easy to get ahead in this world and the pressure sometimes is brutal. However, if your the one having to call all the time that is an issue. And if he is working so many hours that he has no time for you I have a hard time understanding why he is so broke. It almost soulds like there may be someone else in his life. The fact is you two are in the courtship phase of the relationship, if it isn't working now I doubt it ever will.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (8 March 2008):
It depends on what you mean by "sacrifices". I mean, if he is truly working very hard to build a financial future to get out of debt and so he can provide for you, then he would be making the "sacrifices" and you would just not be "getting what you want". If what you say is indeed accurate, you sound pretty demanding. It's a no win because if he stopped working so hard and met your demands now, you could then say "I'm the one making all the sacrifices, he's always broke!".
Maybe if you guys sat down, figured out the finances and how much you needed and how long it would take, etc...
You'll understand a bit more where he's coming from.
However, some guys can say "I'm not financially where I want to be" perpetually to avoid a commitment with you although they won't tell you that outright.
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