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Why do I attract psychos?

Q.   Ok, so maybe this is more so of a venting session than a question. Why do I attract PSYCHOS???!!! They always have a problem or a chip on their shoulder, they like to act like they're a "victim" when they have serious issues! They lie constan...

A.   1 July 2009: The same thing happens to me! I keep meeting girls who introduce themselves a certain way and then end up doing the opposite. I've met girls who claim to be "honest" and they end up being cheats, end up being even as pot smokers!... (read in full...)

I don't feel happy with him, but I wont feel happy without him...what to do?

Q.   Me and boyfriend have been dating for 3 years now. He recently asked for a break but i didnt want to. He wanted to hook up with another girl but come back to me. Just the thought of it made me cry and really upset. I was stupid and told him ok ...

A.   21 June 2009: I've never been a big fan of "breaks" since the person who asks for it, 99% of the time have their eyes on someone else. It is the flat truth. ... (read in full...)

I lost my attraction to my boyfriend and broke it off. Was it a mistake?

Q.   Over the last year things in my life have fallen apart. I've been unemployed for the year, had medical issues, and recently broke up with my bf of four years. My bf is a great guy and I do love him, but I have found my attraction to him waning. He ...

A.   21 June 2009: People fall in and out of love. It's the sad truth but that's just the way it is. I think if you love this man the fact he is balding should not be that important. how about if you gain 50 pounds, would you want him to just walk out on you? Leave ... (read in full...)

Why do you think he wants to buy me this expensive gift after only being together for two weeks?

Q.   Me and my bf have been together for 2 weeks. Im 20 years old and he is 25. The other day he offered to buy me a really expensive gift- which is about AUS$4000!! That is alot for any gift, even if we had been dating logner, I would still think that ...

A.   15 June 2009: well if he's wealthy it may just be pocket money for him. but if he has to work a 9 to 5 then he is just trying way too hard. He should take you out to eat, to the movies, dancing. He kinda seems desperate. you should tell him you dont feel ... (read in full...)

I keep cheating on my bf with this one guy, why?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. We have a great relationship, we both treat each other very well. Except I sometimes cheat on him with one guy. I don't know why. This other guy doesn't treat me nearly as well as my boyfriend, ...

A.   15 June 2009: I think it's the best if you break up with your BF and I guess try it with this guy... (read in full...)

Why do all the girls cheat on me?

Q.   So I just found out my girlfriend is cheating on me. This has become a pattern. Every girlfriend I've ever had ended up sleeping with someone else. Right now I'm finding it difficult to trust women. My best friend says I need to go out and be a ...

A.   2 June 2009: Just because you're attracted to someone doesnt mean they're right for you. You should really invest more time in meeting the person before establishing a relationship. Everybody has been attracted to the wrong person. Also if they're screwing ... (read in full...)

My wife enjoyed sex with her ex but she isnt interested when it comes to me!

Q.   i wanna know how do i get my wife to want me sexually cause she never wants to have sex with me i mean we do it but very often she never wants it just me or even when i ask her she gets mad somtimes when she gives it to me she tells me to hurry up ...

A.   29 May 2009: you're in a tough spot. why would u stay with someone who craves someone else's sex? marriage should be about 3 main things. Communication, Trust and Sex. If one of those fails then the marriage is terminally ill. ... (read in full...)

My ex of a year is suddenly being very friendly

Q.   My ex of over a year ago, who works in the same building as me has suddenly started to come into my office on a regular basis, she previously very rarely came up and if I ever wanted to see her I would have to go into her office, but for the last ...

A.   5 May 2009: As soon as you forget and stop chasing them, they come right back to you. That's just the way women are. At my work I met this cute girl and I was hitting on her a lot, asked her out, but she always turned me down. One day I decided to forget about ... (read in full...)

What motivates a man to want friendship after a one night stand?

Q.   I’d really appreciate a male perspective on this please. Have you ever had a one night stand with a woman and then become really good friends with her afterwards? I don’t understand what would motivate a guy to keep in touch, as a friend, afte...

A.   5 May 2009: I had a one night stand with a girl last year. It was probably the best sex I ever had She was going through a rough time in her marriage, but she was separated from her husband. We hit it off and became good friends, we had sex a couple times after ... (read in full...)

Should I carry on sleeping with him?

Q.   I've had the serious hots for the guy in question for as long as I can remember (i.e. all through school) but after he left high school we didn't really see each other. About three years ago we bumped into each other and kept in touch. He text m...

A.   30 April 2009: try to fill her shoes. WOuld u want your fiance cheating on you the same way he is? The sex might be great, but you have to stop being selfish.... (read in full...)

I'm still in love with my ex 3 months on

Q.   Im stil in love with my ex even after 3months of break-up. Iv tried contactin her but she hates me. Iv become this stalkish figure. Im really depressed. What makes matters worse is the fact that we study the same major at university. Shes havin a ...

A.   30 April 2009: My girl walked out of our relationship 2 weeks to the day, I joined a gym around the same time, and I feel GREAT, Point is, try to find something to get your mind off her. There's plenty of fish in the sea, who's to say there isn't a better girl for ... (read in full...)

Did he do this on the rebound?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend just broke up. We had a rocky relationship which involved cheating for the first 8 months or so. After all of this, we sat down and came clean about everything we had done to be unfaithful, and decided to start fresh. Un...

A.   27 April 2009: cheating never solves anything. few things in a relationship are black or white. You should start afresh, but definitely not with him. Take some time off to gather yourself and move on. ... (read in full...)

No model but not that bad looking either....where am I going wrong?

Q.   I need some advice, as I don't know where I am going wrong. I am 24 (Female) and I can't ever seem to get a boyfriend, I work with a mix of males and females, mostly males, and a lot of them comment on my looks, but no one ever asks me out. ...

A.   24 April 2009: Sounds like there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I am a male. I think you're just meeting the wrong guys!! maybe there's something in your personality that drives men distant? It has happened to me. I'm not a bad looking guy yet some time I ... (read in full...)

How can I be more comfortable with my body?

Q.   I've always been skinny, and I've never seemed to be able to put on any weight no matter what I've done; eating heavily, going the name it, my body just refuses to put on weight. While it's always bothered me that men and women, and e...

A.   24 April 2009: can i ask how much do you actually weight and how tall are you. the worst thing you can do is be insecure. Stand tall and many girls go for a confident guy, trust me. ... (read in full...)

I overheard my b/f tell his ex he misses her! Should we break up?

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend, Dante, for 6 months now. When we first started seeing eachother he told me that he still technically "talked" to his ex girlfriend (they dated for 4 years) who lives about 500 miles away. When I found out I pretty much ...

A.   23 April 2009: I told someone earlier nothing good can come out a friendship between your partner and their ex. you can't forbid him from being friends, but I personally woudln't date someone who's still hung up to their ex... (read in full...)

Our break ups seem to be related to her monthly cycle

Q.   The first 4 months of our relationship my girlfriend was on the nuva ring birth control. She let me know early that she hated it and that she gained weight and lost sexual desire while on it. She is 24 and has two kids already from a guy who is ...

A.   23 April 2009: it may not be the hormones, she might be a little bipolar, or just under lots of stress (single mom with two kids isnt easy). You are in a relationship to try to be happy, breaking up and making up again isn't healthy for none of you. Find someone ... (read in full...)

I have this guy at work that likes me but...

Q.   i have this guy at work who likes me alot he does most of my work for me and does his work he buys me lunch all the time we talk and he is fun but the only thing is he is about 320 pounds and black as the marker your lookin at..he keeps telling me ...

A.   23 April 2009: tell him he's not your type, ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend slept with another guy... Twice.

Q.   My Girlfriend slept with another guy, Twice. the thing is we started dating about seven and then we started arguing over petty things and they grew bigger. she suggested we went on a break then a month later suggested we get back together...

A.   23 April 2009: Oh man, I'd drop her yesterday. Yes it's gonna hurt, Yes I know you love her, but you have to man up here. She doesn't love you, She may not even respect you. Drop her like a hot potato. you'll be better for it.... (read in full...)

Girl breaks up the relationship suddenly, why?

Q.   My Girl breaks off our relationship. Completely caught me by surprise. the night before we had a romantic dinner in my apartment, candles and flowers and all the trimmings. Next day she texts me "I don't want to hurt you, but I don't want to be in ...

A.   22 April 2009: We only dated for about three months, like 6 weeks ago she didn't speak to me for about 3 days. She told me she was "confused" but everything was fine then, and that she wanted to be with me. I wasn't in love because it was too soon, but I ... (read in full...)

She's best friends with her ex and even told me she has feelings for him!

Q.   My girlfriend has been hanging around her ex-boyfriend a lot more then usual. She goes to see him a lot when he is practicing sports. She tells me that they are best friends and would want nothing more then that. But, today she admitted that she has ...

A.   22 April 2009: nothing good can result when your girl is best friends with her ex. She most likely won't end the "friendship" if you ask her. Leave her alone, it doesn't bode well for you lad... (read in full...)

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