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writes: I asked your opinion before on this subject.. I thought I did well but guess what happen.Im in love w my best friend and we had kissed we spoke a bit about it and whe i asked if she was ok with it she hessitated and then said no...After that happened a few wks ago and still I have said a few more times how I feel..all of a sudden she is inviting me to a gay bar. What is up with her? Made me angry but I said sure. I just got a call from her an she called me babe and asked me to pick her up when she comes home from a trip at 1000pm and then go drinking instead of taking a taxi w a stanger...I told her that anything could also happen with me picking her up and there was silence..She said she will call me late tonight...Please I need feed back..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLast night she and I spoke on the phone and she asked me if the chick that is going to pick her up will forget to be there. I told her to believe me when I said she is not going to forget and she is very much looking foward to see her again.She said ok then. We spoke a bit about our day and we said good night..She said good night babe...
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Gay bar? Is she gently trying to tell you something? Is trying to induce you into something?
Frankly, it doesn't sound like she's too keen on your sexual advances. So the gay bar may be either a "friendship thing", or her subtle way of moving your relationship away from what you envision.
Don't get too heated up. Keep an open mind, follow her lead, and try and see where she's taking you.
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 She's probably nervous because she just might be a virgin. (I am to so i know how she feels) you should probably just let her know that your not thinking like that but your warning her because you both would have had something to drink.
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reader, stuckinthemiddle81 +, writes (26 June 2008):
 It sounds like your best friend is a bit confused--if you hadn't already figured that out by now.
I had a best friend since third grade who always told me that she had a "crush" on my personality and that if I were a boy, she would totally go out with me. I always thought that was cool, I took it as a compliment. Until years later, she had confessed to me that she had wanted to have sexual experiences with me for years but was afraid to ask. I let her know that I wasn't freaked out by it and I was flattered but because we were bestest friends for 12 years, I could not do those things with her. I told her flat out, I would never do anything with her because I would feel weird.
Now your best friend sounds like she freaked out a bit (the hesitation) but then it turns out she likes to be with you...yet she also still sounds like she's unsure of what she really wants. What do you think she wants? And with her keeping silent about you saying anything can happen, sounds like she wants to see what happens and she is willing to see what happens.
Good luck-hope I made sense!
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