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writes: My boyfriend and I recently broke up. During our relationship we experienced many problems such as jealousy, trust, and so on. We both realized that we loved each other but we needed time to grow and mature. The problem is that we still do the kinds of things couples do such as kiss, freak, touch, stay on the phone for hours. Because of this I sometimes look at him as being my boyfriend. For example if he is flirting with a girl and I ask him about the situation, he always says "it shouldn't matter because I don't go with you." This hurts me badly. He tells me that I'm his 1st love and that he is always gonna have feelings for me and he constantly tells me that he wants to go back together the following school year because he feels that we will be more mature then. I'm scared that he may be lying and I'm not sure that he means what he says. I try to stop doing couple things with him....but he's so seductive and I love him so much and sometimes I want to freak just as bad as he does. Should I let him go and move on or is there something still there for me.
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reader, kt  +, writes (9 June 2005):
 well its sounds to me that he really does need "time to grow". he had fun with you and you probably had fun with him, but the presure of staying with one girl might have got to him. he probably need a break to strech his wings to go flirt 1 last time till he comes back to youthe thing you have too worry is that if he does come back to you he might do it again. i which case i would ask him if he wants a proper relationship with you and you need to ask your self if you want a personal relationship with him.well what ever you do i wish you the best of luck!!
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reader, Caribgal +, writes (9 June 2005):
Do you not value yourself? Girl you just a booty call. YOu need to talk to this man and have some finalization of the relationship. Leave him alone and stay single for awhile. Love you first.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (9 June 2005):
 It sounds as though you are the back up plan. Whilst he gets on with you and has a laugh he still wants to be single at the same time but have you in the background in case he cant find someone new. Move on, leave him to it. If he really wanted to be with you he would be. Your feelings for him are cloudind how he is acting and you are thinking that he cares just as much for you as you do him. He isnt being very fair to you by keeping you dangling. Hes just covering all bases so that hes always got someone to fall back on. Get out and find someone that does want to be with you for you and not just when they have nothing else to do. The longer you stay in the situation the harder it will be for you to move on. Stay friends if you need to but you also need to get out and do other things away from him that could lead to you finding the right man for you.
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (9 June 2005):
 Sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. He has you on "pause mode" so he can go out with other girls. You are the leftovers he can go back to and re-heat if there's nothing else in the kitchen. Get it? You can do so much better. He is learning how to be a womanizer and is getting better at it as long as you allow him to. Let him go. You could find somebody who knows how to love with their heart and not their weewee. You deserve much better.
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