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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Why buy the cow when the milk is free???
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and things are really good. We've discussed where we see our relationship going and we both agree on marriage in the short term future (say next 4 years). We've also talked about living together and ...
A. 1 November 2010: I don't agree with the notion that living with someone prior to marriage increases your chances for divorce at all. It's good for people to see what their lives will be like when they get married so moving in together sounds like a good plan to me ... (read in full...)
What does"I don't want to hurt you" mean?
Q. Ok so I really don't understand how stupid,yes stupid,guys can be. So about two days ago my boyfriend texts me saying "Hey,lets just be friends" my heart immediately sank and I texted him back asking why. His respong?... "I don't want to hurt you." ...
A. 1 November 2010: I agree with Jmtmj, this doesn't mean he was cheating at all. It could be a possibility but not the only one. Maybe he just knew that he didn't feel how he should with you and instead of dragging it on or using you he knew he had to end it even ... (read in full...)
How do you get somebody OFF your mind?
Q. I understand this might be a bit of a strange question and hard to answer so any types of responses will be appreciated :) I was just wondering how you stop thinking about someone. I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and we don't have an...
A. 30 October 2010: The best way is to keep yourself busy with friends and activities in your life. Spending time with others I have found to be the best thing and then eventually the memories of the ex will fade out of your mind. ... (read in full...)
He dumped me. Why doesn't he move on?
Q. My boyfriend dumped me not too long ago. (2 months) Im still hurt but moved in with dignity and havent looked back. However he is contacting everyone we know mutually and making childish stories up such as Im harassing him. It isnt just the ...
A. 28 October 2010: That is terrible. All you can really do is try your best not to let it affect you and hold your head up. He'll give up faster if he see that it's not really affecting you.
Wow this guy must have a low self esteem issue to constantly try this. You ... (read in full...)
He dumped me. Why doesn't he move on?
Q. My boyfriend dumped me not too long ago. (2 months) Im still hurt but moved in with dignity and havent looked back. However he is contacting everyone we know mutually and making childish stories up such as Im harassing him. It isnt just the ...
A. 27 October 2010: Good for you being the bigger person over this. Yeah the friends will come to hate his whining about the situation and know that he is just telling lies.
Hope he doesn't carry on too much longer. ... (read in full...)
He dumped me. Why doesn't he move on?
Q. My boyfriend dumped me not too long ago. (2 months) Im still hurt but moved in with dignity and havent looked back. However he is contacting everyone we know mutually and making childish stories up such as Im harassing him. It isnt just the ...
A. 27 October 2010: It sounds like he is trying all that he can do to get as many people as possible to pity him for the break up that he did. It's such an old and pathetic trick but he wants people to feel sorry for him and hate you because usually what happens is the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't kiss, want to hug or have kids..what is up with this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. Throughout the time we've been together, I've learned several things about him. 1. He won't kiss me until the day we get married, if we do. 2. He hates hugs. He'll hug me when we're ...
A. 27 October 2010: I wouldn't stay with just because I don't think you two will ever find common ground and he doesn't share your values at all.
Personally I think that there is something wrong with him in that he may have been so deprived of love and contact as a ch... (read in full...)
What do people recommend as a first toy to introduce into the bedroom?
Q. Hi everyone. Been going out with my girl 10 months now and I'm pleased to say we have an amazing sex life! As time's gone by we've become increasingly adventurous and I'm keen to do something exciting for her to take it up another notch and ...
A. 27 October 2010: I would reccomend a small vibator/massauger, something that isn't for penetration so that you both can enjoy it. I don't know what the are actually called but they are about the size of a finger and you can get them water proff for the shower. If ... (read in full...)
Wondering about drinking at social events?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now, and so far, we have a really good relationship. I'm just under the drinking age, but all my friends and his friends drink. I have sips of alcohol here and there at his house with just him, b...
A. 26 October 2010: Even if you are underage I think the mature way to go about this is to have a drink or two at the party but don't get wasted and make a fool of yourself. Younger people drink all the time and I'm not saying its a good thing but I think its way ... (read in full...)
Please tell me he's not wanting to break up with me...
Q. I split form my long term partner 12 months ago and immediatley met someone else. i am living on my own with my son. my new partner as been with me 24/7 and always telling me how much he loves me. he is a proper gentleman. our sex life is amazing, ...
A. 26 October 2010: I'm sorry to hear that. I reccomend distancing yourself from him for the time being since having him so close might slow down the healing because you will then have to see him with someone else.
Don't lat this get you down, this may just have to b... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a large clit?
Q. Umm...i really don't know how to say this but. i have a very large clit. Is this normal? does other women have this? im not sure. so please answer my question it would really help me out?...
A. 24 October 2010: Yes that is normal, everyone is different down there. It is also normal for it to increase in size when aroused due to an increase in blood flow to the whole area. ... (read in full...)
Is this considered cheating on my long distance boyfriend
Q. Is this considered cheating on my long distance boyfriend? We are in a LDR in different countries in Europe. We are both in university. I am supposed to go for a walk with a guy I've met recently in my uni. He's fun, I've had dinner with him and ...
A. 24 October 2010: The closest thing I would call this is emotional cheating but it really isn't because you have expressed that you do not have any feelings for him like that. If I was your bf I would probably jump to a bad conclusion unless he can really trust you ... (read in full...)
What games are on the zone 60 games console?
Q. I know this site is for love questions, but I can't seem to find the answer anywhere, and no other website's are any help, and I know I'm very likely to get an answer on here. Does anyone know what games are included on the zone 60 games console? Me ...
A. 24 October 2010: 1.100 METER
2.110 HURDLES
3.ARCHERY
4.BASEBALL
5.BASKETBALL
6.BEE FIGHTING
7.BOMBER-MAN
8.BOWLING
9.BOX WORLD
10.CHESS MASTER
11.COMPETIVE FENCING
12.DANCING GIRLS
13.DARTS
14.DISCUS
15.FIRE MAN
16.FISH WAR
17.FISHING
18.GOLF
19.HIG... (read in full...)
Is this wrong or not... what my boyfriend said?
Q. ok so thursday was me and my boyfriends year anniversary so we went out and had dinner and yesterday was a second part to it we went and saw a scary movie and went to a haunted house well i know he checks out girls cause i see him but last time he ...
A. 24 October 2010: I think you took it too personally, just because he looks at other girls doesn't mean that he is not fully comitted to you. Also who I don't know a guy who wouldn't want to be put in the position of being the tough guy at the haunted house with a ... (read in full...)
What would you take from his comment?
Q. I finally plucked up the courage to tell a guy (family friend) that I never wanted him to regret or feel guilty about what happened between us years ago and I don't regret it either. He told me the feeling was mutual. I said I will always have...
A. 23 October 2010: I agree with jmc930, in that he probably has moved on but it's nice to hear that what you two had meant something and you are ready to move on as well. A guy who actually cares about you will be happy to hear that you are doing good for yourself ... (read in full...)
Could it possibly have been discharge???
Q. Could it possibly have been discharge?????? I had sex yesterday with my mate and he *** in me, usually it would leak out afterwards but this time it didn't. After the sex he had some type of white gooey stuff on his p****... it came from me. ...
A. 22 October 2010: This sounds pretty normal to me, unless the discharge was a strange colour or smelled really bad it shouldn't be a problem. I am thinking that it was your natural lube being forced back inside you where it was compacted giving it a higher density. ... (read in full...)
Using a fleshlight and a still a virgin.
Q. Hello, im still a virgin and im a 19 year old male and i masturbate with a fleshlight because i havent found the right girl yet and im bored using my hand. i dont masturbate a lot but i just have 2 questions. 1. Should i ever tell my next girlfrie...
A. 22 October 2010: I wouldn't mention it early in the relationship but later on it would be fine to mention. Maybe she has some vibrators and you can say you have a toy too which most guys don't have. She might actually like the idea but you would have to jugge what ... (read in full...)
Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?
Q. Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...
A. 21 October 2010: I want to add that it's not about the man's junk as it is for men looking at women. What you want to show off is some muscles or a good smile. I think the women would agree that would far more attractive coming from a stranger then his junk out in ... (read in full...)
Why can't a guy get it in his head a girl is taken?
Q. So I have a boyfriend, but there is this one random guy who is insisting I'm like a whore because I'm friendly and have guy friends but I also have girlfriends too, but this one guy knows I'm taken, and keeps asking me to do stuff. I've told him to ...
A. 21 October 2010: If he is that persistant I would tell him off very clearly that you are not interested in him. But I want to bring up the question of when are we really taken. I'm saying this to be a bad thing but in the eyes of the other guy he may beleive he has ... (read in full...)
How do I go about satisfying my bi-curiosity?
Q. I want to try having a sexual experience with a woman, but i'm not sure how to go about it. I have been bi-curious for a while now, but i have only ever been involved with men, although, i am a virgin, and i haven't dated many guys, and the guys i ...
A. 21 October 2010: My gf and I had a threesome with another girl for her to explore that side. We actually asked a few people that we new and surprisingly although most said no they weren't weirded out by it and one did end up doing it with us. You would be the best ... (read in full...)
How do I help her with menstrual discomfort?
Q. It's my gf's time of the months. I've noticed that she experiences pain to the point where she sometimes doesn't want to eat. She takes Advil and it works for her, I was just wondering if there was something I could do to ease her from what she's ...
A. 19 October 2010: There's not much you can do but there are little things that she will appreciate. Try to be sympathetic towards her through that time and be understanding. Also maybe a nice back rub may help her relax and feel better. It might not take away the ... (read in full...)
Engaged guy wanting me to do hot yoga????
Q. My co worker who is engaged asked me to do hot yoga with him and told me we would be sweaty and probably be stepping to our underwear or sports bra. He also said I make him blush. I turned him down with the yoga. He pays special attention to me too. ...
A. 19 October 2010: I would say that he interested in you and I wouldn't consider this sexual harrassment unless he is very forceful or just that creepy. He may have been totally serious and hot yoga is something he does all the time and is just trying to be flirty and ... (read in full...)
He watches porn every single day while I am asleep
Q. I've been with my fiance for 5 years now. We have our second child on the way, he's a great guy and a great dad, however I am having a big issue with him. He watches porn EVERY SINGLE DAY when I am asleep, and it's starting to really bother me. I ...
A. 19 October 2010: From what you have said I assumeing that your sex life is still good and has not declined. It would be good to cut down on the porn but some guys can't masturbate without it and we tend to have been doing it for so long that it becomes a habit. ... (read in full...)
How to ask if she's seeing other guys?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for about two weeks, I'm 20 and she's 21. We have done everything but sex however she said she already wants to have sex. I told her i wanted to get to know her better and she agreed. The other night she invited me to ...
A. 19 October 2010: If you two are just causually dating then technically she can see other guys, there's nothing wrong with that. The way you can find out if she wants to be with you and stop seeing other guys if she is is to ask her to be your gf.
I don't real... (read in full...)
How to overcome social anxiety?
Q. How does one overcome anxiety from socializing with others?...
A. 19 October 2010: Working yourself up to it is a great idea, the practice can help you realize that you can perform socially quite well. Also it might help to change your look or do something that will make you feel really good about yourself. When you feel good it ... (read in full...)
I'm not as physically attracted to her as I used to be!
Q. So this question goes primarily out to guys, but girls can answer as well. I am 16 and have been dating my girlfriend for 7 months. And for some reason I'm finding myself not being as attracted to her. At first I didn't know why, but as i looked ...
A. 19 October 2010: First off don't talk to her about it because it will make her feel bad and I know you don't want to hurt her feelings. If you do break up with her and she asks why just tell her that you don't feel the same way for her any more and leave it at that. ... (read in full...)
My ex seems happy to have seen me?
Q. Okay so my ex has just moved to my school for sixth form, it was about 7 months ago we broke up and we sometimes talk and have really cool conversations. We spoke online the night after our first day back to school and I asked him how his day was, ...
A. 18 October 2010: Even if the break up between you two went really badly it doesn't mean that he would want to see you unhappy all the time. It's nice to see that he still cares about you and that he wants to let you know that you were something special in his life ... (read in full...)
My crush--does he secretly like me?
Q. ok, i need help. my crush is like my best friend, and some of his friends told me that he likes me? my crush touched me (like sexual touching) and now im wonderin if he likes me. he teases me playfully and when we played truth or dare, he ended up ...
A. 18 October 2010: It does sounds like he likes you but that he is in the same position you are in. He is probably wondering if he should say anything or he has no idea that you feel this way as well. I would tell him that you like him to get it out there.
Also he p... (read in full...)
Junior with a freshiee!
Q. My best friend ryan has his god brother over all the time, alex. We hang out EVERY weekend together, His god brother is a junior at my school and I am a freshman. He always says flirty comments to me and talks with me, and the class we have near ...
A. 18 October 2010: I think you stand a great chance since it seems to be apparent that he already likes you. Thats not a big age difference at all anyway. Plus it is quite often in high school that an older guy dates a younger girl. ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband always putting me down?
Q. my husband always put me down for everything. even in front of his brothers. he always attacks me on my weakness. i have try so hard to please me. but i see that it is not working. i really love my husband so much, but what i can understand is that ...
A. 15 October 2010: I don't know if I have any real solution for this other than you need to talk to him about this. This behavior seems to be related to how he feels inside. He could be putting you down because he feels that he is the useless one. He would do it in ... (read in full...)
My daughter cries every night before she has to go back to her mothers.
Q. My daughter cries every night before she has to go back to her mothers. Her mother physically and verbally abuses her on a constant basis, She gets slapped around the face and dragged down the stairs. I have followed every legal course of action to ...
A. 15 October 2010: If the legal system is failing you I reccomend talking to your daughter to figure out a plan. Maybe she could hide a cell phone somewhere where the mother won't find it and tell her to use it to call the police the next time her mother is abusive. ... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: I think that the hotter girl won't make you happy and you can't be sure that she will say yes. Are they good friends of yours, people you can trust. I say this because in the past my friends hated one of my gf's and would make a comment like that ... (read in full...)
Help! Curiousity killed the cat!
Q. Almost 9 months ago I touched my sister because we were looking at porn. I asked her what a vagina felt like an asked if I could feel hers it was a light touch. I'm 16 how do I get through this she was 13....
A. 14 October 2010: Talk to her about it. Try to work through any problems she has with it and then move on. Try not to let it happen again but if you both are ok then just leave it in the past and forget about it. I'm sure you weren't rough with her and if she let you ... (read in full...)
Will this exercise plan work the second time around or do I need to do more cardio to lose weight?
Q. i want to lose weight before meeting my ex..i know i am not heavy but i think i could afford to lose 5-8lbs if not more. I am in my midtwenties..before college i actually dropped a decent amount of weight and kept it off all throughout colle...
A. 14 October 2010: I think that the work out you have stated should get you right back on track. You don't have to go to the gym, all you need is some space and maybe some dumbbells. Adding some cardio wouldn't hurt at all so why not add in something if you have the ... (read in full...)
Please tell me he's not wanting to break up with me...
Q. I split form my long term partner 12 months ago and immediatley met someone else. i am living on my own with my son. my new partner as been with me 24/7 and always telling me how much he loves me. he is a proper gentleman. our sex life is amazing, ...
A. 14 October 2010: I think he wants to be with you but wants you to work towards over coming your insecurity. When you get together to talk with him tell him that you want to work through it and get over it but you'll need his help. The worst thing I think anyone can ... (read in full...)
Is getting a makeover a good thing?
Q. I wanted to know if it's okay to get a makeover? I have been thinking about a makeover to improve my appearance and confidence. I don't wear makeup a lot and don't know how to apply it that good and also can't afford to go to a hair salon. I would ...
A. 14 October 2010: A make over can be a great thing that can make you feel like a whole neww person. Although I've never gotten a make over like what you would be interested I did go one summer to buy all sorts of new clothes for a new style and it felt great. ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with an older woman?
Q. What should I do if I am 18years old and I want to have sex with an older woman?...
A. 14 October 2010: Well you could go out and pursue an older woman. Try to look for the cougars in the clubs, thats usually the best spot to find an older woman looking for a young guy. ... (read in full...)
Why do teenage boys go for the popular girls???
Q. Why do teenage guys always go for the popular girls??? Does no one realize how bad it makes every other girls feel cause they always come in second place to the girls who make us feel unattractive. Why does this happen??? ...
A. 14 October 2010: The popular guys usually go for the popular girls as well do the regular guys because there is more focus on what the popular girls are doing. They tend to put themselves out there more, usually more sexually which is where the boys head is focused ... (read in full...)
Should I return the favor?
Q. The guy im seeing right now has fingered me a few times but we havent done anything very serious. im wondering if i should do anything for him in return ...?...
A. 13 October 2010: I know that he is expecting something in return but you shouldn't do anything (blow or hand job) unless you want to. Don't feel preasure from him but its not fair that he continues doing things if you are not ready.
If you aren't ready then it woul... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a stepfather to fall in love with his stepdaughter??
Q. I am 48 and my stepdaughter is 44 is it wrong for us to fall in love with each other ...
A. 11 October 2010: I don't know about any legal reasons why that would be a problem unless her mother and you are still married or what the situation is with that. If you are still married with her mother then she would be considered your daughter (I think) and ... (read in full...)
He gets very emotional and affectionate when drinking, is it real or not??
Q. I'm curious about what you'd make of people's behavior when they've had a few drinks? Are the things they say insights into their hidden thoughts and desires or just drunken ramblings? I'm wondering because, although my boyfriend is always very p...
A. 11 October 2010: I am so the same way when I drink. I get really emotional and I can tell you that for me its usually very true what I am saying. He may feel nervous without those few drinks that you won't like what he is saying and he's nervous. I do beleive that ... (read in full...)
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