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writes:Please be kind to me.This man I met is married, but he and his wife are getting a divorce. It's over between them (has nothing to do with me), but he still lives there now. He sleeps on the couch every night and is saving money to get his own place. We started as friends, but had great chemistry. We have developed strong feelings for each other. One night he came over and we slept together. Please note that I would normally never ever get involved with a married man. However, this man is different. His wife knows about us. I know it's over between he and she and he is committed to me. But I'm confused and trying to decide what to do. Do I stick it out and stay with him thru this? He has offered to put it on hold till he has his own place and separates from her, but we will miss each other. I'm at a loss and unsure what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): how true is your married man? Is he telling the truth.pls dont give all of your heart.. Until your married man has filed a divorce you should wait. how many years are you in relationship with him? Does he have kids? do you know the story about his wife or not? Because i think he is lying to keep you aside when his wife is not around. He sleeps on the couch? I dont believe it..liar married man.
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reader, honeybabe +, writes (10 January 2011):
how old is your married man? I hope he sure is over with his wife.some married men are good in lying just to keep you aside.yup he may say it hundred times that he is committed to you..but still you dont know the story with his wife. how long have you been in relationship with your married man?
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Ensure you put a time limit on how long you are going to put your life on hold for him. How long are you going to wait? 6 months,a year, maybe 5? It could take years to save up a deposit for a new home.I think he is still with the wife - he could be sleeping on the couch, most husbands would be after thier wife find out he is having an affair, besides why go home when he could stay with you. Is he taking you out or is it just a sexual relationship?I think your actually having an affair- unless you have spoken with the WIFE to confirm what he is telling you I would not believe him. But that's just me. Make a deadline line for yourself - if nothing has changed in 6 months move on your being used.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): The problem here is that he is living in the same house as his wife. This can not be good for him, his wife, or you. He really needs to move out. He needs to get a place, even if it is not ideally what he wants, but just to be away from his wife so he can adjust to a new life. You could find this situation dragging on, if it does I would start to question his desire to move out. Only you can judge how this pans out. I would be tempted to hold back a bit until he is totally free to avoid too much heartache.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): I see nothing wrong with this as long as the wife knows as you said and you know for a fact that they are really over each other, maybe he can move in with you if that's what you guys want. Good luck!
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