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... Send *appy140 a private message | | | *appy140's profile:divorced 31 years ago,and have now been married 31 years, 2 young adults (our children) in ther twenties, been thru it all-good times and bad-rich and poor-from nothing to having everything-learning what I tought LOVE was to what it REALLY IS-I have learned that loving someone isn't about yourself, as many believe-it's about the one you love-never marry the one you cannot live without-marry the one you can live with---I reside in MD and have an unrivaled passion for my wife stronger than the day I met her (I thought she was to beautiful to go out with me-but she accepted anyway and she thought I was a foul mouthed ex-sailor)--how? why? why would I even want to?---because she is the part of me that the higher power left for me to find, to help me make myself a better person and a better man!! I love looking at women, all so different,shaply,sexy, some I may look at and think "what a sexy woman" (never thought I want to be single again and to be with "her") but that is far from the norm, I like to admire how hard women work at themselves, in shape (to me men are generically the same rough size and shape), clothes, makeup, etc.. and me, as a typical male, I'm very visual (something most women NEED TO LEARN along with "men need to have sex to cuddle-and a woman needs to cuddle to have sex"--its hard to work out but it does work!) ,she knows that and accepts it becuase she is on the recieving end of that admiration-I just need to be polite about looking--great compromise I think-remember sex is just sex until your married-then you should be able to open up, talk and NEVER NEVER EVER NEVER think "one way" sex is selfish-it's about showing your spouse how much you love making them happy |
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Info about BJ's please
Q. Alright so I'm quite up for basically anything sexually, but I've never given a blowjob. I want to make my boyfriend happy and I really wouldn't mind doing it, but curiosity is killing me. I was just wondering, what does cum taste like, and what is ...
A. 21 August 2011: The most important thing is wetness. A wet (saliva) BJ is SOO much better than a dry one. The area under the head is the most sensitive, a great place it use the tip of your tongue on. Putting the head in your mouth and rolling your tongue around ... (read in full...)
How can I know if this online guy is for real? Or married?
Q. hi i am new here, I am at my middle age, I want to share my recent experiences meeting a guy in online dating site, and i need some advice, thank you for taking your time to read my message. I opened an account in an online dating March this yea...
A. 11 August 2011: Try "Bennverified" and no I would NEVER consider marring someone I had NOT MET in person-NEVER... (read in full...)
Trouble reaching orgasm.....
Q. I am an otherwise healthy male who has no trouble getting or maintaining erections. However, my problem is that it takes me a long time to orgasm and when I finally do it doesn't feel quite as great as it used to and the quantity of semen produced...
A. 9 August 2011: I have been in the same boat, still am in fact. Around 40-45 things got to be more difficult. My doctor stated it was normal for me. Erections are not a problem but it seems I need more DIRECT STIMULATION to get to orgasm. Even masturbating has ... (read in full...)
How can I know if this online guy is for real? Or married?
Q. hi i am new here, I am at my middle age, I want to share my recent experiences meeting a guy in online dating site, and i need some advice, thank you for taking your time to read my message. I opened an account in an online dating March this yea...
A. 9 August 2011: Have you Googled his name? Try one of those online back ground check companies. You probably have enough info to ensure you lookup the right guy. You can never be sure nowadays so a small $30. or so fee is a small price to pay for your security.... (read in full...)
I get extremely excited when boyfriend kisses me or holds my hand
Q. Ok this is gonna sound strange but I need to know is this normal. Every time I hold hand or just kiss my boyfriend I cum. I don't know what it is but it just happens like if being honest he hasn't been in my trousers yet but he just so romantic and ...
A. 7 August 2011: Do not be embarrassed. I saw a special on TV about woman who has the same issue. They cum at the slightest touch or vibration. One young woman came whenever her cell phone vibrated. There is a diagnosis for that and has been documented in the ... (read in full...)
He wants to be tied up, I need a confidence booster, help me please??
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend are 17, we have been together 6 months now and recently we’ve been getting a lot more intimate. We havnt had sex, Im not quite ready yet so he has promised we’ll wait until I am but he does finger me and I give him handjobs ...
A. 7 August 2011: I think the all day teaser works best and it allows you time to accept the outcome. Tell him you have pantie hose that you are going to use tonight. Tell him later it is to tie him up so you can have your way with him. Many women enjoy being in ... (read in full...)
My wife left me whilst I was away in Iraq and all she left was a note saying 'I'm sorry'!
Q. I just returned from Iraq on leave today to find my apartment empty. My wife took my son, my dog, and emptied my bank account...The one thing she left was a note on her side of the bed with her wedding ring was a note that simply said "I'm sorry". ...
A. 7 August 2011: What a cold heatded B-Thanks for your service, and while its sad you fight so people can have the freedom to do those types of things and the remark about it being your decision to fight for our country and you got what you knew you were getting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is wide. I've never had kids, so what is he talking about?
Q. I'm 18. I've sex with my bf. But he said my vaginal is wide, he feels its empty when he puts it in. I dont know why my vaginal is wide. He's normal, not too big and not too small. I never have kid or abortion. I dont know why. Who can explain it to ...
A. 7 August 2011: You do NOT need to have kids to have a larger opening. If you masturbate with the largest dildo on the planet the opening will adjust and become wider. Think about it if you stretch something long enough it loses its elasticity. I’m by NO MEANS ... (read in full...)
Words or action, which speaks the truth about this man?
Q. They say action speak louder than words, but I'd like to hear it one more time from you aunts please. My boyfriend says one thing, but his body language and actions make me wonder if his word alone is good enough. He tells me he loves me, yet ke...
A. 7 August 2011: You are not being forgotten, you are being used. When he comes over I bet he gets sex. Things are great when you are together because at that time he needs or wants you. The rest of the time you are not needed. Sounds like he has another ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is dull and she told me she has no desire and thinks she will never have the desire again!
Q. I have been married to my wife for 10 years next month. Our sex life has been very dull over the last few years. Recently we had some issues with our marriage and has been very rocky to say the least over the last 5 months. We have not had sex in ...
A. 7 August 2011: "I understand women hold on to those feelings for long periods of time...what would you suggest is my next step? I have apologized countless times and try to show extreme sensitivity daily to her and show her that I care. She tells me she sees that ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is dull and she told me she has no desire and thinks she will never have the desire again!
Q. I have been married to my wife for 10 years next month. Our sex life has been very dull over the last few years. Recently we had some issues with our marriage and has been very rocky to say the least over the last 5 months. We have not had sex in ...
A. 7 August 2011: The statement she will never have the desire again means she pushing you out-she doesn't want intamitcy or to be close to you at all and that is her excuse to do that, to keep you away, her form of torture. When the lack of sex happens via a flat ... (read in full...)
How can I vent my feelings without involving anyone?
Q. hey i have a small problem and i'll try to be quick when telling you about it. i have have alot of suppressed emotions. stuff i refuse to let out because there's never an appropriate time. but i'm getting to the point where these emotions are...
A. 7 August 2011: try writing a letter or writing in word (on the computor) this releases alot of stress. It may not seen like it would but you will be surprised and even more surprised how you feel a month from now when you read it. It worked well in the past for ... (read in full...)
How long does sperm live after ejaculation?
Q. How long does sperm last for, once its out of your body? the other day i masturbated in the shower, and i was really paranoid about cleaning everything up spotless with the fear of having my sister showering later, i began thinking that if there had ...
A. 2 August 2011: Taken from Wikapedia
Outside body
Sperm outside of the body generally has a life expectancy which is considered to depend on pH, temperature, presence of air and other factors, and is unpredictable but smaller than the life expectancy i... (read in full...)
I'm worried the honeymoon phase is slipping away.....
Q. Hey, i'm a little worried at my attitude to my relationship with my bf and need some advice. We've been together 10 months, both work full time (shifts) and don't live together. At first, it was lust for me, but after several months, I realised I ...
A. 2 August 2011: “I guess my questions are: how can I maintain the honeymoon relationship phase for longer”
I honeymoon definitely gets “over” but it should move into something better such as I feel mine has. No more trying to impress and not being 100% what you ... (read in full...)
If its not sex that keeps him coming back what is it?
Q. There is this guy that has been in my life for 7 yrs now, our confusing situation started back in 2004 I was 15 and he was 16. We dated briefly and the relationship ended before it got started because of my immaturity. Throughout the years we have ...
A. 2 August 2011: As one who had, and to some degree still has, issues opening up I see his point. We do not open for fear of that intimacy being used against us. If you are pissed for six months at a time I bet you say things that really dig at and hurt his ... (read in full...)
He feels he needs to be there for his ex and I cant understand why he would want to do this.....
Q. help!!!!!!im in a great relationship-i think? i have a wonderful boyfriend that was in a previous relationship with a lady that was 10 years older than him and on drugs. he loved her-she never loved him. we have been dating almost 7 months. she ...
A. 11 July 2011: Men love to protect-we need to do that-she may be an ex but he knows she needs to be looked after and feels the need to do so-he will grow out of this in time--how long? We feel we have to protect our woman no matter the cost... (read in full...)
Want to be more Naughty in bed!!
Q. Me and my bf have started talking about different things we would like to try in bed. And this is really good because lately things have been lacking a bit. Like I love sex and trying all sorts of things but I wouldnt say I have any extreme fetishes ...
A. 22 May 2011: “I think he wants me to be more aggressive and domineering in bed. I am the sort of gal who likes a guy who likes to take control and be domineering.” This one is not to difficult, I need to put your mind in the area that your “master”, him bein... (read in full...)
Does Smiling REALLY matter?
Q. Does "smiling" REALLY matter?? Been "told" I'm "pretty" and have a nice "smile" (hardly ever use it though) but I never believe it. I don't think I'm "pretty" at all. ...
A. 16 May 2011: We are our harshest judge. We beat ourselves up pretty bad sometimes. If you do not think your pretty it is partly because you cannot see yourself as other can. If you are told you are pretty then you are to that person, except their compliment. ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy only wants sex or does he really care about you?
Q. Hi guys. Can you tell me how you know a guy only wants to sleep with you? Are there signs, things he does, says, etc. that shows you he only wants sex with you? And if he really cares about you as a person and has feelings for you besides the...
A. 23 April 2011: Back when I was a pig and treated women that way and all I wanted was sex I would 1) I would call at the last minute and do a REALLY cheap date 2) I would ask them if they wanted to get a room or go parking after the cheap date 3) I would have n... (read in full...)
My dad hasn't worked in 3 months and my family is falling apart!
Q. I feel like my family is falling apart. My dad hasn't worked in over 3 months I feel like this is a big part of the problem. This has been putting a lot of stress on the family my mom is starting and organization for women in need who are abuse and ...
A. 23 April 2011: You are going to find this hard but you have a better chance of finding a job than your father. He needs to find a job that will pay for his gas, mortgage, grocery bill, electric bill, water bill, gas bill, insurance bill, heath insurance bill, kid ... (read in full...)
I discovered my husband watches porn...I am threatening divorce
Q. Hi, I have been reading various questions and answers recently and have a question of my own to ask you all: About 5 years ago I discovered husband had been watching porn, I came across this quite innocently while looking through our music librar...
A. 23 April 2011: So let me get this straight. Instead of looking at porn you would rather he find a mistress and really cheat on you instead of finding an outlet that he considers is not cheating. Then to top that off you think that because he is married he no ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I can't take on one more thing, but if I don't I'll feel guilty. Please help.
Q. Im in a very tough spot in life.....What can i do, if I simply run out of energy taking care of others problems around me ? My life got out of hand a few years ago, living in personal hell. I can't list the things I' dealing with, because m...
A. 16 April 2011: "But my family can’t understand this and guilt tripping me that i am ignorant. “ Ignorant of what? I have people in my life who think they are stressed to the limit and want my understanding or sympathy or what ever they are looking for. Ninety ... (read in full...)
What do the men look for in a woman? Do they only want sex?
Q. Question for guys Its a pretty simple one but you see i am finding it hard to find a guy who wants me for me . Only want me for sex really im not nasty at all or ugly... Broad question for you all What do guys look for in a woman ?...
A. 16 April 2011: Utmost and foremost for me is someone who wants me to be happy. Someone who does things for me, not because I am lazy or she is submissive but because she wants to do things for me. Anywhere from making me a sandwich to making love. Second, ... (read in full...)
At what age is a woman no longer attractive?
Q. When does a woman lose her "hotness"? What age is considered no longer attractive? I would love to hear all opinions from women, men, all ages. Thanks!...
A. 16 April 2011: When I was 20 I thought the cut off was when a woman reaches her 30’s. That was then, and then I grew up. I will say I am applaude at some of the shallow comments made by some men here, totally SHALLOW. I am 56 and my wife is 50. She says I s... (read in full...)
Is taking a girl's anal or oral virginity important???
Q. Is taking a girl's anal or oral virginity important? I know there is no such thing but this is best way to describe it? or is vaginal the only one guys care about?...
A. 17 December 2010: a girl's anal or oral virginity is to most guys a given. Men want sex, so do woman but they have something they can “save” for the special guy and still have sex vaginal the only one guys care about? Hard cold and fast YES YES It took more wi... (read in full...)
How do I recreate that spark we once shared?
Q. Hi, is it possible to give my some tips on how I am to get back with my gf. We broke up recently due to some misunderstandings. We've been together for 5 years. Now she just treats me as a friend. We still call, we still can go out but not as usual. ...
A. 2 December 2010: Do not think changing for her will change you forever. You have to change for yourself, and then the change will be automatic when you do something. I hate to say it but I believe she wants to move on and is letting you hang on and think it is ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is going under!
Q. I need help badly my I really feel as if my relationship is going under I am seriously in love with my gf but she says she loves me but she's not in love with me. All we do is fight because I am sensitive and thinks I am a pussy and immature she ...
A. 2 December 2010: You in the only opposites attract relationship that will not work. You truly need to find someone more caring as things will just get worse. You always hear “I want a sensitive man” That the biggest load of crap I have ever heard. That is not ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex?
Q. I am not sure if I should have sex or not and I was hoping for some input based on the following 1. I REALLY want to have sex 2. I trust my partner and have been with him for three years. 3. I feel at 25 I should be having sex or at least ...
A. 2 December 2010: I was shocked to read your “OLD” for a virgin. What is wrong with giving that gift to your husband if you want? I do not think every relationship needs to have sex. If you want to wait, wait, if not, do not. Virginity has become as common giving ... (read in full...)
Gland under tongue swells up after I have sex with certain partner. Could I be allergic to his semen or something?
Q. I have two regular partners right now, and have had 3 others. For some reason, one of the guys I'm seeing now, in some way or another, makes the little gland below my tongue, at the center, swell up. This has never happened to me with any of my o...
A. 2 December 2010: You could be irating it do to his size and not semen; however some women do have side affects from some men’s semen. He may have a spicy or citrus diet and that gets passed on through the fluids. You need to ask or at least tell him wants going ... (read in full...)
How do I recreate that spark we once shared?
Q. Hi, is it possible to give my some tips on how I am to get back with my gf. We broke up recently due to some misunderstandings. We've been together for 5 years. Now she just treats me as a friend. We still call, we still can go out but not as usual. ...
A. 2 December 2010: Have you tried just being honest, maybe she feels the same way. The more time that passes the harder it will be. Bring her flowers when you go out (that works to deter men from talking to her. Invite her somewhere romantic WITHOUT telling her ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sending her boss inappropriate emails!
Q. I just learned that my girlfriend had a boss and they sent personal e-mails back and forth to one another such as Hey Sexy and Hey Handsome. In fact, her boss mentioned in an e-mail that he missed her to baby and signed it by saying xoxo, hugs. She ...
A. 2 December 2010: That happen in my company, he was fired after 31 years and she was demoded 5 grades. Tell her e-mail is forever in a sever and monitered by most companies.... (read in full...)
Do we get married in his country or mine?
Q. my boyfriend and i are planning on getting married, but i am not sure what we are supposed to do.he is from another country, although he has been here for few years now. is it easier for us to marry here or in his country? and what is required for ...
A. 2 December 2010: Remember many cultures don't accept anothers marrige license. Have something small in both and avoid the family issues sure to arise.... (read in full...)
I want to be with my ex but I'm stuck with my husband!
Q. Okay. So, I have been married to my husband for about a month, and so far it has been horrible.We dated our Junior and Senior year of high school and then we broke up. I ended up dating someone else for a year and I was absolutely in love with him. ...
A. 2 December 2010: I am guessing this:
“I already know that the trial is going to suck. I actually hope for the trial to fail. I want to be with him more than anything.”
…Do you mean you want your husband back? The difference is staring back at you. Yo... (read in full...)
I can't end things with my ex and I'm not sure if I want to.
Q. I entered into an entirely sexual relationship with my ex-boyfriend. He has a "fiance" if only in name. I know it was stupid, but i REALLY have become attached to him. I think i may be in love with him again. I know that this has to end soon and ...
A. 2 December 2010: I think if you look at it morally you would stop. What if your boyfriend had an ex? In addition, he was still close to her, how would you feel after knowing what you did (maybe she the same way?). Being a man and knowing how I was when I was ... (read in full...)
My wife asked me to let her sleep with other men, but doesn't want to let me sleep with other women!
Q. Ok, So my wife and I have been married for almost 3 years. It's a very good relationship, we are quite open with eachother, we don't hide things and almost never argue. our sex is, I would say, above average... not too much but not too little ...
A. 30 November 2010: All your added info has no bearing unless she "turns" which I don't think will ever happen your here soal mate and father of the kid. Many orientals I have found have that desire. If you can enjoy it let her try it... (read in full...)
My wife asked me to let her sleep with other men, but doesn't want to let me sleep with other women!
Q. Ok, So my wife and I have been married for almost 3 years. It's a very good relationship, we are quite open with eachother, we don't hide things and almost never argue. our sex is, I would say, above average... not too much but not too little ...
A. 30 November 2010: Well let me say this –GO FOR IT!!! I let my wife do it and it opened our relationship up. It got the urges out of her mind and she was able to compare dick size, girth, and styles of sex. She would come home and tell me and we would go at it. My ... (read in full...)
I'm entitled to explore my sexuality but I don't want my boyfriend to join in!
Q. I have a boyfriend who I love, but.... I've always wanted to try being with a girl. It's something I want to do on my own, so would it be terrible of me to do this and tell him afterwards? I came close to doing it last year when I first entered ...
A. 30 November 2010: That is a tuff call. As a man yes I would want to join in but as from a woman’s perspective I understand the need to be with just her alone. No matter what you chose its CHEATING, period, no other way to look at it EXCEPT, talk to him and tell him ... (read in full...)
Is this normal for a guy to not be able to finish?
Q. my boyfriend is 36 and im only 24. the other night we kinda hit a bump in our sex life and since i have never dated anyone this much older than me im not sure if what happened is normal and Idk what to think. we were having sex and everything was ...
A. 30 November 2010: Young woman worry about that-older woman do not -why, they have come to understand a mans body and his stress-there are times we ar like a woman sexually-we want to be inside you, cuddle but we don't need an orgasm. It dosen't mean we don't want or ... (read in full...)
Does nothing turn him on?
Q. I've been with my bf for around 9 month and everything is good with us. I was lay in bed with him the other day and we was talking about what turns us on and gets us going. So I told him everything he already knows like kissing my neck, nibbling...
A. 29 November 2010: Oh, I think he knows. In his defense how does he tell you he likes to watch you give head or masturbate or any other out of the ordinary sexual activity if he thinks you will find it offensive. He needs to open up and you need to let him know that ... (read in full...)
Are you SURE he isn't flirting with me?
Q. Ok, I have asked about 3 of my friends this and they can't give me an answer. I have this guy friend "Chris", we met last year in class and have been friends sense. I immediately fell for him and wasnt sure if he did. He would always flirt wit...
A. 21 October 2010: As a male-he likes you! No if ands or buts, he like you. When we do something stupid like tossing a bottle at you to get your attention we sometimes think how stupid that was and we pull back hence his not talking to you. Silliness is how a shy ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend touchy feely! Is it just about sex?
Q. I am with my boyfriend for four years now. He is a very caring person and I love him a lot. But My question is that he is very touchy-feely. Whenever he is with me he cannot keep his hands off me . He never can just hug me or kiss me without trying ...
A. 21 October 2010: Your young and need to understand men a little more. Yes we always want sex and no we do not always expect it or expect you to want it. I am also a touchy feely person. I like the physical contact; it makes me feel closer to the one I am with. ... (read in full...)
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