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writes: Hello, I need help. Should I stay with a guy or not? I do love him, and we have an amazing mental and physical connection, but he has five kids from earlier marriage, and my family and friends are not very accepting of me being with him (only my sister knows I date him) because they think I deserve better?I know that in a way I do: I have no baggage, I am a very nice person, very educated, independent, meaning I'm not a gold digger, I am OK, you know, I'm loyal, and a good family person. So, I dont know what to do? I am selling myself short?I tried breaking up with him, but we always get back together. Sometimes I think about marriage, and I'm scared. I dont know how would it all work out with all his baggage.He is a wonderul guy, and we get along superbly. Sometimes, I am intellectually bored. Thank you! Please answer my "question". What to do?
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (20 December 2006):
 marriage?marriage is a big thing to do as its a massive commitment if you get intellectually bored and you break up many times then i would not say that you are in a stable relationship , you mentioned love its a strong word to use do you live together alredy? if you do not then perhaps it would be a good idea to live together for a while and see how you get along when your with eachoter 24/7 i think if you wana b with him this much that it should not matter what ppl say at all but what you want 2 do , 5 kids that is a lot reali and you must ask urself are u prepared to look after 5 kids? its a challenge but if you love him go for it you dont appear ready for marraige quite yet have you spoken 2 him about this?does he no? i would suggest that you talk 2 him about how ur feeling and if you wana b with him enjoy the moment dont wory about where you should be or what your going to do but enjoy and follow your heart afterall onli u knows what is going to make u happy and what is good for u. if you still hav probs u cn talk 2 me or im sure the other advisers have advice 2 give xXx gud luk xXx
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reader, jabey  +, writes (20 December 2006):
I think that if you feel this ie the right guy for you, you should not worry about his children, yes it makes things more complicated, but everyone you meet will probably have something you dont like. On the other hand if you dont feel he is right for you then thats another story. In life if we meet someone we connect with and it feels right I believe you should hold on to that as its a very special thing. Never worry bout everyone elses opinion, after its your life and you are the one living it, and you know what will or wont make you happy. Only you can decide what is right for you, and worry about him as aperson. I think if you really loved him you would take on all he has. And actually that will make you an extremely amazing person. Good luck, do whats right for you, not for anyone else. Good luck
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