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... Send *abey a private message | | | *abey's profile:Im a 37year old nurse. Who has been through realtionships. Aswell as a marriage. I am no more qualified than anyone to help with problems, but if a few of my words can comfort someone and help them a little, then that makes my day. WE all need to share when we have a worry or concern, I need that too.
I am in afairly new relationship, hope that I can get it right this time. Probably with the help from people on this site.
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It's hard to get my circumsised bf to cum - any advice?
Q. Hey please help me, my boyfriend and I have been going out 6 months, we're both 15. He is circumcised, so I know it's harder for him to cum. The other weekend I gave him my first blowjob and handjob. I didn't make him cum. Is it possible to make him ...
A. 4 January 2007: As a 36 year old woman, and quite a fair bit of experience in the blow job department, I have found that some men, do take a lot longer in cuming than others. Some seem to cum very easily when given a blow job but I do know other men who take ... (read in full...)
He says he'll make more of an effort but I'm not sure...stay or go?
Q. My boyfriend of nine months and I broke up on new years day. We didn't spend New Years Eve together as he had the opportunity to go to Amsterdam for free with his brother's band. On New Years Eve I spent ages trying to call him as I had no reception ...
A. 4 January 2007: I agree, with reebe. If he is feeling strongly enough toward you to want to try again thats a good sign. Men hold back their feelings sometimes as they see things more logically than emotionally. I f you are chilled with him and he feels no ... (read in full...)
Should I wait and hope things change or shouls I just end it now?
Q. I met a man in August while out with friends. By the end of the night, one thing lead to another and I spent the night with him. i didn't hear from him again until September when he called because he had found the jewellery i had left at his ...
A. 4 January 2007: You have a choice with this one. And I think as in any relationship its a risk. Now if you really like him, I would take the risk , men think differently to women and take longer to get the deep emotional connection. The more time you spend together ... (read in full...)
How can you forget somebody you love?
Q. I split from my ex because I was constantly cheated on and lied to. She slept with a guy over 100 times over the space of 6 months. I finished her many times, only to take her back about 90 times. I felt like I needed her in my life, because there ...
A. 4 January 2007: It is very hard to deal with the hurt when someone you love treats you badly . I presume your ex wife was loyal and goog and you know that actually she will be safer to be with and that maybe you could find happiness wtih her again. But on the other ... (read in full...)
I want to help my ex-girlfriend in her relationship but don't want to intrude. Help!
Q. I'm one of the aunts on this website and I am in a sticky situation so to speak so any advice is welcome. I'm 20 and I used to go out with this girl, who I still think is an amazing person. I was her first boyfriend. However, we split up about 2...
A. 2 January 2007: Bless you. You sound like such a sincere lovely man, she really has lost out losing you . YOu are a fantastic mature person in the way you have handled this situation.
Now as you probably know already remaining friends with a lost love can be e... (read in full...)
We get along great but he has a lot of baggage! Am I selling myself short and what should I do?
Q. Hello, I need help. Should I stay with a guy or not? I do love him, and we have an amazing mental and physical connection, but he has five kids from earlier marriage, and my family and friends are not very accepting of me being with him (only m...
A. 20 December 2006: I think that if you feel this ie the right guy for you, you should not worry about his children, yes it makes things more complicated, but everyone you meet will probably have something you dont like. On the other hand if you dont feel he is right ... (read in full...)
My bf is going on holiday for 3 weeks - would it be okay to ask to go with him?
Q. Seaking advice from males and parents I have been seein my bf for 6 months (dating for 3 months before) We get on great He has kids from a previous relatonship I have never met the kids. They live a long way away. We were long distance before ...
A. 20 December 2006: I do agree with the previous answer, but also Im a parent and understand the difficulty of introducing children to a new partner. We all wish to protect our children and not confuse them. Even when we are totally in love there is always a little ... (read in full...)
He says he's not opposed to marriage, so why are we just living as a married couple instead of actually being a married couple?
Q. My Boyfriend and I live as if we're married, but he says he wants to "let things happen" What is his real issue? My boyfriend and I live together for the last year, along with my three children. We share all the bills, house, vehicle, checkin...
A. 20 December 2006: Sounds like you have a fantastic relationship and nothing at all to worry about. A lot of men are just not that bothered about tying the knot. He probably feels quite happy and in love and content at the moment to not worry about it. It certainly ... (read in full...)
Will he be back??
Q. I wrote recently bout my boyfriend of eight months not seeing me much. I then had a chat with him where he told me he loved me and wanted a future with me and wanted to live with me one day. Then only six days later he has finished the relationship, ...
A. 13 December 2006: thankyou to all the answers I recieved, they helped. I have surprised myself by coping well with this ending. I have decide I will not contact him, even to be friends because I know he will be my friend and I just wont cope with seeing him purely in ... (read in full...)
My man is very into "Watersports" How common is this ???
Q. My boyfriend an i have a good relatioship and like to experiment, he recently confessed that he really wanted to give me a golden shower so i let him in the shower, i didnt mind it too much but wasnt great. He now bought porn with girls getti...
A. 6 December 2006: my man too quite like to pee on me. So it does me no harm so just let him if it turns him on and Im pleasing him then thats fine. Think its more common than we know. As long as its not hurting anyone its fine. Must say though does not really do ... (read in full...)
I'm already in love with him, how do I know if he feels the same???
Q. Okay well lets see I've liked this guy for a couple of years and he likes me also and well we just started dating. And Im afraid cause Im already in love with him. And now I dont know what to do cause he is all I want to be with and only person I ...
A. 6 December 2006: try not to be afraid, I know its hard, try to relax and enjoy your time with him. A man will almost always tell you he loves you when he does. And they like to be the first to say it. So be patient. YOu know how a man feels, by the way they behave ... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding someone who is also a virgin???
Q. Hi, I've been looking for someone who shares a similar sexual history as myself. I am a virgin and want to meet a girl who is as well. In fact my desire to be with another virgin is the primary reason I have waited. I think it would be a bit h...
A. 6 December 2006: Gosh, what happened to finding someone who you fall in love with and love spending time with. Sex is a part of a relationship not the whole. These days sex is more casual, and not so much emphasis is put onit. I think maybe you should give all ... (read in full...)
I'm already in love with him, how do I know if he feels the same???
Q. Okay well lets see I've liked this guy for a couple of years and he likes me also and well we just started dating. And Im afraid cause Im already in love with him. And now I dont know what to do cause he is all I want to be with and only person I ...
A. 6 December 2006: try not to be afraid, I know its hard, try to relax and enjoy your time with him. A man will almost always tell you he loves you when he does. And they like to be the first to say it. So be patient. YOu know how a man feels, by the way they behave ... (read in full...)
I don't think he feels the same by his actions but should I tell him how I feel???
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. It's strictly a friends with bennies and we only see each other about once a month because we live a distance from each other. I have fallen for this guy and don't know how to handle it. He ...
A. 6 December 2006: rather than tell him how you feel. I would ask him how he feels about you first. Then see what his answer is. If he says he thinks the world of you etc. maybe then you could jokingly say have you ever thought about taking this relationship further? ... (read in full...)
How can I focus my mental energy without taking on hobbies???
Q. What are some ways to focus your mental energy away from thinking about someone? I'm not looking for things to do e.g hobbies or stuff like that but rather ways to stop spending time looping on useless thoughts whilst doing things....
A. 6 December 2006: when you start to think about having what you call useless thoughts. Take a step back and focus really hard, and concentrate on exactly what you are doing at that time. Each day allow yourself a time slot to allocate time to go over all your little ... (read in full...)
He said "my girlfriend" and "your boyfriend" - does that mean we're back together?
Q. My ex and I have been spending a lot of time together lately. This past weekend he was making comments towards me like "My girlfriend" and "Your boyfriend". My question is, is this his way of saying that we're back together without exactly saying ...
A. 5 December 2006: Sounds like he thinks its back on. FRom my experience they dont use boyfriend and girlfriend terms unless they see it that way. Next time he says it laugh and say so Im your girlfriend am I, does that mean we are back on ? Think its pretty clear he ... (read in full...)
He has been going to a bar everynight for the past couple weeks, but lies about where he really is!
Q. Ok, I never thought I would come here, but if I don't get some insights I am going to do something incrediably stupid here. Everyone is different and does things in their own way, so I dont know if this will just add to my insecurities asking for ...
A. 5 December 2006: You poor thing what a funny thing. I personally would broach the subject with him it can be done without causing a fight. Just explain that you know he has been going to the bar and that you do trust him and tell him he does not need to lie if he ... (read in full...)
Dating for 9 weeks but he hasn't contacted me in 2 days!
Q. ok so...been seeing this guy 4 about 9 weeks now. at 1st he was perfect! ALWAYS taking me out, inviting me over and wanting to see me. We even went abroad together a few weeks ago. now hes moved into his new house and its all gone down hill! i ...
A. 30 November 2006: the thing is with men, when they have something new to occupy them, they do tend to switch off to us. Women tend to be thinking all the time whereas men tend to just concentrate on what they are doing at the time. Initially they chase and then the ... (read in full...)
Should the ladies cum first? (or after)
Q. I would like the ladies input on this one. Whenever I have sex, I like to ensure that my lady comes, either by manual or oral stimulation. I used to be a big believer in "the lady comes first" and then we'd have full sex. Now I'm not so sure....
A. 30 November 2006: majority of women dont come through penetration alone, so well done to you for doing the oral and stimulation thing. I think most women do like to come first also we realise that after you have come you often feel pretty worn out so probably not up ... (read in full...)
Everytime I talk to her she takes it the wrong way
Q. I just want to try this out before I register. I am having a problem and I am not really sure what to put it under. I will try to explain it as best I can. I have a "friend", well I am trying all I can to be friends with her. Without saying ...
A. 23 November 2006: i think you should just try to relax around her. It sounds like your very self aware of what you are saying all the time. You really must just be you. Try to compliment her on little things, not the obvious, like example I love the way you always ... (read in full...)
What do I do when I give her oral sex?
Q. HI!!! i hope u all can help me out on this one (especially guys and lesbians!!! :D): What am i doing when im down there by her crotch licking it??? advice? (sorry to put it so oddly phrased and child-like, but still, help?) thank you!...
A. 23 November 2006: definately, finger her whilst licking and to add that extra excitment finger her bumhole that feels great. also if you dont mind add a vibrato into the equation this can be fantastic guarenteened orgasm with that!!... (read in full...)
A past drunken cheat haunts me and I am feeling guilty. Do I tell my fiancee or not?
Q. I am getting married next year to a man who I am very much in love with and we have been together for six years. About three and half years ago I got very, very drunk, so much so that I went home with a guy and woke up the next day to discover we ...
A. 22 November 2006: No no dont tell him. Forgive yourself and move on you made a mistake it happens. By telling him you will cause him so much hurt and may ruin what must be a good relationship. You know you will never do it again you know you love him. So enjoy live ... (read in full...)
My bf is acting wierd and distant with me...what's going on with him?
Q. my boyfriend is acting all wierd around me and says hes really and when we text he answers in really short texts and i said "bye i luv u" and he didnt text back and i really love him cause hes such fun to be around. it all started really when we ...
A. 22 November 2006: ok for some reason he is backing off. So girl give him some emotional and physical space as painful as it is, wait for him to text when around him act casual and carefree. This space will give him time to think what a fab girl you are without him ... (read in full...)
She cheated and now I can't get the image of her and some other guy out of my mind!
Q. I've been with this girl for 3 years. She cheated and I'm trying to forgive her and give her a second chance because she realized she messed up. I am having trouble getiing visions out of my head of her giving oral and having sex with this guy. What ...
A. 22 November 2006: You have made a choice, that is to forgive her. Now you have another choice make it work or kill the relationship further. Every time the image of her cheating comes into your head, force yourself to think of something different, like a time when ... (read in full...)
My husband left me for a girl 15 years younger!
Q. dear cupid my husband left me 3 months ago we were married 21 years. he has told me he does not love me any moor and now he has strong feelings for a girl 15 years younger than him he is 39. When i asked him to give it another try he said no that ...
A. 22 November 2006: Right, put on your make up do your hair and if you can afford it buy some new clothes. Engineer get togethers as friends with him. When you do put on the best act ever act confident sure of yourself and happy. Then get out there, meet new people ... (read in full...)
Should I marry someone I am not in love with?
Q. Hello Agony Aunts and Uncles, My question is.....is it ok to settle with someone that you love but are not in love with?? I am debating as to whether marry my man, who is extremely good to me......however, I do know that I am not in love with ...
A. 17 November 2006: I did marry someone because it was safe and secure, and Im telling you it is not a great idea. Years later I craved passion and the real love feeling I got depressed at the thought of spending the rest of my days with this man. So with three ... (read in full...)
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