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writes: ppl i need your help so so much.im at uni, 18 years old, not bad looking.back in may i met the most amazing guy ever!!!!!!i have never ever felt the same about anyone before.he moved to america when we had been together just 3 months.I didnt say bye to him beacuse i knew that it would break my heart.He stayed in America until september, emailing me bitter emails about his new girlfriend...and saying things like'dont tell someone u love them if u dont, it just messes with their head'But i did love him so much.He talks to me every now and then on msn.When he comes on my heart skips a beat.He is currently living in Spain as he is travelling, but he is clearly not interested, as he hardly talks to on msn. However, he does occcassionaly email me asking how uni is going.I dream about him every niteI talk about him all the timeI think about him every hourI compare every other guy to himI am basically obsessed with him.He isnt even a particularly nice person-although he was lovley when he was with me, he says hurtful things about me now like 'i loved u until i saw u naked'I NEED TO STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM AND MOVE ON!!!!ITS DRIVING ME INSANEwhat can i do????pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease helpim so depressed about it.Id give anything to have him bk.xxxx
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reader, trustyourheart  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 Maybe you could tell him that you still have feelings for him, and those comments he made about you kinda hurt? sorry I know this probably wont help you out, but as I read this i knew I wanted to try to help you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): You love the IDEA of him, not the REAL him. I was in the same situation, and i guess i still am but time has dulled the pain. Go out, socialise, meet new people, join new clubs, inotherwards KEEP BUSY. He does not love you and i doubt this will change from what you've said. He seems like a bit of a jerk, "i loved you until i saw you naked" ?? how would you feel making love to him then? imagine if you were to go out with him, he would make your life hell, your confidence would plummet, you would spend more and more time obsessing and worrying and eventually have a nervous breakdown...or something along those lines..you do not need this. Your work is paramount now, if you dont put the work in and think about your future you will regret it, as i do now..
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reader, marie78 +, writes (11 November 2006):
You don't wnt a guy who has made negative comments about you. You're thinking about what was good and need to focus on the bad to get over him.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (11 November 2006):
 I agree with Charly and I would ad have a look around and you'lk find another interesting man who will help you to be happy and so on u'll forget it real soon
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (10 November 2006):
 Hey,
I think you just fell for him so badley you were just shocked when things ended so suddenly.
Instead of thinking about the things that you miss about him think about what you don't miss about him. The annoying little things he used to do, like squeezing the toothpaste from the middle etc... see what i mean?
If he can turn his feelings for you on and off like a light switch he's obviously not worth it and you can do SO much better. take each day as it comes and when you think you are ready, imagine you are shutting a door on all that had happened between you and start again. By all means, talk about it, have a good old moan and cry and get it all out of your system. He's not worth anther thought.
Hope this helped,
phoebe xxXxx
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reader, Charly Kitten +, writes (10 November 2006):
 o hunny!! i fell for you soooo much! i have a similar problem! erm...
you need to get over him but i know its easy to just say that! but the reality is that he has a gf and he loves her, you dont want to be the person to break them up even if you love him. i know this really hard but you need to get out there and try sooooo hard to forget about him. try taking up a new hobby and going out with your mates! its sooo hard to do but it has to be done and happens to lots of people. make yourself really busy and it will hopefully make it easier.
good luck! let me know how ur doing!
charly xXx
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