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*himsey
writes:Ive been dating my boyfriend for two years, I'm struggling with whether or not I can be with him any more because of his pot habit. At first I never minded because I thought it was just weekend use, but now its multiple times every day. It pisses me off more than anything, I've given him ultimatums, and expressed my feelings, but nothing has really changed. I often feel ignored and that there is only half of a person there when he's high. I love him so much and have given so much of myself to him. Yet I'm so hesitant to break up, is it time? I told all of this to him and he sobbed and agreed to change, but sometimes the damage is done. And to be honest I'm afraid of what our relationship has become and if it's worth fixing. Maybe there is a better man out there for me that isnt broken? Reply to this Question
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reader, Whimsey +, writes (14 January 2011):
Whimsey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou both! He did agree to change, I told him to write a plan and show it to me so that I can trust that he's serious. But I made it very clear that he's just about ready to lose me for good.
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 He is a drug addict!Many pot smokers have this dismissive attitude about pot however it is dangerous,it is mind altering.It is also addictive - though many smokers say nahhhhhh !! I can quit anytime but just ask them to,many cant or wont. They choose Pot like an alcoholic chooses alcohol over people. Smoking is thier escape, creating a false sense of confidence etc. It's often the only time you will hear them laughing or enjoying life,(when they are stoned) but the high only lasts a short time. Living with a full on dope smoker is scary - it is also very mentally draining on the people around them that have to cope with thier mood swings and depression - with long term users eventually may become bipola.Then there is the day to day expenses that comes with smoking. I wonder where on the weekly list of things to be paid each week lies the purchase of pot? Is buying pot before buying groceries? Not a good role model.Anyway I could go on n on but your asking should you leave him - my opinion is yes!Nothing is going to change until there is change. If he wont go to a re-hab or quit smoking pot then I would leave. . Dont be fooled when he cries because to win your love is for him to quit smoking POT!! o not feel sorry for him. He has a choice to make...I'm sure that after you make that courageous step to leave, that within a month or 2 you will find a man who will love you more than this manYou deserve a full rewarding life.
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reader, Dataluke  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 I think you've given him plenty of chances. Now its make or break time. Give him one last chance and say if he doesn't stop then he won't have a girlfriend anymore.
If he quits for a few weeks then success, if not then get out of there, you can find someone better.
I hope he comes to his senses and realises what he has.
All the best, Dataluke
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