My boyfriend's mention of my recent weight gain has lowered my self esteem. I need some advice!
Q. Recently a close family friend died and ive put on a little weight because of it. My boyfriend mention the other day that i had put on a few and when i asked him if it bothered him he swore it didnt but i think it bothers him even if he wont admit ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think he's being really unreasonable and horrible, obviously you was going to be upset when your close friend passed away, so the thing girls usually do is comfort eat to make themselves feel better, I find it really inconsiderate that he'd even ... (read in full...)
I feel stuck in a loop and I don't know whether it's time to leave or what? I'm stuck and confused!
Q. I'm stuck in a loop and I don't know how it's going to work out!? Is it time to end it? Ok so I'm 14 and he's 15 I know it's young but please please understand and treat me like anybody else. I know relationships at my age aren't like ones for li...
A. 12 July 2012: Okay, so you've been together a year and you haven't kissed.
I don't know whether he's trying to make this be like a friendship so its easier for him to handle and so it doesn't get all serious too fast because he's scared, or if he genuinel... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend right to be annoyed about this, or was he wrong?
Q. Was my boyfriend right to be annoyed about this, or was he wrong ?. He was supposed to meet me at my house on Tuesday afternoon and then we were going to go to his house, but he didn't turn up. I was tempted to go round to his house anyway, but i ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think the fact he deleted you off facebook and then added you again was a little bit immature, but because of his bipolar condition I can obviously see why, because their mood changes at any point and their up and down, up and down, he obviously ... (read in full...)
My depression is really destroying my sex life. What can I do?
Q. Sex and depression, My depression is really destroying my sex life. I love him and want to get our spark back. I am attracted to him,It just doesn't feel the same as it used to. What can I do? [MODERATOR NOTE: Please specify why you are depresse...
A. 12 July 2012: I'm not totally sure why you're depressed or something, but if you talk to your boyfriend about stuff maybe he can help. If you two experience new things you've never done before maybe that will help, and you'll feel happier if you two are better ... (read in full...)
Do I sleep with our roommate to get the excitement back with my boyfriend or just over my crush on him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and think I've started falling for our roommate. Our relationship has always been rocky because of his ADHD and being Bipolar. He's expressed wanting to sleep with new girls just for the excitement ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think if you sleep with your room-mate whilst with your boyfriend its just going to be a constant affair where your constantly cheating on him with him because once you've done it once, you'll probably keep going back. It's not going to bring ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are just a hookup or a guy wants something more?
Q. How do you know if you are just a hookup or a guy wants something more? So I'm in college and from what I know about guys is if they just want a hookup, it usually after a drunk night and then the only time they want to talk to you is when you are ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think if a guy really likes you he will go out of his way to talk to you and try and spend time with you, in public or not, and sober or not. If he's just texting you on the nights your both going somewhere like a party and drinking, and using a ... (read in full...)
"Friends" with a chance of future romance?
Q. I shall keep this as simple and uncomplicated as possible. I met an amazing woman about three months ago via a strange (yet wonderful) twist of fate. We went out on several romantic dates, laid back lunches and were just enjoying getting to know one ...
A. 12 July 2012: Okay, so I definitely think there'something there by the sounds of it and obviously its clear she has got feelings for you, I just think the whole "horrible relationship" is stopping her because of past experiences, she doesn't want to get hurt and ... (read in full...)
I'm broke, unattractive, not successful, no education. What can I do?
Q. I'm young but I'm broke, unattractive, not successful, no education. Couldn't secure a scholarship to study in the top college and hence am still at my hometown. I'm unattractive with acne. I am penniless. I'm very upset with where I am now a...
A. 12 July 2012: Possibly go out there and find a job/career something that will make you happy because you'll be earning money.
There's always things for acne too, go to your doctors, theres tablets that stop it and creams, and obviously make-up.
Don't be down... (read in full...)
Why won't he help me out with household bills?
Q. i have been with the same man for 30 years we have been married for 26 years..he has never worked much.i have always been the one to work i got sick 3 year's ago and i can not work anymore..ok he started a job back in nov 2011i very glad he went to ...
A. 12 July 2012: This doesn't sound like someone you should be spending your lfie with, he sounds like he's turned into a nasty person since working obviously, and if he wants to live with you why isn't he contributing to the bills? I think you need to be harsh with ... (read in full...)
What can I do about Mum's comments about my relationship and why do I respond this way?
Q. I have been away for two days and my boyfriend didn't meet me at the train station on my return. The train station I was getting off at was a 10 - minute drive from his house. As I was close to home, he claimed he had a headache and therefore wa...
A. 12 July 2012: I really think your mum is kind of making this into a bigger deal then it needs to be made into, when your not feeling well you don't feel like going out of the house, and I certainly don't think you want to feel like driving, I think if you love ... (read in full...)
Does my boss mean he is getting attached to me or quite the contrary?
Q. I'm sort of seeing my boss and its agreed that there will be nothing serious for the moment...anyway, he's a fun guy, intelligent, helpful and (to me) very good-looking. The few times we spent together, he always has had to be on-call fir work. ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think he just misses the make out and the whole game your both playing with each other, guys love that sort of thing, where your not serious your just messing about, and obviously you haven't spent time together in a while, he might be lonely and ... (read in full...)
She was the one being annoying first!
Q. This is a friend question. Yesterday I drew a picture of my crush and my friend saw, and she took a picture and kept saying she was gonna show it to him. And she actually looked like she was gonna show him so I was jokingly like, if you show h...
A. 12 July 2012: I kind of get where your both coming from here; because in your defense she did start this and was threatening to show photos to your crush, but really if she did show the photo's what would it of done? You wouldn't of had to pay money or anythin... (read in full...)
Talking to my ex again but things are a little complicated, help?
Q. I currently started talking to my ex-fiance again but things are a little complicated and i don't know what exactly to think.... I was with my ex fiance for 6 years we broke up 2 years ago and then she contacts my sister saying she wanted to ta...
A. 12 July 2012: I think its clear she obviously missed you, but there must of being a reason you two broke up, and although it was really nice to have those two weeks with you where you was almost inseparable and talking all the time, I think she might like her ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make myself less upset about this?
Q. I started dating my best friend (of three years) two weeks ago. She is currently in a different state and has been gone for a month. I have seen her once in the month, and I think not being able to see her more often is causing me to become ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think you need to just hang out with different people, get a hobbie or something, take your mind off the fact that you're missing her, I think its normal to miss someone this much and when their usually around and there to call all the time its ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about moving there to be with him, is it possible with this age gap?
Q. Hi.. First thing excuses for my English. I will try to explain myself the best I can. I been separated for one year and a half. We didnt divorced yet. I live alone and have my own/independent life so I started to meet people here and there. ...
A. 12 July 2012: Gap age or no gap age, it doesn't matter about age, as long as your happy with the person.
I think when the divorce goes through and things, and you need to think about jobs over there and where your going to stay then think about leaving,... (read in full...)
Now that he has a new girlfriend, I'm jealous, should I delete my ex from Facebook
Q. Should I delete my ex from Facebook? We dated two years ago and have been friends for two years. But for the past couple of months, I've been obsessing over him after learning of his new girlfriend. It's distracting me from my studies and completely ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think you can actually hide him off your wall and things, but probably deleting him would be better, if you didn't have feelings for him before and you do now its probably just because he has a new girlfriend and you were the one he used to pay ... (read in full...)
My peers pick on me for not dating in my age group, but I'm only attracted to older men/
Q. So I'm seventeen(Will be eighteen in a few months) and I am not at all attracted to guys my age. I only have crushes on men thirty and older. I have accepted this by now whether it because I have "daddy issues" as someone once told me or not. The ...
A. 12 July 2012: Its not up to anyone else who you date or who you like, its up to you since your the one thats going to be hanging out with them and being with them, they obviously need to accept the fact your into older men, its not a strange thing, some people ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my jealousy?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man I love. We live together but I am so jealous. I get jealous when he talks to other girls or even watches television. He loves the show "So you think you can dance" and I hate it. I get sick to my stomach every ...
A. 12 July 2012: Its probably from your previous bad relationships, but you need to get over this either get help or sort it out in your own way, because you might eventually drive him into the ground with your relationship too.
Not every man is actually the same... (read in full...)
Please help! LDR, does she love the same way that I do?
Q. I met a wonderful girl and im such in love with her, but everything happened very fast and im a little bit skceptical. I met her a year ago but we didnt go out until last month, we spent a whole month together but now she is back to her country....
A. 12 July 2012: Long distance relationships are always going to be hard, and its a two person thing, you can't be putting all the work in and she's not putting any in or not getting in contact, its worse when you live so far apart, because its like a cut off, and ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this person's depression?
Q. I know how depression is and I understand it is hard to deal with alone. Any how My good friend is depressed and always runs away from their problems as they are depressed they are too scared to face reality and decide to use drugs and alcohol as an ...
A. 12 July 2012: Sit down with them, sober.
Discuss whats going on, how their feeling and things, and if they're just going to overlook it and act like nothings going on, its really not your problem, you can't help someone unless they let you help them, and it s... (read in full...)
I think we're into each other, but I'm not sure what to do.
Q. i'm in love with my friend's ex-girl, i'm afraid to tell her. It seems she loves me also coz she's been disturbing me with late night calls. What should i do?...
A. 12 July 2012: You should probably drop her into conversation with your friend, see if he still feels anything for her, its better to ask or to find out if he has then to just go for it you don't want to lose a friend and upset him or hurt his feelings in the ... (read in full...)
I take things too personally, and am afraid he my get tired of it and break up. Help!
Q. I am dating a guy of 16 for like 7months now but somehow i kinda of always screw things up.Am kinda too sensitive and take things too personally and he hates things but most times i can't help it.Now am scared that he may soon get tired of me and ...
A. 12 July 2012: I just think you should think before you speak in this case, rethink whether your just being sensitive and paranoid, which most girls are.
He should love you for what you are though if you can't help it its not your fault, its in your nature, ... (read in full...)
Should I just stop talking to him?
Q. Well, I'm a 17 year-old whom has been talking to a 20 year-old man. He's openly gay, trying to break stereotypes associated with gays, which really inspires me, and I really like him. I felt like we really connected with eachother, we both have ...
A. 12 July 2012: The whole I love you thing could be enough to scare him, just scare though, I don't know if he's afraid of getting serious with anyone, or anything.
Don't feel you should be making effort with him when he's making zero back, especially only whe... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel or will that ruin everything?
Q. So there is this guy whom I met about four months ago. We met the first time at a bar and we both knew about each other but we had never met because our families are close so we had both heard a lot about each other. We started talking and we came ...
A. 11 July 2012: I think before changing your whole relationship you should probably meet him whilst sober, when your drunk lots of different emotions come out that you wouldn't normally feel, so whether its just because you've had a drink or something you need to ... (read in full...)
I'm having strange fantasies about my female friend....what does this mean?
Q. Im gonna try to be as short as possible. To be honest i never thought i wud ever fall in love with a girl. Since my childhood ive always loved boys and never a girl. I just realised yesterday when this friend of mine (girl) came to my house party, ...
A. 11 July 2012: I think this is just something everyone goes through once, discovering the opposite and the same sex.
It doesn't mean your a lesbian or bisexual, you just thought it was nice or something, you just need to relax and discover more into your sex... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to honey trap my now ex, especially as he went for it hook line and sinker?
Q. Was I wrong to honey trap my now ex, especially as he went for it hook line and sinker?? We had been dating for a few months when he went suddenly distant, and reactivated his dating profile (he's on my favourites list so I get notifications of...
A. 11 July 2012: Maybe he wasn't so serious about you before and thats why he was keeping his options open, its not actually acceptable but some people are like that.
But the other side of it is, is that he has just announced these feelings for you in order fo... (read in full...)
Why do women insist on pursuing a man knowing that he's in a relationship?
Q. This question is primarily for females. Why is it when u meet someone new or connect with someone from ur past and one of u are in a relationship with someone else, WHY DO WOMEN PERSIST ON SEDUCING THE PERSON KNOWING THEIR IN A RELATIONSHIP? Is it ...
A. 11 July 2012: I really don't think some females are that bothered whether the guys in a relationship, because some men would let them have it on with them anyway, and some people like the challenge, the fact they could get caught and it'd be like interesting for ... (read in full...)
Would you stay if your b/f cheated and said he wanted to change?
Q. If your boyfriend cheated on you. Said he was sorry and wanted to get help becasue he felt so bad hurting you. And he started going to coucneling to talk about these issues and solve them. would you stay? would you believe he wanted to change? would ...
A. 11 July 2012: I think deep down everyone would obviously want to believe that they could change, and things, and never cheat again, but your young and I'm guessing he's young, and your going to have hard times, and he's going to go through tough things, and meet ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone that you have never been with and never will be with?
Q. How do you get over someone who you have never been with? I need help desperately, as i feel happy whenever this person is around, yet i have never been with them, and i know i never will. Please help. x...
A. 11 July 2012: Its harder to forget someone you never have been with because your always wondering what it will be like, I do get that.
But if you know your never going to be together, like 100% never going to happen, then its time to move on, there's plently ... (read in full...)
I want to spend time with my girlfriend minus her friends. How do I tell her?
Q. Hey everyone i really need your help. How do i go about tellin my girlfriend that i want to spend some time alone with her? Everytime we talk or try and spend some time together her friends always have to tag along even when we do not invite them. ...
A. 11 July 2012: Your supposed to spend alone time in a relationship with someone I'm sure she wouldn't want your friends around all the time, go gently about talking to her though, just tell her how you feel, and that your in a relationship with her not all her ... (read in full...)
Why would ex send me a message and then not reply?
Q. My ex sent me a text message tonight asking how i was. I responded saying i was ok and asked how he was, but he hasn't replied. Should i try texting him again sometime or see if he gets intouch with me again ?. Why would he send me a message and ...
A. 11 July 2012: This is probably because he still cares about you and thinks about you and just wanted to check whether your ok or not, or wanting to build up conversation.
They could be more reasons why he didn't reply, maybe because he just wanted to see if y... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my ex, or stay with my new man?
Q. First off before i start i wanna say ive never had luck finding the right guy! So i was dating my ex for 6 months we fell in love and all that and he was great well i cheated on him and it totally changed everything of course how he treated me and ...
A. 11 July 2012: Obviously you can't love any of them that much because you cheated on your ex boyfriend, and your wondering whether you should leave your new man for someone else. It seems like you just keep wanting to wander off into other relationships wi... (read in full...)
Will I ever be able to forget what he's done to me?
Q. My boyfriend has beat me more than a couple times before and hasn't in a period of time and has told me he wouldn't ever again but I am scared of him im scared a lot of the time and if he gets really mad at me he threatens to choke me or beat me but ...
A. 11 July 2012: The fact of the matter is, how hard it is to hear this, he probably isn't going to change and only says he won't do it again because he doesn't want you to leave him and he doesn't want to lose you.
No matter how good things are, things always g... (read in full...)
Am I just being paranoid or should I be worried?
Q. Would it be considered a joke if a not very close friend texted you "Go f*** yourself, MWAH XOXO" and then waits til the next day to say it was just a joke or is that straight out bullying? :/ What am I suppose to do? It feels like people are gang...
A. 11 July 2012: It just seems like they want to be bitchy because you chose to do something without them and then leave without then, its jealousy really, and trust me the whole "MWAH XOXO" thing is sarcastic, whether they meant it as a joke or not, doesn't seem ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 11 July 2012: Why rush it if you don't want it to be horrible? Most people say their first times aren't their best experiences anyway, but you should want to share it with someone special not someone you just want to lose it with because you want to lose it not ... (read in full...)
Is he nervous or does he not find me attractive?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 4 years (I was 14 when we got together and he was 15). When we first got together we didn't even discuss sex and just kept with kissing and fooling around. Once we had been together a year we decided ...
A. 10 July 2012: I think he's probably just nervous and you shouldn't worry, all first times are a little awkward, but as long as you two know you want to be together you don't need to re-think anything.
Why would he be with someone he thought wasn't attracti... (read in full...)
Our parents don't know about each other yet, what excuse can we use for him to come and visit me?
Q. I finally got a good boyfriend but the problem is he lives 1 state away. We need an excuse for him to come down when he gets his licence to be with me on the weekends and a place to stay. Our parents dont know about us yet so it kind of complicated...
A. 10 July 2012: Say your really good friends?
You should be allowed to tell your parents anything whether their reaction, and when you do tell them they should be happy for you, as long as he's a good guy there's nothing wrong with that, and its not like your the... (read in full...)
Should all men last an hour in bed?
Q. My friends all think a guy should last an hour in bed, but my bf and i dont. We were both virgins and lost it to one another, and we are still getting use to it so therefore he cums quickly. Do you have any proof that this is a normal thing, and my ...
A. 10 July 2012: No, of course all guys aren't meant to last an hour.
Thats not normal, your friends are probably trying to brag that they apparently have better sex life then you or trying to put it across that way, and that they've had better sex then you've e... (read in full...)
How do I make this awful feeling go away?
Q. I have been dating a man for about 6 months, we were friends for 6 months before that. He lived with a woman for 15-17 years before we meet, (they broke up 1 year before we started dating) At some point they became engaged. I do not know much ...
A. 10 July 2012: If you feel this way you should probably be careful and go steady with him, he probably wants to get married to you because his other relationship went so fast he feels he wants to get back to that stage but with you and rush all the first bits and ... (read in full...)
Is this a relationship I should stay in?
Q. I was with my ex partner for 3 years, we have a 2 year old son together. I recently ended the relationship due to him being very controlling. However he seems to think he isn't controlling and hasn't done anything wrong I just wanted to tell you his ...
A. 10 July 2012: I think you already know that he's not good for you and that your not good in a relationship with him, your not gonna want to take anyone elses advice when you know whats right inside your heart, he's trying to control you, your not going to be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't understand how bad my problems are?
Q. I have a huge amount of family issues going on. My boyfriend knows this, but somehow it doesnt seem to effect him and he goes on with his own life. This is making me really angry, because everytime I really need to confide something in him...
A. 10 July 2012: I think you need to talk to HIM about this because until you address your issues with him he'll never know how you feel or what you think he's doing wrong.
Guys sometimes don't know how to react with things, so he might think giving you your spa... (read in full...)
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