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writes: i give my boyfriend oral and he always comes but he hasn't done it for me - we haven't had many chances to do it since i started giving him oral so maybe that's why. but assuming he never does it back, would this be unfair? because i've never orgasmed with him and idk if fingering is gonna cut it. or should i just accept it as something he doesn't want to do?
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reader, DoubleM  + ♥, writes (31 March 2009):
 Of course it is unfair, and probably selfish. I'll agree with "satindesire" as usual, you should talk with him about your sex life, which seems mainly "his" sex life, but oral pleasures are a delight that should be both given and received.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (30 March 2009):
 You absolutely need to talk to him about this.
Don't be passive-aggressive about it, and stop giving him oral and wait for God knows how long before he asks. It could be MONTHS before he brings it up. That's not the right way to deal with this situation...that's the exact WRONG way and you'll only serve to piss him off since you didn't talk to him about it WAY SOONER. (I'd be upset too, that's just mean.)
Do the right thing and explain to him how your body works. Talk to him about sex, this is something you SHOULD HAVE DONE way before you two started even sleeping together.
Most young men have no idea what on earth a clitoris is...they don't have one, they don't know what or where it is or even if they DO KNOW, they don't have any idea how to stimulate it properly. It's YOUR job to teach him how to please you. He can't read your mind and trust me, porn does not teach a man jack squat about REAL sex. He probably doesn't know that you can't have an orgasm from intercourse, and probably doesn't even know how to perform oral sex on a woman.
Please be patient and explain these things to him. If you won't teach him how to be good in bed, then future women that come after you will suffer silently just like you did, waiting for him to magically know how to bring them to orgasm. Women don't talk about this to their boyfriends for some strange reason...don't be one of those women.
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reader, funnyintit  +, writes (30 March 2009):
 there's a possibility that he has never given oral sex before
he might be afraid to try and look like an idiot that doesn't know what he's doing.
on the other hand he might not like doing it, but still i think he should try at least..
you haven't said anything to him so he's getting away with not giving you that pleasure.
maybe you should mention it at some point, not during a passionate moment because that could make things uncomfortable if he really really doesn't want to...
if you accept it as something he just doesn't want to do, it won't last with him, because by the way your talking he's not satisfying you enough sexually in other ways...
good luck. :)
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (30 March 2009):
 Well if he doesn't want to do it to you then I don't think you should give him the pleasure of oral either. Fair is Fair, right? I'm sure you're not always super happy or comfy giving him head, so if that's his excuse then whatever!
Let him know you need lovin' too! it's not all about him!
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reader, Helpful_In_Ohio +, writes (30 March 2009):
 Forget time hun he is taking what you give and making excuses when its time for him to eat. Stop giving him head and wait till he asked why then tell him and tell him. its your time and your waiting. he will get the hint trust me he is getting his cake and eating it too . you need to stop being silly
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