Testicular trauma
Q. I don't like sex as much as I want to because I have sustained testicular trauma in early adolescence. I don't like to think about it, even if its a constant reality that even affects my physical appearance to the world. In what ways to you thin...
A. 12 August 2010: I don't really understand your question "In what ways to you think that this impairs my life to a level that is significant?"
Are you asking about how it affects you on a biological level? I feel like this is a biology quiz.
I'm intereste... (read in full...)
Do I break it off with my fiance and try to get back with my high school sweetheart
Q. Ok here is my Issue. I just got engaged to a guy I have been dating for 7 months. He is a wonderful guy. He takes care of me and puts me first in everything. The problem is every sunday I see my first love. He and i dated for 3 years off and on, and ...
A. 12 August 2010: Well, you've told us about your fiance (you've known him for 7 months, he takes care of you, he puts you first, he's a wonderful guy), but what about this high school sweetheart?
What traits does he have that make him competition?
What di... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved or appreciated any more...
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years. We had a good sex life until i had a hysterectomy 3 years ago. I take no hormones and most time i dont want sex, but my husband takes no inititive. He barely even cuddles to me anymore. I have ...
A. 12 August 2010: I definitely agree with Moo's Mum; I think your husband misses the loving sexual relationship you two once had and I think it's a good idea to take steps to seek help. See a doctor, see a naturopath, read books on the subject; you're not alone in ... (read in full...)
Our first kiss was not anything like I imagined it would be!
Q. me and my long distance boyfriend kissed for the first time today,it is the first kiss ever for both of us. i didnt feel anything although i love him so much,actually the kiss was terrible,it is nothing like i imagined ..he was so nervous and just ...
A. 12 August 2010: Yeah, first kisses can definitely be like that, and that's no predictor for how future kisses will be :-) I wouldn't worry about it!
Both of you are so nervous the first time--heck, first couple of times, even--it's really something you just nee... (read in full...)
I like an older bad boy
Q. Im 14 years old and i really really like this boy, he's 17. He tells me he likes me to but i dont know weather to believe him or not, im sure he's lied to me before but he says he hasnt. All my friends say to give him a chance but im still at scho...
A. 11 August 2010: Listen to your gut, not your friends. Even though you're young, your instincts are pretty good here: he sounds lazy, not just a "bad boy".
Why do your friends want you to give him a chance anyway? Why has he earned a chance from you?
You ... (read in full...)
Does he have the wrong idea?
Q. [OP original title] Hello everyone! I'm 21 years old and I think I've gotten myself into quite a mess. This guy and I met at our school a few months ago. We didnt get a chance to talk that much because it was the end of the semester but he added me o...
A. 11 August 2010: It does sound like he's expecting a hookup. It sounds like he's trying to test the waters, but in a flirty way that's assuming more than you've bargained for. Are you looking forward to the visit at all, or do you just feel dread? Or maybe you'd ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but can't take his drunked shenanigans anymore!
Q. I have been married or over 20 years I love my husband very much. He also says he loves me. But anytime we go out with friends or just go out. He thinks he has to find another women to hang onto and follow around. He gets drunk and hugs on them. He ...
A. 11 August 2010: The key in your story, for me, is the sentence "All the time I am there watching him carry on with another woman while a sit a the table with all the other couples and ignor it." Ignoring someone CAN be a good tactic, depending on a number of ... (read in full...)
We're teenagers and we really want to have a baby!
Q. Hi :) My boyfriend and I realllyyyyy want a baby!! We've been trying for about 2 months and it doesn't seem to work. Everyone says I'm too young for a baby, but I know this is what we want. I love my boyfriend to death, and we want a baby and ...
A. 10 August 2010: My advice is to examine your feelings on this matter, really carefully and thoughtfully.
I strongly suggest writing down your feelings, like it's a diary entry. Don't worry about complete sentences, either, just focus on the flow of your fee... (read in full...)
She broke my heart, Should I meet up with her?
Q. I'm lesbian. And when I was a young I developed a crush for my best friend. We were riends for 13 years and I never told her. She broke my heart when she was dating people partly because I was in love with her but mostly because she stopped hanging ...
A. 27 May 2010: Moody, impulsive, always says the strangest things... it sounds like she is not altogether a healthy person to have in your life. After all, you said every time you see her, it upsets you. And you also said that you and she have never found your ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't it feel good?
Q. Why doesnt it feel good when he rubs my clitoritis? its like he'll be fingering me and try it and people say it feels like amazing and with me it just sorta tickels like it make my legs twitch and I cant take it because it sorta hurts. I dont get ...
A. 23 May 2010: Everyone is different; you need to find what feels nice for you. You can explore by yourself (probably the best option) or you could talk with him about what feels good while the two of you explore. It could be sexy and sweet, but sometimes a guy ... (read in full...)
Latin men and french kissing
Q. Hello, I am a white woman 42, dating a very handsome Mexican man in his thirties. we have been dating for about a month. I was wondering why it is that he doesn't french kiss? I was wondering if it is a latin thing for men not to kiss like that ...
A. 23 May 2010: His kissing practices may have nothing to do with his race; it may be an individual preference. Oftentimes people kiss the way they like being kissed. Or, it may be what his previous girlfriends preferred. My mom has told me she hates French ... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to start a relationship with this guy after his GF dumped him?
Q. This guy I know, he's a friend of mine and recently was dumped by his GF. He says he loves her, but she treated him as crap after he had trouble in his finances over some bad decisions he took. The thing is the guy is broke and he realizes he has ...
A. 23 May 2010: You talked a lot about this guy, but what about your feelings in all of this?
How strongly do you feel about him? He's your friend, but are you attracted to him? You said you're interested--have you been interested for a while? Would you want... (read in full...)
I'm going out of my mind being away from my new girlfriend! What's wrong with me?
Q. Hi, Cupids. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 weeks and we were seeing each other for about 2 weeks before that. Everything's going well...Only thing is, I'm going out my mind that I'm not with her right now! I mean, what the heck? ...
A. 23 May 2010: I'm pretty sure there's nothing wrong with you; this is called "infatuation" and it is very very common. It can be considered a phase of falling in love, if that's the direction your relationship takes. Here's some information on the infatuation ... (read in full...)
10 years long friendship ended because of something trivial. Need some honest opinions. Am I at fault?
Q. I have an old friend. We've known eachother since elementary school. We live in different cities but we still hang out together. We call eachother often and we help eachother out. My friend is very sensitive, from a young age already but I've kind ...
A. 19 May 2010: The thing is, this rift in your friendship is NOT about "a tooth". And you know it. You described right from the beginning how your friend is an especially sensitive person and you are an especially tough person. For whatever reason it has mostly ... (read in full...)
I'm not allowed to have coffee with a girlfriend and I have a curfew 8 p.m. set by my husband!
Q. This is my story. I've been married for 15 years. I was married young. My husband is a good person, never cheated, helps out with cleaning, making suppers. Isn't very affectionate, but let's me know in different ways how he feels for me. My p...
A. 19 May 2010: You're definitely not overreacting. This is not healthy (though, I admit, not entirely unusual). If a partner states "we only need each other" then there is something wrong.
I think you need to ask yourself some questions. Here are some I t... (read in full...)
I don't want to put my heart into this and then he breaks it!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months. I like him a lot and I'd like to have the whole long term relationship/fall in love bit with him but I'm scared he's not into that. Like he's not into me as much as I am into him. For instance, I ...
A. 18 May 2010: I think it is plain from your example that he's afraid of saying the word "love" just yet. Look how he avoided it so neatly! He was careful to return the sentiment but saying "I like... very much" instead of the Dreaded L Word. After all, three ... (read in full...)
Broke up with my boyfriend of 2years today, and already I'm talking to another guy
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2years today, the main reason being because he was texting and flirting with this girl and I just didn't feel I could trust him anymore seen as he;s cheated about 4other times. We've ended on pretty good terms, well ...
A. 18 May 2010: I don't think you're contradicting yourself, as long as you were honest when you said that while you were in the relationship you didn't really speak to this guy you felt a spark with. You're not cheating if the relationship is over. If you didn't ... (read in full...)
I get the feeling this girl at my university likes me but I don't know if I'm getting the wrong end of the stick or not.
Q. I get the feeling this girl at my university likes me but I don't know if I'm getting the wrong end of the stick or not. I'm 21 and so is she. We have been friendly over the last 18 months, being part of a large group that went clubbing together ...
A. 18 May 2010: I would say it's likely that she likes you in the way you like her. You're reading a lot of signals that could mean something, like how she told you she was interested in a guy at the club and how she signed up to live in the same residence hall as ... (read in full...)
33 year-old male virgin
Q. As a 33 year-old virgin who has never been in a relationship and has never, ever had sex how can you learn how to court a woman, flirt with her, ask her out, that sort of thing? That said, how can you learn about women generally? Are there ...
A. 18 May 2010: I think feeling like you "had nothing to offer" is a common fear for young men, so please don't feel that you're alone. It's wonderful that you're working your way out of feeling that way and (I presume) building a better life for yourself. Does ... (read in full...)
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