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writes: I have been going out with this really great guy for about two months now and it has been really great but I feel as if he is just going out with me for something I can't give him...but we have a 2 year difference. like I am 14 and not experienced at all and he is 16 and experienced...I just don't know why but I feel as if are age difference really is big as experience-wise.. I don't know but I am so confused as to what I should do. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (8 June 2005):
 The levels of your bodies maturing are on different levels. He may be full of testosterone (male hormone) and you are in the beginning stages of womanhood. Everyone's body is different. So don't feel pressured to do anything that you do not want to do. You will experience sex when you are ready. Everybody is ready at different times. So don't worry, your time will come. But I highly recommend that when you do decide to have sex, speak with your school nurse so you will be educated in proper sex protection.
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reader, kt  +, writes (7 June 2005):
 Don't have sex if you dont want to. The first time should be the best time. You should be 100 per cent ready for it, otherwise you will just regret it! 14yrs and 16yrs is quite a big difference. You mature a lot during those years. But if you do want sex and you are ready for it, but you are just scared that you are a virgin, just tell him. If he loves you he will understand and if he doesn't well the choice is yours what to do from then on - you can leave him or stay, but don't let him take advantage of you and push you into something that you don't want to do. And don't just assume that he wants it. You never know you could be worrying over nothing!good luck!!
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reader, Shane +, writes (6 June 2005):
Hey there!Ok, I'm going to take a different slant to that other reply. There is a bit of a difference between 14 and 16. Think about it. There's a big difference between a 13 year old and a 19 year old, yeah? And there not much difference between a 23year old and a 29year old. Valid point?This is because your teenage years are a period of rapid growth and maturation. At sixteen, he is most likely ready to try things that you aren't. And it's very, very important that you don't let him do anything you're not ready to do. And for that matter, don't make him do anything he isn't ready to do either. This includes making him watch too many girly movies!That said, don't worry too much about other aspects. Yeah, he's more experienced than you, but the fact that he's with you seems to suggest that that's not a problem. So be definite about your limitaions with him, don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with, but still, don't worry about what is otherwise not a problem! Enjoy his company!Hope this helps, and best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2005): Hey I am 16!!!I met my boyfriend when I was 14 too and he was also 16, again I was also a virgin!! Does your guy know you're a virgin? If so, does it matter to him, because if he really likes you it shouldn't matter at all to him!Age really does not matter, not even the slightest, so what it's just two years, it doesn't matter what age gap there is between you aslong as you care for him and he cares for you nothing should matter!! I am sure if this guy genuinely likes you he will not care whether you're a virgin or not. My boyfriend didnt. Not all guys are the same not all need and want sex 24/7! There are some decent ones lingering about. Two years on and I am still with my boyfriend, age is not an issuse. It should never become one. Love and respect is all that matters in a reltionship, as well as loyalty.
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