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... Send *t a private message | | | *t's profile:hi im 15/16 yrs old. i know thats quite young to be giving out advice but i really like helping people. i have been though quite alot in my life; i was bullied when i was young but i got though it and i have had alot of trouble with boys. ive gone though alot of stress with my exams and have had trouble with my friends. there have been other things to, and along the way, i have picked up some great tips! i have been a nobody and i have been a somebody, and i know the goods and the bads to both. i know how different people need different advice and i can see other sides to a story that other people might not see.
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Why won't my bf let me give him oral sex?
Q. Im sixteen and have been in a steady relationship for a month.I want to give my boyfriend oral sex but he doesn't want me to. What's wrong with me?...
A. 31 October 2005: nothing is wrong with you and nothing is wrong with him he might not be ready. xx
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I'm 14 already and still have never had a boyfriend...
Q. Please help! I'm a 14 year old girl, brown hair, slightly attractive, nice figure, killer personality and yet I've never had a bf. I always fancy someone but I'm far too shy to ask them out and I won't let my mates ask them out for me. This is ...
A. 31 October 2005: if you really want this then you have to take control, its your life and no one is going to come along and do it for you. just work up the courage and ask him out! sometimes to get what you want in life you have to do yourself!
good luck!!
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We're really in love, but our parents don't know about it!
Q. Hi I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 18. I want to start this off by saying yes, we are sexually active and we both dont see why age matters so much. We are both in love; I mean real love! Some say why is he into a younger person and why am I into an ...
A. 11 October 2005: its true your parents wont approve, but still i would at leats tell them that you have a boyfriend, so that when they do find out they cant say that you didnt tell them. i understand that you are totally smitten with him but i think that you are ... (read in full...)
Attracted to the girl-next-door, but she's only 15...
Q. Confused male. I am nearly 20 and recently I have found myself having feelings for my next door neighbour, but she is 15. I don't know what to do about it. Can anyone help? I mean it's only 4 years difference. Does this matter?...
A. 10 October 2005: you cant help who you have feelings for, but in this case i am afraid you will just have to move on. she may be sweet, pretty and nice or whatever but one wrong move against her and she could report you,and i am afraid you wont look good and the ... (read in full...)
He's only "thinking" about going out with me. What's going on?
Q. This boy I like he says he likes me and his girlfriend just dumped him not too long ago. We flirt a lot. Lately he has been avoiding me. It's been going on for about a month. I asked him out and he is always saying 'I'm thinkin about it'. What sho...
A. 10 October 2005: sorry, i think it a shy way of saying no. i think he is avoiding you because he likes being single or you have scared him off by asking him out. he could have been doing "innocent" flirting and not ment it to go this far, he might even be leading ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to tell me everything... and I mean everything!
Q. When my boyfriend and I were first going out, he told me A LOT of personal stuff about himself like how he had an HIV test (results were NEGATIVE) and he had a stuttering problem sometimes and he had two things on his testicles that he was going to ...
A. 10 October 2005: he sounds very open, lots of boys do this with there gf because they trust them and want to share stuff with them. and trust me this way is better, you are lucky to have such an open bf he could not tell you anything and end up cheating on you.
j... (read in full...)
Sometimes he acts a bit of an idiot, but I think I like the guy from my drama class...
Q. I have known this guy from my drama class and we have been friends (Not best friends or anything) since we were 10 (14 now) and we walk home together after drama and its great and we get on well. Trouble is, I have started to have uh...feelings fo...
A. 10 October 2005: he sounds to me he could be more than just a friend, more like a best friend. it might not be clear at first, but think about it.
you said that he laughts at you, i dont know about you but when i am with my friends and if she is doing somthing... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my future husband will be turned off by my scar and stretch marks...
Q. I'm 16 years old and I am still a virgin. Well see, this is how it is, I'm saving myself till marriage. The thing is though, when I do get married I don't want my husband to see my body because I think my body is ugly. I have stretch marks on my ...
A. 9 October 2005: i was told once that when you love someone nothing else matters. this is the same. when you get married to someone you love them, your hustband wont care about the scars or anything he will only care about you. besides you are abit young to be ... (read in full...)
Are my problems with sex and intimacy a result of my abuse?
Q. My world changed when I was 12. I was sexually abused by my mum's boyfrend. Nobody knows and they're still together now. Only thing is I find it really hard to open up to people. I often sit in my room by myself. There's so many thngs in my head ...
A. 29 September 2005: hi, its natural for a girl for a girl of your age to fall for a guy thats nice to you and when they pay you compliments it makes you feel good too. so dont worrie there is nothing wrong with you. you just need to know when to say no, not just to the ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll never grow taller!
Q. Hi, please could you help me? I am 15 and all my life so far I have been small - but recently I grew taller than my sis and my mom (who is small anyway) but I'm still not as tall as my mates or most 15 year olds but smaller people than me before are ...
A. 6 September 2005: hi, im 15 and im really short too! i have been all my life even my little sister (two years younger) towers above me. i dont eat dairy though and i think that that is the key to growing. also your too young to be thinking that you will never grow, ... (read in full...)
Has my interest in romantic movies ruined my chances of a happy relationship!?
Q. Dear Cupid, There is this weird thought that makes me constantly question the relationship between a guy and a girl. I am an adult guy who has had a few flings but that's all. I never sustained a relationship with a girl for the fear of getting ...
A. 5 September 2005: well i believe that there is someone out there for everyone, and i think if you want to find that specail someone you have to be yourself. there is no point tring to be someone else and lieing to get people to fall in love with you it will be hard ... (read in full...)
We met on holiday, and live so far apart... Do we have a chance?
Q. hi my name is alex, 16, from Newcastle. I see a counsellor about my depression, as I used to be really fat but then I lost loads of weight and I am now happy the way I am, and also about the bullying back home, and the fact that I feel that I cannot...
A. 31 August 2005: long distance relationships are always hard, if i was you i would ask him for his phone number so you can ring him and even his home address so maybe you can beg you parents to go see him or catch a train down there and ask him to meet you at the ... (read in full...)
She might be the right girl for me, but I barely know her...
Q. Hey Cupid, I'm only 16 and been in love heaps of times, but I have found the right girl (I think). I hardly know her but she is always on my mind. She is only 14. Is there anything wrong with that? I dont know what to say to her. I dont know how t...
A. 31 August 2005: hey, you cant just lable this as "love" slow down abit and think you barley know this girl and you are younge there could be other reasons that she is on your mind like it could be curiosity or something. just go up and talk to her and see what she ... (read in full...)
My lack of sexual experience compared to my girlfriend is making me insecure!
Q. Hi, I'm 17 years old and have been dating a girl for over a year now. I have a little jealousy problem though. When she was 14, she lost her virginity. Now, to me that seems way too young. I mean, if it was 16 or something I'd feel a little better a...
A. 14 August 2005: dont get jealous, girls like a confident partener it dont matter how many other people she has been with - forget about the past its the future that counts but if you still dont feel comfortable talk to her about it, at least your honest about it, ... (read in full...)
We used to text for fun, but lately she calls me 'hun' and 'babes'...
Q. Help please. I kind of like this girl who I used to hang out with but now I just text her every day. Anyway when I first started texting her it was normal. But now when she texts me she says 'hi hun' and I call her 'babe' now! And now I think sh...
A. 14 August 2005: hi
most girls in text messages say "hun" and "babes" to people they think are close friends it does actually mean that she loves you, but it might especially if she flirts with you in the texts. if you want to go out with her you will have to do m... (read in full...)
Just getting interested in boys, but I couldn't stand anyone to know!
Q. I am 14 years old and have never been interested in having a b/f, even though all my friends have had one. But since I started high school 2 years ago I've started making lots of friends, boys and girls. Whenever I'm around some boys I always f...
A. 11 August 2005: its ok to like boys at your age it comes naturally. and that is how you should flirt - natrally, dont worrie about makein a fool of yourself just dont think about because that is how it can go wrong.
and dont worrie about your friends, i dont tell... (read in full...)
The new guy and I have lots in common, but I still have feelings for the ex!
Q. OK, I went out with this guy for a week, then he told me he would rather be friends. I was upset, because I really like him and moved on. I met another guy, and we have so much in common! But I feel bad because although he hasn't officially asked me...
A. 11 August 2005: hi
i think that just because you have alot in common with someone doesnt mean there will be a sucsessful relationship there needs to be more. also it would be wrong to go out with him when you fanc someone else
i think you should keep working... (read in full...)
All the boys just want to have sex, but I'm scared I'll get pregnant...
Q. I am 15 and I usually have boyfriends all the time but lately all they want to do is have sex. I am still a virgin and I wanna do it but I'm scared I will get pregnant. I have been fingered before. Help me, what should I do? Plus all my friends are ...
A. 9 August 2005: if you dont want to do it then dont, its as simple as that, and just because your friends are doing it, dont feel pressurised by it, wait till the right guy and make it special, if your not ready or if you worrie about pregnanc while you are doing ... (read in full...)
Part II: He says I'm everything he wants in a woman, but he just isn't happy!
Q. Hi. I asked a question on 18 July 2005 and got some great advice. Basically to make it short me and my man have been dating for 6 months. He started a new job working long hours and I have been stressed with work so things haven't been good. H...
A. 22 July 2005: well, if i was you i would get rid of him its not fair on you to keep you waiting like this and its deffenitly not fair to say that about you and you never know that could be a hint.
but i dont know him as well as you, it could the stress o... (read in full...)
Other boys are attracted to my girlfriend, because she's so pretty and friendly. What can I do?
Q. I and my girlfriend have known each other for a year. She is very friendly and pretty so she has many friends. I love her very much and she also love me so much too. Everything should well but I have some problems about her. Due t...
A. 18 July 2005: well there is nothing you can do, she is going to have friends that are boys, as long as they stay friends while you are going out with her, you have to trust her and if you cant do that then maybe you will have too rethink the relationship.
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My abstaining from any kind of sex is affecting my girlfriend...
Q. Ok, I know it sounds weird but although I'm 16 I preach, a lot, and it means a lot to me. Because of what preaching means to me I cannot have sex or anything resembling sex, or I try at least, and I think it has an affect on my relationship because ...
A. 18 July 2005: hi
she cant make you do anything you dont want to do, tell her straight that you dont want to. sex isnt something that you just do wait untill your ready even if it means untill your married, i think what your doing is great! tell your gf that you ... (read in full...)
When my ex and I meet for our trip away, how can I show her that I've changed for the better?
Q. Me and my ex broke up about 6 weeks ago on good terms. We still talk a lot but we are in different countries for the next 4 weeks. She says she feels we have drifted apart but we arranged to go away together about 2 months ago and still are. Wh...
A. 7 July 2005: just be your self, be the person she first met and fell in love, but dont come on too strong at first! if i was you i would play hard to get, if and once she starts to flirt with you flirt back but keep her guessing, then just act like as if you w... (read in full...)
Our good relationship is being spoiled by my eldest child!
Q. I have 2 children and I am divorced. I am in a relationship with a man and my eldest child has created so much trouble that he has decided to end it. Is there any advice on how I can try and save us? We are deeply in love but it's my child who is c...
A. 6 July 2005: this is a hard situation for any single mother tring to get a boyfriend. what i would do is to not let your eldest child to ruin your life. one day she will grow up and move on and if she keeps doing this to you, you will end up being alone. s... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my girlfriend, but I can't deny my attraction for a guy from work!
Q. O.K., here it goes. I am a bisexual male, and I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 years. I have only had two contacts with a man in the past. I recently started hanging out with a guy from work that I believe I am falling deeply in love with, ...
A. 5 July 2005: hi ok, first you need to sort out who you love most and who you will have a better future with and other stuff you find nice in a lover, I know it will be hard but you just cant lead a double life. if you want to leave your gf for the guy at w... (read in full...)
He's thinking over going out with me, but was I too forward asking him out?
Q. hiya! I have this crush and I just asked him out. He is thinking about it at the moment but do you think I have done the right thing to ask him out cos he is a year older than me? I am 13 and he is 14, is that wrong of me? Should I be going out w...
A. 5 July 2005: I think that you have done a good thing, it takes a lot of guts to ask someone out! with him being a year older he will probably be a bit more mature than other boys your age. if he dose say no it probably wont be because of your age. if he dos... (read in full...)
My guy behaves differently when we're alone than he does with his mates. Why?
Q. I'm only 14 but I really like this boy. I am going out with him but I don't think he likes me and that he is using me. This is because he acts different around his mates, but when I'm alone with him he's different. What do you think I should d...
A. 4 July 2005: Don't worry. My mate's bf does the same thing! Sometimes boys can be shy when it comes to love, even the really confident ones. He probably likes you it's just that he tries to show off in front of his mates. He doesn't want to be a soft, lovey ... (read in full...)
After she told me that we have sex "wrong", I was at a total loss...
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. Recently though, she has told me that I have sex wrong. Maybe not "wrong" but that it's just sex to me. I love the girl to death. To be honest, I feel I love her more than she me, but this is ...
A. 21 June 2005: hi next time you have sex tell her that you love her. keep telling her, so she knows. also ask her what your doing wrong at least thenshe cant say that you havent tried to try and you can find out what you are doing wrong and change. good lu... (read in full...)
When my husband admitted he'll always love his old g/f, it make me insecure...
Q. I asked my husband if he still loved his old girlfriend and he replied he will always love her but only in a caring way. This makes me feel insecure. Should I feel threatened and/or insecure that he will always love her? Thanks....
A. 20 June 2005: you dont have too feel insecure, at one stage in his life he loved her. feelings like that never go away but they can fade.thats proberly what it is, but if it gets to a stage where you feel uncomfortable tell him how you feel. that way he can ... (read in full...)
My friends laugh at my taste in movies, music and guys...
Q. HELP!!! My friends have hardly anything in common with me. Different taste in music as I like rock and stuff loud. I like different types of movies, and I like different guys, and if they don't like them they would say "urrrggggghhhhh" and never ju...
A. 17 June 2005: hi, im 15 too. my friends are different to me in some ways as well. i still act the way i am but i also pay an interest to what they like, but most of the time we are the same. my advice to you is to get some new friends. ones which have the same ... (read in full...)
Does Mum need to know I'm sleeping with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and we've just recently started sleeping together. I am on the pill but haven't told my mum. I keep feeling guilty that i haven't told her, should I tell her?...
A. 16 June 2005: well you dont have to tell her, but it will be better if you did. you could fall out with your mum if she finds out you didnt tell her and you never know it could a good move. but if you dont want her too know then leave it, its your responsiblity ... (read in full...)
Everybody else thinks the age difference is a big deal, but we really like each other!
Q. I have a small dilemma... I am a semi popular 15-year old guy in a small school where everybody is preppy. I have a crush on one of my best friend's sister, who is 13 years old. Everyone makes a big deal about the age difference, but we both ...
A. 15 June 2005: well since your are the boy that is older one, its not that much of a difference. boys mature later than girls, so really you are about the same. but just remember that she is still only 13 so dont push her in too anything she doesn't want to do. ... (read in full...)
My bf doesn't know I slept with someone else and I don't know if I should tell him, 'cause I suspect he cheated too!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is really good to me. He has never pressured me into doing anything i dont want to do.I did something terrible to him i would think. The story begans like this when i first started talking to my boyfrien...
A. 15 June 2005: a relationship can not last when you dont trust each other. i think that you should sit down and have a talk tell him the truth and make sure you get it back. i know that it will be hard but sometimes to get into the light you have to walk though ... (read in full...)
I told her how I feel about her by text... but I don't understand her answers!
Q. I text a girl on my mobile asking her out by using a poem and I told her how i felt saying she was beautiful and stuff. she text me back saying it meant a lot to her but she doesn't want to risk our friendship because if we split she would get ...
A. 13 June 2005: Well, dating a friend can be very difficult! First off, you will have to stop looking at that person as a friend and more as a lover - which can get uncomfortable. Second falling out or splitting up can make the friendship very uncomfortable too. S... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a relationship, but there are lots of other things that she wants!
Q. dear sir/madam How can I help my best friend who loves a girl deeply, but this girl does not want a relationship, but wants my best friend to pay her college fees and apartment for her, as well? And he agrees to help, but she doesnt want him to l...
A. 10 June 2005: if i was you i would tell your friend to wake up! tell him that she is just using him to pay her way though life. if he doesn't stop now he will end up hurt and broke. tell him that the world is not always in black and white and that she is seducing ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but we still act like a couple. Sometimes.
Q. My boyfriend and I recently broke up. During our relationship we experienced many problems such as jealousy, trust, and so on. We both realized that we loved each other but we needed time to grow and mature. The problem is that we still do the kinds ...
A. 9 June 2005: well its sounds to me that he really does need "time to grow". he had fun with you and you probably had fun with him, but the presure of staying with one girl might have got to him. he probably need a break to strech his wings to go flirt 1 last ... (read in full...)
He was separated when we first went out; now his wife is back!
Q. Dear Cupid, a few months ago I met this guy who truly loves me, and the problem is he was once married and has a child. When I met him he was separated from his wife and child, so I went out with him with no problem. Now she is back, I don't know ...
A. 7 June 2005: Stick by him. The last relationship he had with his wife has obviously failed, otherwise they would still be together. If she ever says or does anything don't be scared off; that is what she wants. If you love him and he loves you, you can get thou... (read in full...)
Is the difference between his 16 years and my 14 as big as it feels?
Q. I have been going out with this really great guy for about two months now and it has been really great but I feel as if he is just going out with me for something I can't give him...but we have a 2 year difference. like I am 14 and not experienced ...
A. 7 June 2005: Don't have sex if you dont want to. The first time should be the best time. You should be 100 per cent ready for it, otherwise you will just regret it! 14yrs and 16yrs is quite a big difference. You mature a lot during those years. But if you do w... (read in full...)
I don't want to break my boyfriend's heart, but I'm not sure if I should be with him or other boys...
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and I've been going out with this boy for 6 weeks and he loves me so much it would break his heart if I left him. I don't wanna but when I'm around other boys I always wanna be with them, and then when I'm with him I wish I never thought ...
A. 7 June 2005: Hi, Don't worry; I've gone though the same thing. It sounds like you're getting bored of him and you want something new and exciting in your life, or maybe it's just that you love to flirt with boys. You have two choices: 1. You can break... (read in full...)
Sometimes I lose my boyfriend... to a computer game!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and we moved in together nearly 2 months ago. We are enjoying living together but the time he spends on the computer is causing a problem. He really enjoys a particular pc game and will spend every ...
A. 30 May 2005: Well I think that you should tell him how you feel about this and make sure that he understands. I know that it will cause arguments, but you can't go on liveing like this, it's not fair on you. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and lives with the other girl, but he tells me to "wait" for him. Say what?
Q. I'm so confused about my son father. He's 20 years old. He cheated on me and is now living with the girl but he still says he loves and wants to have sex with me and tells me to wait for that. He wants to be with me, but not right now....
A. 30 May 2005: Leave him, don't put you life on hold just for him. Find someone who treats you better. Don't let him take advantage of you!... (read in full...)
I told her she was beautiful... but since, then we haven't talked at all!
Q. I'm in of need help.A month ago i asked out a girl who i liked for ages. I have known her for about 5 years and we are both in 1 class together. We are both 15 and I haven't liked her for all the 5 years but when i told her why i liked her ( i said ...
A. 29 May 2005: Even if she seems to be confident, she might be a bit shy when it comes to love, which might mean she likes you too though. But don't come on too strong to her. The best thing too do is to talk to her best friends because they know her better, or ... (read in full...)
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