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*lusivebreath
writes:My gf and I have been together for 7 years, and our sex life has been a problem for me most of that time. When we met, we were both very sexual people, which was one of the things I was attracted to about her. Over the years she has taken antidepressants and had an alcohol problem which has taken a huge toll on our sex life. I have talked to her about this a lot, but nothing changes. Any advice??
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reader, don't take his shit 1  +, writes (2 March 2009):
Seems to me that your girlfriend's problem may be you !
Have you stopped to ask yourself why she is depressed and has turned to drink for some solace ?
As far as i can read from your words,all you are concerned ab out is why she's not responding to you sexualy .It's all about ME ME ME ! Try and help her out of her depression,rather than concern yourself with your own libido.
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (22 February 2009):
 I'm glad she's not still drinking. Antidepressants can have a negative effect on the sex drive.
I'm a little concerned about pushing hard with someone who may still be fragile, but I really think that this needs to be discussed between you and her. If you've talked to her about it with no effect, I'd say the next step is insisting that you and her seek either medical or counseling help for the sex issues between you.
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reader, elusivebreath +, writes (21 February 2009):
elusivebreath is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess I should clarify that the alcohol problem is in the past, she has been sober 2 years. I thought that by now things would be back to normal, but she does still take the prozac, and in all honesty does not seem to want to address this problem except to say that it makes her feel bad and embarassed.
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reader, elusivebreath +, writes (21 February 2009):
elusivebreath is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess I should clarify that the alcohol problem is in the past, she has been sober 2 years. I thought that by now things would be back to normal, but she does still take the prozac, and in all honesty does not seem to want to address this problem except to say that it makes her feel bad and embarassed.
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (20 February 2009):
I suggest you attend Al-anon meetings in order to learn how to live with alcoholism. Alcoholics put their drinking ahead of anything else, so I think you'll have a tough time convincing your girlfriend to give up her drinking for the sake of your sex life. It sounds like you've already asked her to do something about it, with no results.
At Al-anon, you will meet people who have been there, done that, and their experiences can be very valuable.
I'm very sorry to say it, but I think if the problem is alcohol, it goes way beyond just your sex life.
Good luck!
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