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*ammie
writes:how do i start my life again after the love of my life has left me and our baby son. my heart is broken, im confused about why he has done this. i need help to move on and stop feeling so devastated. please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): Are you really confused or refusing to accept his reason? If someone leaves they have a reason eg.infidelity,unreasonable behavior,got someone else,got bored,too much baggage etc. Concealing events is not the solution to a problem,it wont help you in any way. If it is what you say it is then report him missing,he may have been kidnapped.
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Hello,
The feeling of abandoment is heart wrenching.
The first thing I would suggest is to see your doctor.
He/She may suggest a councillor to assist you in working through the grief your experiencing- or perhaps a minister or anyone that you feel safe with to talk to- someone who will listen & hold you.
As for his reasoning as to why he has left, only he can answer that. In the mean time the days ahead will be 1 step at a time. I do know given some time you will survive this though it does'nt feel like it at the moment. Keep yourself busy - plenty of exercise,!!!! this is a must, get out of the house- see friends family.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Just put one foot in front of the other and get things done. Just go through the steps to make sure you are covering what you need to do to live, if you need to sign up for a payment of some sort, do that at once. I don't know what the processes are in the UK for child maintenance etc, but go to your nearest Social Security office or local Government and find out what you need to do to make sure your and your baby are okay.
Make sure any routine your baby has is disrupted at little as possible, if you work and the baby is in care have a chat to your carer about what is happening so that if your baby's behaviour changes they will know what the cause might be.
If you are working let somebody there know that you are going through a traumatic time, they may suggest a few days off so that you can sort out any legal matters that need to be attended to.
Do what you need to make sure you have a roof over your heads and food in your bellies. In time the pain will ease, and I do know the pain is actual and physical, if you need practical help ask for it, either from family and friends or from agencies who do that sort of thing.
I send well wishes to you and your baby!
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