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I'm confused about my feelings for a girl.
Q. There's this girl at school who i've known properly for about a year. I'm thinking about her constantly but none of my thoughts are sexual and i feel that i only want her as a friend. At the same time, whenever i see her i get this feeling deep down ...
A. 29 June 2008: I'd say go for it! If you feel something is missing then try and fill it. It's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. You have to go up to her and just ask her to lunch :) start small and see how she reacts. Just try and get ... (read in full...)
Is having cyber sex with a married man...make me the other woman?
Q. Does having cyber sex with a married man make me the "other woman"?...
A. 26 June 2008: Idk what you mean by other woman. it makes you the woman the wife will scream her lungs at over the internet when she finds out. it makes you alot of things that im not getting into detail with.... (read in full...)
Should I congratulate him for his promotion or wait till he tells me about it?
Q. I've just found out from other source that the guy I like had just being promoted in his job. He's on a business trip right now, so I guess he's being told of his promotion. I really like but unfortunately I gotta admit he's not that into me , at ...
A. 26 June 2008: You could ask about it but personally i would wait till he tells me just to get my facts straight. Secondly just to maked him think that i'm not stalking him lol i like to make the guy chase me and if i hear sompin about him i'll wait till he tells ... (read in full...)
How should I feel about my boyfriend looking at photos of naked women?
Q. How should I feel about my boyfriend looking at photos of naked women? At the moment, I feel like a) I'm not good enough for him and b) upset that he'd even want to look at these I need advice, please....
A. 26 June 2008: Ok first off remember he is a GUY guess what. Guys get horny, ALOT. If he's looking at theese pictures then he's probably wanting something. Now its your choice to give it to him or not. Personally i would choose not but let me lay out your ... (read in full...)
I told her that anything could happen with me giving her a lift! Silence from her. I need feedback!
Q. I asked your opinion before on this subject.. I thought I did well but guess what happen.Im in love w my best friend and we had kissed we spoke a bit about it and whe i asked if she was ok with it she hessitated and then said no...After that ...
A. 26 June 2008: She's probably nervous because she just might be a virgin. (I am to so i know how she feels) you should probably just let her know that your not thinking like that but your warning her because you both would have had something to drink.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom I caught dad having sex with my best friend?
Q. Hi, i dont know what to do, i caught my dad and my best friend having sex in the kitchen. they did not see me (or so i thought)...what am i going to do????? My friend is 16, she is very flirty with men and wears very revealing clothes and al...
A. 26 June 2008: You don;t wanna hear this.
YOur going to have to tell your mom only because its just fair for her to know. Secondly i wouldn't talk to that friends at all! She's not your friend if she slept with your dad. Your mom will get upset and probably file... (read in full...)
When is the best time to ask someone out?
Q. Well, I met this girl at work today. She was pretty, she was really nice, and she had an easy sense of humor (that is, I made her laugh quite a bit with minimal effort). You know, all of the good signs pretty much. But just as I was ready to ask...
A. 26 June 2008: Well, when you next see this girl ask her to go for a bite to eat during lunch, and maybe getting around the office is a good thing so that way she's not as oblivious and "thrown off her horse" as you say. And try going to your friend who made you ... (read in full...)
Is this friend a real friend or am I just fooling myself?
Q. it's been about a month that I feel my best friend changing...I don't know really but these last days she's telling me that she's thinking about a relationship with my ex boyfriend and she knows very well that I really liked him so much...and more ...
A. 26 June 2008: You are way over reacting hon. Lol She's not changing at all she's exploring her range. Here's some advice. Never let a guy stand between you and your friends relationship. Because there are guys that will come and guys that will go. But only one ... (read in full...)
Will he ever realize that we're meant to be, or will he forget me?
Q. Dear Cupid.... My ex and I broke up two months ago and I am still devastated. I have cried everyday since. I go out with my friends, see my family and have even been on a few dates! but, when I am driving or in bed I cry. I miss his laughter...
A. 26 June 2008: Alright, prepare the chocolate, cookie dough, and the tv remote. He probably is not feeling the same as he used to. Now he might realize that he misses you (They say the heart grows fonder with absence) And he might realize he wants something new. ... (read in full...)
Why do women scream during sex?
Q. does sex hurt or do woman scream because it feels good??(growing teen looking for info)...
A. 26 June 2008: It may hurt and it may just be for pleasure. You'll never know till you ask... (read in full...)
Will he think it's weird that he's my first proper boyfriend?
Q. I've just started seeing someone, I like him a lot but I am embarressed because I am almost 28 and have never been in a serious relationship - he wants to talk about past relationships etc but I keep avoiding the questions, do you think he will mind ...
A. 26 June 2008: You should be fine Lol. Your stressing out way to much just try to loosen up :)... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know how old she was when she lost her virginity?
Q. I am having trouble coping with the fact that my girlfriend won't tell me how old she was when she first had sex. I know who it was with, just not how old she was. I also want to know how many different guys she's been with and who they are. To a ...
A. 26 June 2008: I honestly don't think its any of your business to know her personal information. Its not your place to ask and i understand why she doesn't want to tell you. Thats private information. You shouldn't persure something that private.... (read in full...)
Our sex life doesn't satisfy me.
Q. Hello, I really need your help in somethong serious! I have more than one problem! I hate doing the doggy style and my husband loves it.. he asks me almost everytime while we are having sex to bend down so he can do it,,(excuse me for the language ...
A. 26 June 2008: Alrighty, then expirement with him. Find something that works for both of you. Try different things you guys come up with together. And your husband shouldn't be hurting you to wear you scream. You need to take it slow woman! Lol Tell him that he ... (read in full...)
He won't remove his ex from his friends list!
Q. my boyfriend have a second myspace account and he refuses to remove his ex from his friends list,he removed her from his top friends list but he wont remove her from the friends list ...
A. 26 June 2008: Is not very smart to push him like that.
Sorry but you had to hear sometime.
(The sad part is I'm 15 and i know that)
Now I am going to be harsh because you are being harsh as well.
First off you can't just tell him to remove her, its HIS fri... (read in full...)
I really don't know if we're still together or not! And I fancy someone else!
Q. Hi There, I have a bit of boyfriend bother... Here's the story; I know this boy at my fencing club, he is in Yr 9 and I'm in yr7. I look old for my age, he is quite normal. So, last week he asked me out to the cinema, but he didn't show up, or I ...
A. 25 June 2008: Um first off, your not together
just because you date someone doesn't mean you are together just means you went on a date. your together when he asks you and you say yes to " will you be my girlfriend" but if you like the other guy you should deff... (read in full...)
My 'best friend' keeps flirting with my boyfriend!
Q. Ok, i have a big problem with my bestfriend! Recentley ive started dating this guy that i REALLY like and he really likes me. Well Today at break my boyfriend came to meet me like he usually does, and we were in the middle of a conversa...
A. 25 June 2008: Apperantly if she cares so little about your feelings to flirts shamelessly infront of you like that then she obviously is not your best mate.
Secondly be glad that he cares about you and not her and somewhat flattered that no matter how hard she... (read in full...)
Did I loose my virginity or am I just on my period???
Q. ok this is how it went down...last night my boyfriend tried to finger me but it hurted so i told him to stop, so we tried again but it still hurted...so we stopped trying...he told me my hole was too tight and it was hard to go in...i went to the ...
A. 24 June 2008: Calm down calm down, its just your period lol looks like you two have to wait another week before you try that again. But look if it still burns when you pee after a week i would recomend going to the doctor not telling him exactly what happened ... (read in full...)
What are some ways that I can 'subtly' flirt with him??
Q. hey guys, I'm in need of some advice. I'm 15 and i recently started working. I fell HARD for this guy i work with and some of my friends there say he likes me back. But i'm still not convinced he likes me. What are some ways that i can see if he...
A. 24 June 2008: Ah, the shy flirting :)
Okidays, I'm assuming its an office (if not oppsies)
Talk to him, not about that just about interests and see if he has the same interests. For example;
You: Hi
Guy: Hey, hows it going?
You: Pretty good, I was ... (read in full...)
Did she actually like me or what? She seemed so normal and cool before I asked her out.
Q. I was friends with this girl for over a year. One of my close friends told me that she wanted to hook up with me, so i decided to ask her on a date. I did, and she didn't give me an answer but was really nervous. She then told me later that she ...
A. 21 June 2008: i think she was confused or just looking for something to pass the time. As a result she found someone with more in common. would recomend just trying to move on, if she wants you again she'll come back.
~Hope This Helps~... (read in full...)
What should I do, stay with my boyfriend? Or get back together with my ex and get an abortion?
Q. I'm 19 years old, I meet my boyfriend in collage who i've been dateing for 5 months, and i'm between 4-5 months pregneat with his baby. I jumped into this relationship too quick, and i just got out of one with my ex, who i was dateing for 4-5 year...
A. 21 June 2008: Alrighty here, Honestly if the guy makes you happy then you should give him more than consideration of going back out with him. and if you have nothing in common with your boyfriend why are you even with him? Honestly abortion is not the right idea, ... (read in full...)
Fallen for my bed buddy....what should I do???
Q. I started seeing a bed buddy about 2 months ago, we're both single and we started meeting up for sex. The sex is fantasic the problem is ive developed feelings for him! Ive been hurt in the past and have stayed single for 2 years coz i didnt wa...
A. 20 June 2008: If you have feelings for this guy you should probably confess them and if he feels the same way he'll let you know. Then trust is the hardest thing to give someone but if you really like this guy it should be very easy. A very simple situation ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't kiss me, and hasn't in months!!
Q. my husband does not kiss me and has not kissed me in months, he also does not say he love me and he does not have an interest in oral sex(when performing it on me) what should i do and do you see any love or likeness here?...
A. 20 June 2008: Talk to him, tell him what you feel, and i would kiss him and tell him you love him first. If there is no reply then there is something on his mind. If there was an argument to start this then he is probably still mad. If there is no arguement or ... (read in full...)
Is he playing with me or does he really like me??
Q. well thier is this guy name john and he use to always hugg me and grapp me around my waist and cuddle me and my frend always use to get mad but now its been a weeek and he doesnt do it no more wat does tht mean like yeahhh im confuse like he would ...
A. 20 June 2008: Well the logical explination is that you still have some feelings with this boy. The obvious is that he LIKED you.. as in past tense. and i know this isn't what you want to hear but if he hasn't called sense yesterday and you two got in an argument. ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 pregnant, want to keep it but want to go to uni...what should I do??
Q. I am 18 have just done my a-levels and have found out that i am 7weeks pregnant, i really want to go to uni and i dont know if i can or not now?. I am definitley keeping the baby, because i dont believe in abortion and my bf wants me to keep it ...
A. 20 June 2008: Well i congradulate you on continuing to go to universety.
The problem being that you now have a kid and a financial problems only a few months away. My advice would be to let your mother and father take care of it uring the school days while you ... (read in full...)
I can't get this fling out of my mind! Help!
Q. o.k this is my problem i can't seem to shake. I met my girlfriend 4 years ago she said we should take things slow as she'd just come out of a relationship. So we decided to be just friends and see how things go. We moved on to sexual relationship, ...
A. 20 June 2008: Alrighty.. The situations appears to be that she is using you as a temporary. Meaning your there when she needs to feel loved. Yet not important enough for her to return the favor. If you really feel second class then my first advice would be to ... (read in full...)
I want to loose my virginity! Any advice?
Q. k i really want to loose my viginity and i kiss my arm and pretend a boy is actually dare but how do i get a boy that is right they all call me ugly but i dont think i am and im hated off all the girls giv me sum advise plzz im 14 x...
A. 20 June 2008: In a rush much? Lol jk
If they call you ugly then go get a hair cut and a makeover at the mall and then go to a party and get a nice guy there. Have your friends invite some guys that they know you have never met before at the party that you can ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship, but I think its failing...any advice?
Q. For the last 4 months I have been in a relationship however in the last 2months my girlfriend (And best friend) has been "Off" with me, certain things have been buging me, for example she says things like "I hate love" and "I don't trust anyone" ...
A. 20 June 2008: If she said that she hates love and that she doesn't trust anyone then why is she with you?
Its clear that she's making a point. If she tells you she loves you yet she doesn't trust anyone then apparently she doesn't trust you, and iwthout trus... (read in full...)
How should I act around him??
Q. i like this guy we been on a few date but yesterday he said he not thinking about a relationship with me until we act more like friends and he told me to take down the pics of us 2 off myspace and he told me to stop calling him my bf to be even ...
A. 20 June 2008: Why are you not sligtly mad at this guy?!
He told you to call him your bf and now he decides not.
IO understand the fact that you like this guy alot. But your easy to him.
Attainable. I'm guessing he told you 6 months. In that time he can find... (read in full...)
How do you go about finding someone...?
Q. How does one go about finding someone? I know I'm ready to find someone but I don't know how. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Like where can I meet people and how do I go about talking to them?...
A. 20 June 2008: Ok Honestly you don't purposefully meet the one you'll love forever in a strip joint, bar, or places where people are not in thier right mind. A club is a way to meet people just make sure that they are sober.
Secondly, go places that YOU like to g... (read in full...)
7 minutes in heaven - how does it work?!
Q. i would like to know more about this game- 7 minutes in heaven..could someone tell me the rules please thanks.....
A. 20 June 2008: The rules of the game are very simple;
1.)guys write the same word down on a piece of paper. (One they keep)
2.) Girls draw one piece of paper and go into a "closet" with the boy in the dark locked in there for seven minutes (or however long... (read in full...)
How can I show him I'm trustworthy?
Q. so i was in a marriage of 12 years to a man in the USA. it was really rough. constant physical and mental abuse and i was pretty much trapped in a hole with this man as i basically needed him around just to survive. i was not allowed any friends or ...
A. 20 June 2008: Apperently this man has had one scar to many. With him not trusting you is an awfull blockage of marrige. There has to be trust to be love. If after theese tips do not work then i would recomend the lie detector just to get the issue over and done ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I've spent weeks thinking but haven't come up with a solution...all advice really appreciated!
Q. Hi all, My husaband recently got back from a business trip in china. I know it sounds untrusting but I checked his phone and to my horror there was text to one of his sports friends it went something like this, Hi mate, can't play squash, still in ...
A. 20 June 2008: Fisrt off you have to trust his word until you have more evidence. Trusting is one of the most important parts of a relationship. If you can't trust him you can't exactly ask the same in return (Now this has evidence I'm aware but you still need to ... (read in full...)
How do other couples work through a long distance relationship?
Q. As I sit here typing this, I think of how ironic it is that my boyfriend and I, 25 km from each other, would have to endure a long distance relationship. However, yesterday I was informed of his plans to travel to the other side of the world for 5 ...
A. 20 June 2008: I have been there and i know how you feel, you want to stay in contact but you don't wanna make a short phone call or a short conversation. Or you will blame yourself for not going what you wanna go for. They like to hear that you miss them and love ... (read in full...)
I'm the first guy he ever kissed but he does not accept his sexuality! Is it all worth it?
Q. I have been with a guy for 3 months now. I am gay and open, he is not. He is VERY straight and i'm the first guy he'd even kissed, let along slept with. He is 26 and i'm 23. He says that the way he feels at the moment he won't be telling anyone, ...
A. 18 June 2008: First off, you need to tell him that he is GAY and or BI secondly you need to let him know there is nothing wrong with that. and if he still refuses he's gay you ask him why he kissed you and is open about how you feel to you but not anyone else and ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my foster mother. Please help.
Q. I find this hard to talk about, but i've got no where else to turn; i've finnaly plucked up the courage to ask someone about this, and I need a little advice. Basically, i'm just going to get straight to the point. I'm in love with my foster m...
A. 18 June 2008: I think you and your mother are confusing love with being in love. A big difference between the two. When she adopted you im sure she had some maternal feeelings (motherly love so to speak) but i think she got that confused with being in love with ... (read in full...)
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