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My girlfriend doesn't seem very turned on with oral sex. Am I just doing it wrong or is it her?

Q.   My girlfriend doesn't seem to get very turned on with oral sex. Am I just doing it wrong or is it just her? I've known her for a while, and I've spent a lot of time giving her oral sex. I usually go in deep and long (about an hour) but I've n...

A.   1 September 2007: I agree with spanna! I could take it or leave it. It feels good, but I never got off with oral sex and yes I can get myself off. I agree with concentrating on clitoral stimulation, but I also perfer penetration at the same time. One hou... (read in full...)

I've lost a lot of weight which is good, but my cleavage went with it! Help!

Q.   About a year ago I lost 25 lbs.through a great program. Unfortunately my boobs also got smaller, which is to be expected I suppose, but even now that my weight has stablized and I haven't lost any more (In fact I've gained back 10 lbs.) but my boobs ...

A.   1 September 2007: Your boobs are nothing but fat and you say that your doing push ups. You are making your boobs muscle and getting rid of more fat. I was always a 32B until about 4 years ago. I gained about 25 pounds and now I am a 34DDD. I don't look fat, but I ... (read in full...)

Should a guy satisfy the girl first and then themselves??

Q.   Is it just me, or should guys care about satisfying the girl first, and then themselves during sexual relations? It just seems like the guy I am with only cares about pleasing himself. ...

A.   1 September 2007: You should definitely be taken care of, whether it is before or after him. You need to tell him cause I agree that maybe he doesn't know how. You have to have open communication in the bedroom for a good sexual relationship. If he doesn't know ... (read in full...)

I'm a married woman, I like chatting to the net guy, but the conversation always turns sexual! I'm afraid of running into him sometime in reality...

Q.   Oh man, what have I done? Someone please knock some sense into my head! I am a married woman, my husband is away at the moment, and my hormones are getting the better of me. I met a guy online who knows I am married. At first he was cool and was ...

A.   1 September 2007: If your husband is away alot I agree you need to invest in a sex toy. If you get to talk to your husband while he is gone, why do you try having phone sex with him. I take it you have no children because we teach our children not to give ... (read in full...)

Want to lose weight by not eating.

Q.   Ok well i'm 14 and i want to loose weight as im 9 stone which is like pretty bad for my age i'm fat really..i wanna loose weight by not eatin..but i wanna know what will happen to my boobs? will they shrink?? please answer thanks xxx...

A.   24 July 2007: If you stop eating it is very dangerous. Not to mention when you do eat you body will store all the food and you will gain weight. The easiest way to lose weight is to eat 5 or 6 small meals a day with lots of fruits and veggies as snacks and ... (read in full...)

Does the contraceptive injection stop your periods completely?

Q.   hey, i want to go on the contraception injection, i was woundering does this mean my periods will stop for aslong as it is effective? ...

A.   24 July 2007: I got injections before and never had a period the whole time. I started having periods 1 month after I stopped taking them, they were light the first couple of months then they went back to normal. My bf was taking then and bled 3 weeks out of 4 ... (read in full...)

Started the pill 11 days ago. Am I protected from prenancy, yet?

Q.   Hi,i just need some advice. I started a pogestron only pill 11 days ago. I had sex tonight, am i protected from pregnancy? as i was told by a nurse i have to use protection for 2 weeks?...

A.   20 July 2007: Go by what your nurse said. I would use other protection for the first month just to be safe. Good Luck!... (read in full...)

Going through puberty experiences and wondering, if I might be gay. Any advice?

Q.   Hi im chris, 11 and (jeez this is nerveracking) i am really getting deep into my puberty such as a different voice and really getting tall in short times and other things that id rather not say. Recently i have had very tight stomach feelings and I ...

A.   20 July 2007: It is very normal to want to look at your body. Most men walk past a mirror and still check out all parts of their bodies when they are older. You are going through alot of changes and it is perfectly normal to want to look and touch yourself. If ... (read in full...)

My bf is really upset that I can't orgasm! How can I get it through his head that only 30% of woman orgasm during sex?

Q.   So, My boyfriend and I have been having intercourse for 5 months and i cant orgasm. I've been having sex for four years and never have. I'm okay with it, but my boyfriends not.... He gets very upset and tells me to believe in myself that i can. How ...

A.   20 July 2007: If you want to orgasm, try doing it yourself first. You have to be very confortable with your body, sex, and trust the person you are with. I started masturbating when I was your as and was able to orgasm, but I didn't orgasm during sex until I ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is verbally abusive when he is drunk

Q.   This might sound like quite a minor problem but it really gets me down - my bf is lovely n kind etc and ive bin with him for over a year. but when he gets drunk he completely changes and is really nasty to me. he calls me a slut/whore etc and just ...

A.   17 July 2007: Does he remember doing this to you??? He has to make a choice to drink or not to drink. If he is only going to continue drinking, you need to get out now. Things are only going to get worse. He is name calling right now, but in the future, he ... (read in full...)

How do I have phone sex?

Q.   How do I 'make love' to my girlfriend on the telphone? We have kissed each other this way. Has any other boyfriend done this with their long distance girlfriend?...

A.   17 July 2007: When having phone sex, picture what you want to do in your mind and tell her as you go. Make sure you use lots of adjectives and details. ex, wet, hard, hot.... Don't leave her hanging on the other end, make sure she is included in the phone sex! ... (read in full...)

How can I give a great blow job? And what about phone sex?

Q.   Hey. I have 2 questions how can i give a great blow job? And how can i make fone sex be more real? I...

A.   14 July 2007: giving a blow job.....they say lick it like an icecream cone and suck the head like a lollipop. soft lips, becareful not to hit it with your teeth and eye contact always adds to it. if your going to deep throat, make sure you know how to do it ... (read in full...)

Not sure how to squirt!!?

Q.   I have a question its a little embressing but my boyfriend and i are really into each other and things in the bedroom are really good but he wants me to sqiurt if you know what i mean but i just cant figure out how to any advice from anyone?...

A.   14 July 2007: My friends tell me squirting is the best feeling you'll ever have. I haven't mastered it yet, but I will. It takes alot of time and patience on his part. I get to the feeling like I have to pee and get nervous or scared and stop him. Once I get ... (read in full...)

Do teen girl masturbate as often as teen boys?

Q.   hi, do teenage girls masturbate as often as teenage boys?...

A.   14 July 2007: I agree with anonymous female,(23 November 2006)! I am 32 myself and started masturbating when I was 10 years old. I did everyday when I was younger. Now, sometimes I do it twice a day. I am married for 15 years and have a 13 year old son and my ... (read in full...)

Who agrees that a man really would choose a porn star over the woman he's with?

Q.   I have read the many of the posts about porn and was interested in asking a question. One of the agony aunts (incidently who I think is excellent and gives very insghtful adice btw). said the following in response to a question about porn..I have ...

A.   14 July 2007: My husband watches alot of porn and doesn't even get hard. I don't approve, but as long as he is not cheating on me, that's what matters. I've asked him before why he looks at it and he says he tries to find porn stars that resemble me and for ... (read in full...)

I'm 13; how big should my penis be and how much should I ejaculate?

Q.   how big shold a 13 yr old penis be. and how much should i eject/cum...

A.   14 July 2007: My husband said that when he ejaculated that it went through the motion of spasms, but nothing came out till he was about 16. ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a period to be late after starting on the pill?

Q.   i started the pill at the beginning of this week as this was the week my doctor highlighted in my planner. i was due to get my period about the 10th/11th of this week and now its like 2-3 days later and there is no sign of it at all. is this normal ...

A.   14 July 2007: Starting the pill could definitely mess up your periods until your body gets used to it. Just remember until you get at least a month of birth control in your body, it doesn't take effect. Still use protection.... (read in full...)

My man is very into "Watersports" How common is this ???

Q.   My boyfriend an i have a good relatioship and like to experiment, he recently confessed that he really wanted to give me a golden shower so i let him in the shower, i didnt mind it too much but wasnt great. He now bought porn with girls getti...

A.   7 December 2006: I think this is quite normal. Just not alot of guys willing to admit to it. My husband loves watersports and if I would let 20 guys do it at once he would say thats the sexiest thing he ever saw. Its nice to see your guy so turned on he can't ... (read in full...)

Will it stop my breasts sagging if I wear a bra in bed?

Q.   I'm 15 years old and i fall asleep wearing a bra almost every night I never really thought anything of it until now recently i've heard A) sleeping a bra keeps you from growing any larger B) if you don't wear a bra when you sleep you start...

A.   7 December 2006: I am a 32DD. I sleep with a bra on every night. From experience, if I don't wear a bra all the time, when I take my bra off, I sag. If I do where a bra all the time, they seem to look more perky. Sleeping with a bra does not stop the growth, ... (read in full...)

We are both married but cheating but I can't stand he is cheating on me with yet another woman!

Q.   I am married for 18 years, my husband is a cruel man. He hits me. There is nothing but kids between us. I fell in love with my cousin's husband. He is married and has had lots of affairs. I loved him so much and I got very jealous when he spoke to a ...

A.   7 December 2006: Sorry! Once a cheater, always a cheater. I'm living proof. I am married and currently in another relationship with a married man. This relationship has been going on for over 2 years. I am deeply in love with this man, but like all affairs, ... (read in full...)

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