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Should I have disregarded my friends and family's advice on dumping my BF?
Q. I always thought that my relationship with my man was a bad one because it wasn't perfect. Since then I've looked at other people's relationships of people my age, and I've realised that every relationship has it's faults. My man lied and exadurat...
A. 14 November 2006: He doesn't deserve you, and given that you put him first in the relationship and forgot about your own needs and wants tells me that your self-esteem is low when it comes to men and relationships. He broke-up with you not out of guilt, but because ... (read in full...)
We are both virgins but I just get so nervous whenever he touches me!
Q. I'm 21 and have never had sex or done anything that relates to sex. Ive recently started seeing a boy whos a bit younger than me and is also a virgin. I'm a very shy person and whenever my boyfriend touches me or asks me to touch him i freeze and ...
A. 14 November 2006: Maybe you're not ready right now. Take things slow. Start with light touching and move on to more foreplay... be sure you're absolutely ready before having sex. You only get 1 first time. If you're uncomfortable with things, then tell him to slow ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and in a ld relationship with a 15 year old girl - and her mom is trying to split us up!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a month and a half now. We live about 200 miles apart, and I try to go see her once a month. I'm 19 and she's 15 and I love this girl to death! We were friends long before we started dating. However, her ...
A. 14 November 2006: Thanks for the update on the law... I mean... if you really like her, then that's fine. I understand that age doesn't matter, but 15 and 19... I dunno. You should be concentrating on college/work, etc. But I do believe in true love... and why not ... (read in full...)
Am I selfish for wanting her to give me some attention and time?
Q. I need help from females! My girlfriend and I have a good relationship and I trust her, without doubt. And this isn't about trust. Rather, lately, she is so busy I don't see her more than 2 or 3 times a week. She is 26 and in school 2 nights a week, ...
A. 14 November 2006: Apparently, she thinks you're a push-over! Any ideas as to how she came to that conclusion? Think of your behavior... how are you allowing her to take you for granted? And in what ways? How are you contributing to this situation? Now, trust me, I'm ... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend but I'm scared of sexual stuff! What do I do?
Q. i really want a boyfriend. ive had 1 about 3months ago otta skool and we did do stuff. even tho there are some people that like me im scared to go out with them because they are in skool and im scared about the sexual stuff but i dont know y. i talk ...
A. 14 November 2006: I was like that at one point, but you shouldn't be scared. Sexual contact with a man may be scarey at first, which is why you need to look for a nice guy who respects you. Be honest with your guy about what scares (regarding sexual contact) and take ... (read in full...)
My bf is starting to ignore me - how can I make him happier in the relationship?
Q. my relationship with my bf is pretty good actually but i want to make him happier because i feel like im not , but i'm pretty shy and i don't know how to go about this . besides this, earlier today i said heyy to him (online) and he just wen...
A. 14 November 2006: Simple solution: STOP CONTACTING HIM! Your bf is being disrespectful- I get that! And he probably needs some space- okay. So, before jumping to any conclusions, just stop contacting him... wait for him to contact you. If this goes on for a little ... (read in full...)
He has stopped talking to me for weeks! I don't know where this is going - please help!
Q. hi, i dont know if i can call him my bf or my ex, okay this is how it goes, my bf and i we have been seeing each other for 3 months now, but more than a month ago my bf started distanting himself from me, before i knew he told me how devastat...
A. 14 November 2006: Honey, I'm sorry to be so blunt, but he has issues that he needs to deal with, and he's definitely not reaching out to you for support. In fact, he's making it clear that he's no longer interested in you. That doesn't meant that you've done ... (read in full...)
I can't tell if we're together out of habit or love! Help please?
Q. I have been seeing my girlfriend for about 4 years. I'm 26 and shes 22. We have just returned from travelling for a year in OZ. We had a great time but had quite alot of serious arguments and my girlfriend actually admitted that she thought we would ...
A. 14 November 2006: If you don't see yourself marrying her, then end it. What's the point of being in a relationship that's going no where? Elect to be friends, give it several months (w/o talking) and then start communicating again (that's if she's willing to be ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if someone is in a rebound relationship?
Q. are there any clues you can visibly depict that someone is in a rebound relationship if that person broke of the previous relationship to perhaps feel more loved or get someone new?...
A. 14 November 2006: If you're with someone who has just gotten out of a relationship, then yes, you're the rebound guy. Some men enjoy this status and others don't, especially if they begin to fall for the other person. So, ask whoever it is you're seeing if she's over ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and in a ld relationship with a 15 year old girl - and her mom is trying to split us up!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a month and a half now. We live about 200 miles apart, and I try to go see her once a month. I'm 19 and she's 15 and I love this girl to death! We were friends long before we started dating. However, her ...
A. 14 November 2006: I'm sure your gf is keeping her distance because of her parents. So, don't be discouraged. However, you are 19 and she's 15, and that's cause for concern with any parent. Think about the day when you have children- a little girl- who grows into a ... (read in full...)
How do you move on in another try at the same relationship?
Q. If you have a long term relationship, break up, then get back together again later how should you go about it? Do you pick up where you left off or start again? Is your previous relationship with oneanother likely to get in the way of your new one?...
A. 14 November 2006: Talk, talk, talk. You need to discuss what went wrong in the first place and how the two of you will avoid those mistakes again. It's all about communicating. Good Luck! ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed and taking it out on my bf! Please help!!
Q. I feel bad i have been depressed about other things and i take it out on my boyfriend sort of. Has anyone ever masturbated while thinking of a step dad or family member? I am 17 and i did that 1 or 2 years ago. I just started being depressed about ...
A. 14 November 2006: Seek therapy. Your bf is not your shrink. You need to take control of your life. Were you molested as a child? Good Luck! ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and he's 26. My friends at uni know about us, but I haven't told people back at home! I don't think they'd approve. Advice?
Q. Im a 18yr olg girl n im goin out with a 26yr old man, weve been 2gether for 4months now n were very happy n very much in love with each otha. Im at uni n he works full time so we only see each other at the weekends, which we are both ok with for the ...
A. 14 November 2006: 1st- age doesn't matter, but given that your bf is 26, I'd question his motives. 2nd- After 4 months, the two of you are in lust not love. Love is an enduring feeling. For instance, if he got into a car accident tomorrow and lost his legs, would you ... (read in full...)
It hurts to masturbate - any tips?
Q. hi i would like to try to masturbate but every time i try it really hurts and im not sure why, i would really like to try it, all my mates have and they said it felt great and that i should try. i tried to slip my finger into my vagina and it re...
A. 14 November 2006: If you're a virgin, then slipping your finger inside your vagina might be a little painful. You don't have to go that far. You can always stimulate your clitoris with your fingers, for insatnce, and concentrate on some fantasy. Also, you might want ... (read in full...)
Why is love such a difficult thing? Bf and I are drifting apart...any advice?
Q. why is love such a difficult thing? i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2yrs and with me away at college its getting harder for us to stay together. we are in love and we both agreed that we where going to get married when i graduate in a ...
A. 14 November 2006: You two should either get married now and live in the same area or give the relationship a break... and see what happens in two years. Being away at school is difficult. You don't get to see him that often and he doesn't get to see you... The first ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and want to know if it'll hurt!
Q. hii im 17 and i have never been fingerd so i was woundring will it hurt? and will the guy know i havnt been fingerd b4? any advice? :D x...
A. 14 November 2006: It may hurt if you don't relax. Relax your pelvic muscles/ take deep breaths... you'll be fine. If you need him to slow down or take his time, then just tell him. Trust me, you'll be fine... and the discomfort you feel will go away in seconds. No ... (read in full...)
We are friends but had sex last weekend! Can our friendship survive this?
Q. i have been friends with a boy for two years last weekend we got drunk i ended up stayin at his house and we had sex. can our relationship go back to the way it was?...
A. 14 November 2006: I think you two should discuss the situation and then continue being friends, if that's what you both want. However, if you both want something more, then discuss your feelings for one another. It'll all work out! Good Luck! ... (read in full...)
Does she or doesn't she? She has me confused!
Q. I am infatuated with a woman I work with. We have kissed and cuddled but in a non sexual way. Neither of us are free. We have both agreed that casual sex would not be appropriate. The other day she arrived at work wearing a top which was quite ...
A. 14 November 2006: What do you want? And after you figure that out, stick with your decision. If you want to end your current relationship and pursue this woman, then do so. She obviously likes you. However, if you feel she's a tease, then stay with your woman or look ... (read in full...)
What do I say and do during sex? Never had any experience with this yet...any tips?
Q. what am i sposed 2 do and say during sex!? i mean i know im hardly going to strike up a big convo lol but still im a virigin so i have never experiance so i am unsure! i am also 17 incase anyone wnated 2 know...x...
A. 14 November 2006: Just relax your pelvic muscles and try to enjoy the moment. I think you'll be concentrating more on the feeling of him being inside of you, than a topic for conversation. Just go with it... it'll come to you. But don't take sex too seriously, have ... (read in full...)
Bf told me I need to be tighter! I heard somethin about vineger.. but how?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been having sex and he has told me that im not tight at all.. Is there anyway to make it tighter for my boyfriend? I heard somethin about vineger.. but how? please help mee!!!...
A. 14 November 2006: Through plastic surgery, you can become tight again. I'm not sure what makes a woman really loose... too much sex/ kids? Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I feel he doesn't want me and it hurts so bad! How do you stop loving someone?
Q. Hello, I posted a while ago about my ex boyfriend who had ignored me at the end of the relationship which hurt me a lot. He got back in contact, and we have been seeing each other again for 4 months, but not regularly due to work/study commitme...
A. 14 November 2006: It is difficult to stop loving someone... but here's the kicker... you don't have to stop loving a man- you just have to move on. There are techniques and tips that I can give you to help you through this difficult time. I know exactly what you're ... (read in full...)
My bf didn't want to get tested for herpes and I feel he was being selfish! Am I right?
Q. Hi, I'd like some advice on my current situation. It took my boyfriend six months to get tested for herpes 2, and I'm really confused on what is going to happen after we hear the results. This is what happened: basically a few months ago he found a ...
A. 11 November 2006: He was being selfish!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and now he is her best friend!!
Q. This is my first time asking for help on one of these boards but I need some advice... Okay first a little back round I had known this girl for 7 years, We meet and REALLY hit it off sadely she had to go back to a far off place, Now fasfowar...
A. 11 November 2006: Leave her! She's playing you for a fool! Leave this woman! If she truly loved you, she wouldn't keep cheating on you. She knows that you're a good guy, who'll always be there for her, but you cannot allow her to use you in this way. Please take my ... (read in full...)
Is a missing condom a clear indication of someone cheating on you?
Q. Is a missing condom a clear indication of someone cheating on you? I'm a suspicious person, i admit. I try to find ways to make sure someone isnt cheating on me. My b/f says in the past he has gotten very tired of my behavior which i can see but ...
A. 11 November 2006: Not to sound harsh, but here goes nothing: Get a Life! By that, I mean stop wasting time snooping around your bf's place. If you can't trust him, then you shouldn't be with him. Trust me: A man will do what he wants to do, regardless of your ... (read in full...)
After an argument he ended it, then we got back together - and now he's acting funny! Help!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend now, on and off for 13 months, but recently things have been even worse. These past few days have been especially bad. We had a major argument two nights ago something insignificant and he just blew his top, and ended it ...
A. 11 November 2006: He wants what he wants when he wants it. Did that make sense? Your on and off again ex is yanking your chain. He is immature and doesn't know how to treat a woman in a relationship. But lets not put all the blame on him... you're co-signing his ... (read in full...)
A couple of months and hes gone cold ..why?
Q. I really like a guy I have been seeing for the last few months, a lot. Things were great until a couple of weeks ago. He has contacted me, but by text only and that was four days ago. He seems to not be so keen as he once was. I did bring up...
A. 11 November 2006: Do not call him. I've made the mistake of calling my ex, and although my ex and I are talking here and there, it's never a good idea. It's going to be hard not contacting him, but if a man is interested in you, he'll call. If he doesn't, then you ... (read in full...)
My fiancee is trying to meet people online! Should I be worried about this?
Q. My fiancee has tried to meet people online. he says it is only for fun and he would never actually go meet them but its sounds strange to me. Does that sound normal? i am the one and only person he has slept with and i have had muliple partners. ...
A. 11 November 2006: Your fiance is trying to meet women online! Come on... you're telling me that a grown man can't meet friends in the "real' world? The internet is a fantasy world, and if I were him, I'd be afraid of the freindships that I'd develop online, as people ... (read in full...)
He kissed a girl in a bar...and this is bothering me! Am I making too big of a deal out of this?
Q. ok, my boyfriend and i have been dating for five years, the past year has been really hard on both of us ( we have been living with my mother)... and i cant lie, ive thought about leaving and questioned my love for him numerous times, but everytime ...
A. 11 November 2006: He kissed a girl after the two of you broke-up, so you need to let that go. It happened, and it's over. You cannot change the past. In regards to the baby, the two of you shouldn't be 2gether if it's just for the baby's sake. You need to sit down ... (read in full...)
I can't tell how he really feels! Is he just telling me these things to keep me happy?
Q. Hi there, sorry this is long but hope somebody can help. Im in love with my best male mate. I have known him 4 months a short period of time but it was pretty much love at first sight for me we met in a club and chatted and he asked me if I would ...
A. 11 November 2006: Be confident in who you are; however, if you suspect foul play, call him on it. Ask if he's truly interested in you, and tell him why you're begining to have doubts. The only thing you can do is to be honest with him. If you find out that he does ... (read in full...)
What do I do when hes not cheating, but is lying about things I ask him not to do ?
Q. what do i do when he is not cheating, but when he is lying about things i ask him not to do....
A. 11 November 2006: 1st of all, don't ever tell a man what to do. He's grown just like you. However, you can express to him how his behavior in certain situations is hurtful, but telling him what to do gets you no where fast! Good luck!... (read in full...)
We agreed to contact, but he keeps texting me. What should I do?
Q. , Need some advise please. I have a guy in my life. we live in 2 separate cities. Weve been texting, talking and e-mailing everyday. I started to feel that he was backing of, especially after i asked him what was happening with us. He continue...
A. 11 November 2006: Call him... men aren't overly emotional, so instead of playing the guessing game with emails and text messages (where the tone of a message can be misinterpreted), call him and ask him to define what's going on. You and he need to be clear. Are you ... (read in full...)
He is ignoring me...what should I do?
Q. I really need some advice on what to do..my so called bf has been totally ignoring me he hasnt taken any of my calls for 5 days now i leave him emails and instant messages but nothing i had written a letter to him like 4 days ago reguarding our ...
A. 11 November 2006: Men need their space and sometimes they distance themselves from woman in order to get that space. However, his behavior is disrespectful. Listen, I've made the same mistake in confronting my now ex-bf... here's what happened: when he started ... (read in full...)
Do guys hate to give oral sex?
Q. Male readers!! do you hate givin oral sex to a women??...
A. 11 November 2006: I'm a woman, and I know that guys are fine with it. Just stay clean. ... (read in full...)
Just out of a serious relationship..and getting offers from other guys. So why do I feel so lonely?
Q. I've just got out of my first serious relationship, in which I lost my virginity with the guy I love and plan to spend the rest of my life with him. Now it's all over, and i'm trying to go cold turkey on him, which is impossible as I haven't gone ...
A. 11 November 2006: I know exactly what you're going through. Go cold turkey on him. He doesn't deserve you. trust me!... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about him and it's driving me insane! Help me!!
Q. ppl i need your help so so much. im at uni, 18 years old, not bad looking. back in may i met the most amazing guy ever!!!!!! i have never ever felt the same about anyone before. he moved to america when we had been together just 3 months. I ...
A. 11 November 2006: You don't wnt a guy who has made negative comments about you. You're thinking about what was good and need to focus on the bad to get over him. ... (read in full...)
Should I shave 'down there' before my bf and I take things further?
Q. okay, so this is my question. my boyfriend and i have been at second base, but were not going further than that right now. and i was just wondering, should i shave *down there* or not, or how much or something. please help. 3 ...
A. 11 November 2006: You don't have to be totally bare down there... do what
s comfortable for you! Trust me, he'll be fine with whatever you choose, but he won't want you to have a "patch" as large as his, so trim. ... (read in full...)
He treats me badly! But I don't think I can love another guy...please help me understand?
Q. Hi! Am really having a hard time...the thing is after all what I've been through I realized that I choose wrong and eventually it turns against me and I get to be the 1 tht suffers! Anyways 2 cut it short, I've had a bf since Febr. and we've been g...
A. 11 November 2006: I recently went through the same situation; however, I gave my virginity to my ex., and he didn't value or appreciate it as much as I did. It was obvious in the way that he treated me during and after our relationship. We have been in contact since, ... (read in full...)
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