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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I feel very alone. I had a falling out with a best friend as she betrayed me. Now, she has turned almost everyone against me by spreading lies and rumors that paint me in a very bad light, all of which are completely untrue. I have not stooped to her level by spreading rumors about her, but everyone else seems to believe her over me which deeply upsets me. Sometimes I feel I should just be as manipulative as she is but i'm not that kind of person. I find it so unfair and im so sick of all my friends who try to play two sides, but are really more friends with her than they are with me. No one seems to want to stand up for me because they would rather be in the majority group, which is hers. I have a boyfriend and about four close friends I can truly count on, and i'm so grateful for them. A lot of time, i'm so upset because of the many OTHER friends who have chosen to believe her instead of me, when i have been friends with them for longer, and have always been the supportive listener and 'nice girl'.I don't know what to do because they seem to enjoy putting me down and I can't seem to escape them from school. They make me realise how I wasted my high school years being friends with ppl who don't give a shit about me and would drop me in a second to protect their own status or friendship with the girl who spread all these lies about me in the first place. It makes me feel that there is no point in being a nice person. you just end up getting used and walked over.
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reader, Mikes  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 Its always sad to loose such a good freind that you have confided so much in. But i want to tell you the positives here. You say you have four good friends, some people find it hard to name so many good freinds. Unlike school, life is not a poularity contest. As you get older, have a job, children, partner, you will never have time for so many freinds.The fact you have Four good friends is amazing, four people who GENUINLY like to be around you, not see you as friend number 123. Even just One good friend would be great, so hold on in there, as you dont need this girl or your petty old so called friends. Your better without themTake care
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reader, MissesConfused  +, writes (30 August 2009):
Karma is going to get your so-called friends eventually, so don't worry about that. Just keep taking the higher road, and know that your real friends are always going to be there for you when you need them. Know what you have, and don't take it for granted. Besides, all those rumors won't matter once you graduate and get away from those people. After that, silly, untrue rumors won't do anybody some good.If this one friend you have is going to resort to childish rumors, she obviously isn't worth your time and consideration. Pay her no mind, because you know what the truth is. Don't lose yourself just because she is dinky loserface with zombies to back her up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): Just show them that your willing to walk away from them to meet new people if the need be. If they are and want to be your friends, they will offer you respect because they will not want to lose your friendship. If not, do exactly what i stated above, stick two fingers up at them and walk away.
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