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writes: I have been seeing my girlfriend for about 4 years. I'm 26 and shes 22. We have just returned from travelling for a year in OZ. We had a great time but had quite alot of serious arguments and my girlfriend actually admitted that she thought we would split up when we got back. Things are ok now, nothing bad really but nothing special. I cant see us ever getting married but we do have good times together. I dont know whether we are just together out of habit or love. I do think I would be really upset if we split up. i dont know what to do. Any help really appreciated. Thanks
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (14 November 2006):
 Thanks for the feedback- I hope it has helped- I wish you well and hope it works out.
Adelaide
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): thanks Adelaide +, that is a massive help. thank you for taking the time to reply.
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reader, marie78 +, writes (14 November 2006):
If you don't see yourself marrying her, then end it. What's the point of being in a relationship that's going no where? Elect to be friends, give it several months (w/o talking) and then start communicating again (that's if she's willing to be friends). Good Luck!
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (14 November 2006):
Four years... you are 26 and it sounds to me that whilst you appear to adore your gf you are not in love with her.
If times were so good whilst travelling I strongly beleive you would both be planning your next travelling experience!
why not take time out for yourself you are young and still pretty much a free spirit, you can still be in contact with your gf but you need to find yourself again.
What makes you happy? what makes you tick?
Life is too short to be in such a committed relationship especially if your having doubts.
I feel that you want to make the break but the thought of doing this upsets you because you will be stepping into the unknown.
It will not be easy but some time apart may help you both in the long term. I am a great beleiver that if it's meant to be it will be!
alternatively, spice things up in your life, give your relationship 100% You only get out of a relationship what you put in. Set yourself a target and if you give it 100% for the next 3-6 months and you still feel the same then you know in your heart that you gave it your best shot and if things dont work out you can say you tried!! and move on!!
Best of luck and Kindest Regards
Aunt Adelaide
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