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I can't be naked and comfortable around my girlfriend!

Q.   My gf and I both have problems with our sex life. She has vaginismus and self esteem/image problems and i have had no experience and am embarassed about my self in terms of ability and self image. We sat down and discussed yesterday our problems ...

A.   20 September 2009: The best thing here is to talk about it, talking doesnt have to be whining. She has issues herself so she should understand. Listen to the doctor when he says everyone is different, i know its repetative but it really is true. Start beleiving it and ... (read in full...)

Where's he getting all these ideas from?

Q.   My boyfriend is away and he sends me scenarios sometimes of sex because we're apart and it's to help us and sometimes his stories have a reality to them that he can't make up, but that we have never experienced together. But he was a virgin and lost ...

A.   20 September 2009: Its easy to jump to conclusions when your boyfreind is away and your missing him. I can see what you mean with his inexperience and all these scenarios, but maybe he could have watched porn since hes been away? or freinds have said to him about ... (read in full...)

Best friend and I messing around but now he's also seeing alot of girls!

Q.   I'm 19yrs old my best friend and I have known each other for about 2years. I enjoy being around him, we have hold hands and told each other I Love You before. A while back we were both under the influence and he spend the night at my house. I slept ...

A.   20 September 2009: Hi The best thing always is to talk. You have been freinds for years so just find out what he wants. Though of course it will could be awquard. Maybe your freind was just going through a phase and just wanted to try it? a lot of us have been vic... (read in full...)

My gay ex-boss wants to watch a movie together before the re-hire...

Q.   I have an ex-boss who is considering hiring me again. He is gay and kinda tries to hang out all the time. He suggested he is renting a movie and we should watch it at my place before we get into the job thing. I'm scared but I need this job and ...

A.   13 September 2009: Jobs are important, but so are morals. Its not worth degrading yourself just to get a job. what are you going to do when you gota work with this guy every day? though saying that if he does try anything on at work then you do have rights, and i ... (read in full...)

I want to have a Gay relationship with my cousin. Is this ok?

Q.   Hai,I have a cousin,just call him kel,he's 21 and he is gay. Recently, he called me, telling me he liked me, and asking me, whether I want to be with him or not, I do admit I like him too,and I want to accept him, but the problem is, we are cousins. ...

A.   9 September 2009: Since its a gay relationship you wont be having children together, and thats the only risk with cousins together. I say if you both like each other then go for it. nothing to be ashamed of at all. I expect you never thought you would end up feeli... (read in full...)

My girlfriend no longer gives oral, how should I talk to her about it?

Q.   Hi Ive been with my GF for just over a year now, theres talk of engagement, moving in together short its a serious relationship. We get on fab and when together the time flies by. But as far as intimacy goes things have gone downhil...

A.   9 September 2009: Theres nothing wrong with wanting oral sex, especaily if your still giving it to her. no one on here can say how you should ask her, as you know her better than anyone you know what she will be offended by. If you dont ask her, it will always be ... (read in full...)

I saw my ex kissing someone else and it's hurting me like hell...

Q.   Hi, I'm Marco, this is what happened to me. This saturday I found my ex in a bar, I said hi to him and he said hi to me with an attitude, I was with my best friend and my ex hates him, I really don't know why, when we were dancing he was even ...

A.   9 September 2009: Sometimes we never stop loving our ex. Theres one ex i think that ive never stoped loving, even though it was 3 years ago and i have a long term boyfreind now!who i love very much. I think the message im trying to get across is that just because ... (read in full...)

Married & bored, wife will only do 2 things!

Q.   im married. and my sex life is boring. am and my wife are young(under 25). and she doesnt want to try new things. i told her its boring time and time again. i say lets go to the sex store and look for something new. hey turn this was lets try this ...

A.   4 September 2009: I guess it all comes down to that saying that you cant have it all. Sex is different for so many people. Some girls might only like it on their back, so i guess thats the worst case senario. Its obvious that you love your wife, otherwise you woul... (read in full...)

Why doesn't she tell me she loves me anymore?

Q.   My girlfriend won't tell me she loves me anymore. It's just bothering me because she used to tell me she loved me but now she just won't and I don't know why. We've only been dating 6 months and she's only 14 and I'm only 16 but I just don't know ...

A.   3 September 2009: hi there The thing is with saying 'i love you' is that if you say it all the time it becomes meaningless. When you truly do love someone there is no need to say it all the time, as your partner knows you love her, though of course still say it s... (read in full...)

I need my family but they aren't there for me now they know I'm gay

Q.   Hi everybody, my name is John, I'm gay and I think I have a problem, I am very emotional and sensitive, this is bringing me a lot of problems now, right at this moment my life is so messed up, first my boyfriend broke up with me, second my family ...

A.   2 September 2009: It is true, this is a very common problem. I was one of the lucky ones you could say. My entire family and all my freinds never had a problem, infact, sinve i came out years ago they like me more! this is because i can now be myself, talk openly ... (read in full...)

No sex on our anniversary! Is he cheating or tired of me?

Q.   it's my anniversary and my husband never thought of having sex with me. i wonder if he's cheating on me. we have sex maybe once a week or often longer. he's a truck driveer, we argued most of the day while he was warking. he came home a hour or so ...

A.   2 September 2009: I honestly think that you have nothing to worry about. Of course it would be great to have sex on your aniversary to celebrate such a special day. But it simply could have been a case of being over tierd, not feeling 100%, and if you had argued, ... (read in full...)

He won't give me an orgasm because my semen smells too strongly

Q.   Hi. I'm a 22-year-old gay guy, and I have an extremely difficult decision to make. My partner and I are on the verge of breaking up. The reason for our break-up has to do with our sex life. For the two-and-a-half years we've been together, my ...

A.   1 September 2009: Hi. Theres not much more i can say that has not been saod by these people (whose advice is really good) I think i can realate to you in a way, as i think i can be what is called a selfish lover. I always have to be the first to orgasm. Its the ... (read in full...)

My brother caught me masturbating, what to do about it?

Q.   I was watching a quiet porn video on my laptop while masturbating on my bed with my hands down my pants (all clothes were still on). I knew that my brother would be coming home soon, but i still left my bedroom door open. When i heard him come home, ...

A.   31 August 2009: The Itching sounds like the best thing, there is nothing to be ashamed of about masterbating, but you still dont want your parents to know. Though if nothing is said just pretend he never saw a thing. O, and its fine to masterbate at yo... (read in full...)

How often does it happen where a man can't get it up?

Q.   Can I get the opinions of guys out there - how often do you have problems with not being able to "get it up"? The other night a guy I have just started dating and I tried to have sex for the first time. He's about 27. We were both very comfortable...

A.   31 August 2009: It really is not you! dont worry. Its all down to nerves and things like pressure to perform well. Its often the case that the more attractive a girl is the more likely it is to happen! I expect it is simply that he thinks your so great and attr... (read in full...)

When is the honeymoon stage of a new relationship over?

Q.   A little over a year ago, I began a relationship with a great guy. He and I hit it off so well. We did several different activites together that we shared in common and best of all had an intense sex life. It didn't take long for us to ...

A.   30 August 2009: I would relly say that its just the honeymoon period ending. Sex always goes downhill eventually, and a guy of 40 has less sex than a guy of 20. The bit which really stood out was the lack of romantic things he does anymore. romance is linked t... (read in full...)

Our first attempt at sex was difficult...but is she still a virgin now or not?

Q.   Hello everyone I'm 21 and my girlfriend is going to turn 18 soon, we have been together for about 8 months now, I've never met such a wonderful girl that is open to talk about anything, yesterday we decided to "try" as we are both virgins, We ...

A.   30 August 2009: You are both no longer Virgins. Just because there was no orgasm doesnt mean it wasnt sex. What rock n roll says is true, though as its your first time and you were both Virgins another reason could simply just be nerves getting the better of yo... (read in full...)

My best friend has been spreading lies about me, and now I feel very alone

Q.   I feel very alone. I had a falling out with a best friend as she betrayed me. Now, she has turned almost everyone against me by spreading lies and rumors that paint me in a very bad light, all of which are completely untrue. I have not stooped to ...

A.   30 August 2009: Its always sad to loose such a good freind that you have confided so much in. But i want to tell you the positives here. You say you have four good friends, some people find it hard to name so many good freinds. Unlike school, life is not a po... (read in full...)

I lied about losing my virginity to a girl I met over the Internet, and when we meet she wants to have sex with me! What should I do?

Q.   So I am dating this girl that i met online...yes i know a long distance relationship blah blah blah. She told me she has a sexual past and just so she wouldn't think I was a loser I told her I wasn't a virgin. I really love her and we have been ...

A.   29 August 2009: The thing that never seems to be considered about virginity is that for most girls its actually a good thing! It means that your clean, with no sexual diseases and your not sleeping around etc, its like having a good reputation almost. It can be an ... (read in full...)

Will age decide for me?

Q.   i am 16 years old and i am curently in a relationship with a 23 year old. most of my friends tell me to leav him becouse of the age differance, but him and i get along very well, our relationship isnt sexual but becouse of his age we bouth runn risk ...

A.   29 August 2009: If you are doing nothing sexual then there is no reason to worry about the law. The older people are the less of a problem the age is, if you were 22 he would be 29 and there is nothing wrong with that. It only seems like a big gap as you are 16. ... (read in full...)

I'm ok with gays but feel confused

Q.   I used to find girls attractive or at least pretty, now they just dont do it for me ...I'm completely besotted with attractive guys. I can no longer get an errection over a woman, I recognise they are pretty but ...when it comes to guys, I'm hard ...

A.   28 August 2009: I think most gay people have this experience all the time, but that doesnt mean that you are gay. Maybee bisexual, maybee strait and just confused. No one can difine what sexuality you are over the computer, so dont let them. If your liking guys ... (read in full...)

Broken up as he didnt love me, but he still wants to have sex with me

Q.   Hi I am gay my boyfriend has just broken up with me 3 weeks ago. He says he wasnt in love with me as he lost the spark for me but said he still found me amazing in bed so the sex has not stopped. We continue to have sex when we meet. I am trying ...

A.   28 August 2009: This boy of yours is having the best of both worlds here. Just remember your dignity. People can take your heart, your money, your hopes and dreams and much more, but they cant take away your morals. Find someone new who you can be in a relationship ... (read in full...)

Broken up as he didnt love me, but he still wants to have sex with me

Q.   Hi I am gay my boyfriend has just broken up with me 3 weeks ago. He says he wasnt in love with me as he lost the spark for me but said he still found me amazing in bed so the sex has not stopped. We continue to have sex when we meet. I am trying ...

A.   28 August 2009: This boy of yours is having the best of both worlds here. Just remember your dignity. People can take your heart, your money, your hopes and dreams and much more, but they cant take away your morals. Find someone new who you can be in a relationship ... (read in full...)

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