No intimacy in marriage for nearly 5 months!
Q. My DH and I have now been married for 6 1/2 yrs but together for 9. For the past 4 1/2 months there has been zero intimacy and I'm going crazy. He won't talk to me about it. He just keeps saying that he misses me in that way and loves me so ...
A. 16 February 2011: Go with your gut feeling - dont waste time holding on to maybes - what ifs - It really is time to hit this on the head and sort it out. Its not fair on you. ... (read in full...)
Do guys call a girl hot just to sleep with them?
Q. Would a guy call a girl "hot" to her face just to sleep with her or get something out of it, or does he really think she's hot? Or do you think he's just trying to give her a false ego boost for whatever reason?...
A. 20 January 2011: It is a physical compliment. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried things might go down the Drain
Q. Ok so me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 7 months now, yes were both teens and of course I expect to get a lot of answers saying I shouldn't worry it will end anyways. I love this girl to death. She all I ever think about and when ...
A. 18 January 2011: Firstly you cannot force people to fall in love with you.
Its either there or it isnt.
Teenage girls are very hormonal,once girls start getting thier periods their moods alter all the time.
She does seem to be on and off with her feelings for... (read in full...)
My sister is on her 15th boyfriend since we went back to school in September... should I talk to her about it?
Q. My sister is on her 15th boyfriend since we went back to school in September. She's only 13! and she's getting quite a reputation. I often hear her getting called a slut, even though she says she hasn't had sex with any of them It took her only tw...
A. 16 January 2011: I could be wrong but!
I think your sister is having some form of sexual interaction with these boys.
The term for this is Promiscuous sexual behaviour.
I also think she is confusing sexual attention for love or being liked by the boys - Havin... (read in full...)
She ditched me and now I'm not interested in prolonging the agony by meeting one last time, what do you think of my plan?
Q. S and I had been dating for a while (3 years) and everything was great - no fights ever (seriously) and deeply in love (first love). Six months ago she went away to university and but we stayed strong until Christmas,...when things went down...
A. 15 January 2011: You're hurting and grieving for the loss of someone you love -that's normal. However I admire her for telling you, she could have lead you on for months but she found the courage to tell you it was over,it can't have been easy. Her life has chan... (read in full...)
He threw me away just like that!
Q. I have had a huge crush on this guy for over 6 months, we get on so well and have some pretty intense chemistry, we always met up during summer and on a night out we kissed. The kiss didn't change anything he made me like him even more and I told ...
A. 15 January 2011: Having a crush and being in a committed relationship are 2 different things. He was not committed to you,he moved away and moved on. It will take some time but you need to let this go. Keep yourself busy and when your are ready another man will ... (read in full...)
Can male actors manage to "remove" themselves from the scene enough so that the kiss does not make you aroused?
Q. Here is the story: I've gotten a role where I have a romantic partner, and my girlfriend is super nervous. She says she trusts me in the sense of knowing that nothing will happen between me and the actress off the stage. I've always been faithful to ...
A. 15 January 2011: I wonder why you are so concerned. Are you attracted to the actress? its not uncommon for chemistry to grow between actors especially when there is a physical attraction. it is up to you to control the situation.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being ignored by my boyfriend...what do I do?
Q. I don't know why but I feel like I'm being ignored by my boyfriend most of the time, I mean if we are alone then everything is fine but as soon as anyone else is there he talks to them and I feel like he's just completely blanking me, its not as if ...
A. 15 January 2011: It's not nice being ignored however I wonder if you're giving him space. Guys often need time out away from the girlfriend. This doesnt mean they love them any less. Men are simply wired differently to woman.
There will always be times when you ... (read in full...)
He just says he doesn't mean to hurt me and doesn't know why he does it, but thats not enough for me. Should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, about 8 months ago I found out that my boyfriend of 3 yrs has been txting dirty messages to at least 3 girls, one of which I know. I found this out just after we had purchased a house together, so decided to forgive him and try and move on. He ...
A. 15 January 2011: Betrayal wether mental or physical is a difficult emotion to work through.
What your boyfriend is doing is unacceptable.
Once trust has been broken in a relationhip it can take years to mend and often it can never be restored. Like a bird wit... (read in full...)
How do you know that the person you love is your soul mate?
Q. I know this is gonna sound stupid but it something that has been Worrying me for sometime now,I,ve been dating different gys in my Life but seem not to have an answer.I want 2 knw that how Do u tell that the person u in love with is your soul m...
A. 14 January 2011: Is there such a thing? Can there be more than 1 Soul Mate?
Before my fiance past away many years ago I always thought of him as my 1 and only soul mate, but as life as shown me, soul mates can be many people. My son is a soul mate, my best frie... (read in full...)
I'm happy and in love with a married man!
Q. I have been married for 8 years and the last 3 years have been awful. My husband is on drugs and I have found several female numbers in his phone, on one occasion I caught him in my vehicle with a female. I have been with this man 14 years all ...
A. 14 January 2011: oh! the WEB people weave.
Often people will introduce a third party into a marriage as a means of escape because they havnt got the courage to tell thier partner it's over. I find it amusing that people marry - spend many years together but when... (read in full...)
Should I trust him after seeing the picture of another girl on his phone?
Q. so me and my boyfriend had a little break up cause i wasnt treating him good enough. well we was texting today and he didnt txt me back for 5 hours. then he text me and ask if i wanna go to the movies i said yea sure. so we was on our way to the m...
A. 14 January 2011: Dont embarrass yourself by discussing this on face book where is your self respect? you will end up looking like a dil.
Communication at any age must be face to face! this is of upmost importance. Texting or emailing DOES NOT cut it when it come... (read in full...)
I listen to my friend but when its my turn to talk she changes the subject!
Q. im just wondering if anyone else thinks that someone acting like this, makes them a bad friend or is it just their personality? so my "friend" hasnt been very supportive to me and i have been doing all i can to be supportive to her because we both ...
A. 14 January 2011: Like any relationship it is give and take. Generally people fit into 2 catergories (you and I people) Also relationships are based on needs. We meet many people throughout our lives,some stay for a few seconds, days,months and some a l... (read in full...)
Can I really trust this man ?
Q. Hi, Sorry its long hope you take the time to read and answer. nearly 3 years ago i found out that my h/b had cheated on me he said he was going through a mid life crises and he was flatered by a co worker who was 20yrs younger also married to be in...
A. 14 January 2011: Your not alone.
Many women scarafice thier own lives holding onto something that has been over for years.
Staying in relationships in the hope that things will change or improve, even when things are so bad because comtemplating starting a new li... (read in full...)
Can I be with him anymore because of his pot addiction?
Q. Ive been dating my boyfriend for two years, I'm struggling with whether or not I can be with him any more because of his pot habit. At first I never minded because I thought it was just weekend use, but now its multiple times every day. It pisses ...
A. 14 January 2011: He is a drug addict! Many pot smokers have this dismissive attitude about pot however it is dangerous,it is mind altering. It is also addictive - though many smokers say nahhhhhh !! I can quit anytime but just ask them to,many cant or wont. They ... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to be a freak in bed?
Q. how do I get my wife to get more freaky in bed. She says im too horny all the time. she lets me watch porn but does not want to engage in bedroom activities. ...
A. 14 January 2011: Get her a new man! she has had you for years.
To be serious....
Perhaps instead of watching porn start dating her again,a woman likes to feel loved all of the time!!!! not just before going to bed.
When I say date I mean date..this means more t... (read in full...)
Shes afraid of germs and doesn't want anything to do with sex
Q. my girlfriend is 45,and I am 70. she's never been marry and has no kids. i'm a grandfather and been married twice. we have been seeing each other for 21/2 years. we both stay at our own homes. the problem is that wshe won't let me kiss her on the ...
A. 14 January 2011: She needs to see a councillor. she has a phobia. good luck.... (read in full...)
How do I apologize to my friend?
Q. pliz help i have a gal of mine so we have fought so i want to apologise to her so what are the spets to take so that i will not srew things up i love so much but it seems that she already have a boy friend and again im confused on the things to say ...
A. 14 January 2011: Admitting to a mistake / apologising is always a good place to start in mending a relationship.
If this lady has already moved on in finding another boyfriend than I'm not sure what your chances are in getting her back - But I would still cont... (read in full...)
I don't see a future with him but I love him!
Q. i've been dating with him about 4 years and now we're gonna hit the 5. i have a problem with him. seriously, i think he is getting bored with me. we're having a long distance relationship and not seeing him for 3 months. i donno whether i should ...
A. 12 January 2011: once its gone its gone. ... (read in full...)
Is this a stupid game he's playing?
Q. There's this guy I've known for about 5 years. We meet in this internet thing and I finally decided to go meet up with him on July. We meet and everything went good. We seen each other couple more times and we did end up sleeping together. I started ...
A. 11 January 2011: 96% of Online relationship end once the people involved meet in reality. The fantasy is over. Its amazing how many people fall in love online - thinking they have met mr or mrs right but when they meet in real time it all falls apart. I dont thi... (read in full...)
What do I do about my woman hugging, boob poking, chain smoking boyfriend?
Q. ok My bf hugs other girls and pokes there boobs to so I am like wtf I am right here.Also he smokes to and I just found out last night he is not a virgin. He keeps secerts from me and he does not call me at all. I just dont know what to do , I like ...
A. 11 January 2011: he is acting like a single man and has little respect for women- are you sure he is your boyfriend?
If so his behaviour is odd. I would feel embarrased around him therefore I would leave him. always another bus. ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to wait for him or just to get out?
Q. Please be kind to me. This man I met is married, but he and his wife are getting a divorce. It's over between them (has nothing to do with me), but he still lives there now. He sleeps on the couch every night and is saving money to get his own plac...
A. 10 January 2011: Ensure you put a time limit on how long you are going to put your life on hold for him. How long are you going to wait? 6 months,a year, maybe 5? It could take years to save up a deposit for a new home. I think he is still with the wife - h... (read in full...)
I don't see a future with him but I love him!
Q. i've been dating with him about 4 years and now we're gonna hit the 5. i have a problem with him. seriously, i think he is getting bored with me. we're having a long distance relationship and not seeing him for 3 months. i donno whether i should ...
A. 10 January 2011: You already know the answer - just end the relationship. Be a grown up and tell him it's over, then both of you can move forward into the next chapter. The relationship has run its course. Relationships are about needs, when needs arent ... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a relationship is likely to end? Even it all looks OK now?
Q. Hey everyone, From your experience, when you were in a long-term relationship with an ex-boyfriend (or ex-gf), did you ever have a feeling (or signs) that you guys will eventually break up? (it's my first relationship and it happens to be lo...
A. 9 January 2011: There are no gaurantees with love. Relationships have a course, some short, some long, - some lifetime.
Emjoy the moments- things can change in an instant, stop worrying and love for today not for the what if's. ... (read in full...)
He is cheating and I am scared he will leave.
Q. My SO and I have been together for 5 years now. We have had many trials including infidelity even including a child. HE had an affair 4 years ago which resulted in his son. He left me for some time when the little guy was born but then came back ...
A. 9 January 2011: If he is the man you say he is and you seperate, the children will still be a part of his life. Remember he is the one destroying this not you! As for the relationship wow! Why are you so scared to leave? What are you holding onto? I can em... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy to have sex everyday?
Q. Is it unhealthy to have sex almost everyday? And after we have sex it hurt and was sore it has did this a few times what's wrong?...
A. 9 January 2011: Having sex all the time at this age is normal.
If it hurts when you go to the toilet perhaps you may have cystitus which is a bladder infection caused by having sex alot. You may require antbiotics. if not then
just stop having intercou... (read in full...)
Why would he masturbate when he has his wife?
Q. I periodically find used condoms in my husbands things. Like in the bathroom under a towel, or this week in his bathrobe. I know he is masturbating in them, but what should I do?? When I was first married I called him screaming and crying thinking ...
A. 8 January 2011: Why not explore this a little more and have some fun with it? Men do masturbate wether married or not. many women do to, its a form of release and its pleasurable.
With my husband sometimes we masturbate in front of each other, its eotic and turn... (read in full...)
No intimacy in marriage for nearly 5 months!
Q. My DH and I have now been married for 6 1/2 yrs but together for 9. For the past 4 1/2 months there has been zero intimacy and I'm going crazy. He won't talk to me about it. He just keeps saying that he misses me in that way and loves me so ...
A. 8 January 2011: I wonder if he feels guilty about something he has done? Sometimes guilt can make a person withdraw,or perhaps he has a medical condition? ( depression for example )
I agree with the aunt honesty post, there is not alot you can do until he acce... (read in full...)
My husband has lots of female friends and ex lovers whom he is in touch with...and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My husband is a very popular man and has lots of female friends and ex lovers. I knew all about these women before I married him but since then have begun to hate his contact with these people especially his ex flames. He says that I am insecure and ...
A. 8 January 2011: Your life - your choice - either except it or leave. ... (read in full...)
Separated for 12 years but not divorced -- am I being too picky?
Q. I have been talking(texting) to this guy i met online for about a month. He told me he was divorced and had 2 girls and I didn't mind at all.........I love kids and I too am divorced so.... Today I met him for the first time and during conversation ...
A. 8 January 2011: They both feel they can still ask each other to do things even though they have and live other lives - until the final step of letting go is processed via way of divorce,in thier subconscious minds they are still married, still binded, makes no ... (read in full...)
No reply to a love note?
Q. What do you do when you send someone a message saying you are inlove with them. And they don't even reply? And its not some random person. It's the father of your child?...
A. 8 January 2011: I think its unfair of him not to reply.
It is disrespectful. Even if he isnt feeling the same way,a reply or contact should have been actioned sooner rather than later..these are real feelings, noone deserve to have them ignnored. A mature adul... (read in full...)
Separated for 12 years but not divorced -- am I being too picky?
Q. I have been talking(texting) to this guy i met online for about a month. He told me he was divorced and had 2 girls and I didn't mind at all.........I love kids and I too am divorced so.... Today I met him for the first time and during conversation ...
A. 8 January 2011: There is a fine line here. He did stretch the truth by saying he was divorced when he isnt.Not a good way to start a new freindship?
Maybe he feels divorced..maybe its the money? no matter, whatever his excuse, He has not dealt with the lega... (read in full...)
I've just given up caring that boyfriend doesn't treat me right
Q. My bf hasnt always treated me right. And as a result I became very insecure for 2 whole years. But suddenly I woke up and I felt I didn't care. Not about him, I still love him. But I feel like I've just given up caring. I don't know what's changed ...
A. 8 January 2011: It seems you have lost your self esteem - you dont like yourself and you have given up trying because no matter what you do it doesnt please him. It sounds like your in a state of shock because you are feeling numb - its the mind trying to cope with ... (read in full...)
Can this relationship be saved or are the problems just too much?
Q. I'm 22, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have a twoa-year-old son. My boyfriend is a wonderful daddy..I seriously think he's the best dad in the world! Everything is 50/50 with us and we work as a team. He also adores me and I know he ...
A. 8 January 2011: Hello,
There are many deep issues here.
I would suggest a councillor or physichologist.
... (read in full...)
I'm having anxiety problems about moving in with my soon to be husband
Q. Is it just me or is this normal....I've been having anxiety problems about moving in with my soon to be husband. I'm not moving in yet, but on the day we get married after the honeymoon, I'll be moving in with him and living with him "from here on ...
A. 8 January 2011: Hi,
I think this is about your independance,committment,space and fear of the unknown.
You will be letting go of your safe haven,your escape pad, the private place which you call home, to move in with a man you love.Perhaps if he was moving i... (read in full...)
My husband has lots of female friends and ex lovers whom he is in touch with...and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My husband is a very popular man and has lots of female friends and ex lovers. I knew all about these women before I married him but since then have begun to hate his contact with these people especially his ex flames. He says that I am insecure and ...
A. 7 January 2011: Your husband can cheat anywhere at anytime if he so chooses...asking him to stop seeing his friends is shameful....He is not a possession, you dont own him just because you are married. He is your lover, partner, He chose to marry you, did that mean ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my first love who dumped me for someone closer to her?
Q. My ex dumped me on the 29/12/10 at 10:00pm we was together for 385 days and 1200 seconds. We met over the internet on a chat site, we got to know each other over 7 months then I asked her out. Two months later I gave her a love letter, it was quite ...
A. 7 January 2011: I'm sorry but this made me laugh talk about possessiveness.
Read what you wrote - you gave this girl no space - she felt suffocated. ... (read in full...)
Shall we report her anonymously or hope she will stop being a bully?
Q. Morning all. Please advise on the following.... Our team leader at work has been promoted to assistant manager and the power has gone slightly to her head. She talks down to us and is quite rude with her comments. For example 1 girl on the ...
A. 7 January 2011: Lets be grown up here! I suggest you make an appointment with the assistant manager to discuss the issues...take some notes so you are prepared...talk privately about your grievances. The key is to ensure no voices are raised. Sometimes being up... (read in full...)
What does he get from being with them rather than our son and me?
Q. Been with my spouse for 5 years now, but he has cheated in the past. However the past year he has been the worst to me and put me through an extreme amount of hurt. He cheated twice this year but not just gone and slept with some one he's left our ...
A. 7 January 2011: Do you like living in misery - if not then why hold onto it because this is your life your chosing to live for you and your child. The trust has gone....
In a way you have given him permission to have sex outside of the relationship because you ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating?
Q. Hi, I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a bit now, but i've found that our sex life has taken a downfall. we only have sex once every 2 to 3 weeks and his penis is always dirty. His excuse is that he masterbates in the shower and didn'...
A. 7 January 2011: Is he cheating? I dont know - I do know one thing- Its in your mind therefore perhaps he is. Dirty penis hmmmmm alarm bells going off here. If he is masturbating in the shower surely his penis would be clean??? besides sexual intercourse and ... (read in full...)
How do I start my life again?
Q. how do i start my life again after the love of my life has left me and our baby son. my heart is broken, im confused about why he has done this. i need help to move on and stop feeling so devastated. please help me...
A. 7 January 2011: Hello,
The feeling of abandoment is heart wrenching.
The first thing I would suggest is to see your doctor.
He/She may suggest a councillor to assist you in working through the grief your experiencing- or perhaps a minister or anyone that you fee... (read in full...)
Husband is sharing a room with a friend during a business trip, feeling uncomfortable about it
Q. Hi, my husband is in another contry doing some bussines.. in this moment he is traveling with some friends that I met before. I talked with him today and asked about his friends, how they are doing...etc.. he told me the hotel right now is ver...
A. 7 January 2011: Some cheaters try the open approach- The only person whom knows is you - follow your gut feeling, often it is right. ... (read in full...)
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