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No replies yet... 25 October 2009: This has nothing to do with relationships, but everyone loves a little humor! I adore this video, and it cracks me up in spite of the fact that my French is really bad (I'm trying to improve it). I finally found a version with English sub...
Any Harry Potter fans out there?
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6 July 2009: As a longtime fan, I became curious: If I were a student at Hogwarts, to what house would the Sorting Hat send me? I found this personality test on the internet, and, just for fun, I decided to share it: http://www.per...
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People bully me in school, about my weight! Help!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, Okay, i've been going through some tough things right now the biggest thing i've just accepted is my sexuality wich i'm now happy with! Well the problem thats been going on from when i was 08 until now which is...
A. 10 May 2010: Hi,
First of all, please go to your parents and tell them about the situation at school.
I know that you feel all alone and you're at an age that is especially awkward and turbulent. But, you're not. Loads of kids are going through the same... (read in full...)
There is a language barrier but she wrote me a love note. Should I see where this goes?
Q. I'm in a bit of a delimia actually like a confusion well this girl she speaks no english and lives in panama well I meet her and there's a languange barrier, I recently found out that she wrote me a love letter and read it to her friends This h...
A. 10 May 2010: Hi,
If you like this girl back, and you have family down in Panama, then could one of them interpret for you?
As to why she wrote a love letter... my guess is, she likes you.
I am confused, though: If she lives in Panama, and you're in US... (read in full...)
Can I tell my teacher I love her like a mother?
Q. My Spanish teacher this year is like a mother to me. I love her like a second mom. Would it be weird if I told her that when I graduate next year? Do you think it would "creep her out"? Because I really want her to know how much of a positive impact ...
A. 8 May 2010: I don't know your Spanish teacher but I can tell you that teachers love to feel appreciated.
She might be a bit concerned about your relationship you have with your mom. How is it, if I may ask? Even if your relationship with your "real" m... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get lucky during the first date?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to get lucky with a woman the first time meeting them? I mean i am on dating sites and when i decide to go meet a girl and wether we go for drinks or play pool, or just hang out it seems like they always make the first move. ...
A. 5 May 2010: If you don't want to be a "piece," then tell the girl that you want a committed relationship before you have sex.
Yeah, Lexie is right... where are you guys when we need you? ... (read in full...)
Why after 8 years do I feel jealous that my wife has dated a black man?
Q. my wife of 2 yrs (together for 8 years), had mentioned casually that she dated a black guy in colllege. Now i feel like Im not good enough to satisfy her beause he was so much bigger. She also has dated a lot mofe guys than me and it makes me ...
A. 3 May 2010: I'm a woman, and I have never been sexually active. I'm super attracted to Hispanic guys but that doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with other ethnic groups and, yes, I've dated black guys. Nothing wrong with that! Obviously it had nothing ... (read in full...)
Will masturbating make my penis bigger?
Q. Hi! I am Gay and in my Teens and have an issue that I need help with. The thing is that I am unsure about the results of masturbating. I have a regular size penis but I want to know if masturbation or time will change my penis to regular size for my ...
A. 3 May 2010: If masturbation made people's penises bigger... all the men would be stuck at home naked because they wouldn't be able to get their pants on!!... (read in full...)
Will masturbating make my penis bigger?
Q. Hi! I am Gay and in my Teens and have an issue that I need help with. The thing is that I am unsure about the results of masturbating. I have a regular size penis but I want to know if masturbation or time will change my penis to regular size for my ...
A. 2 May 2010: Trust me, though, it is quite true that if someone loves you then they won't care about your penis size. ... (read in full...)
Will masturbating make my penis bigger?
Q. Hi! I am Gay and in my Teens and have an issue that I need help with. The thing is that I am unsure about the results of masturbating. I have a regular size penis but I want to know if masturbation or time will change my penis to regular size for my ...
A. 2 May 2010: OP, I know you're at a vulnerable place in your life and sensitive about this, but Heart is my friend. I know he's NOT trying to be mean!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has issues with my nude modelling.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and were friends prior to that for approximately 2 years. When we first met, I was a fine art model. I posed nude for photographers and artists. This wasn't a problem until he started to care ...
A. 29 April 2010: As an artist, I can tell you that there is NOTHING sexual about drawing nudes. People who pose nude aren't doing it to entice someone. I've studied art and other people's nudity doesn't make me uncomfortable at all because I see them from a visual ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex, but I don't. What can I do?
Q. well im 16 my boyfriend want to have sex whith me and i keep telling him am not ready and he keeps asking...
A. 28 April 2010: Don't ever let him pressure you into doing something that is wrong or that you simply don't want to do. Tell him you're not ready for sex. Don't be afraid to stand your ground; he has no right to try to force you to have sex. Be sincere and ... (read in full...)
Me and my girlfriend are both 15 years old and we BOTH want to have sex. But how do we know if we're both ready?
Q. I need help on a desicion. Me and my girlfriend are both 15 years old and we have been together for about 3 months. But we've known each other for a little less then a year. I asked her just recently if she wanted to have sex with me over the...
A. 28 April 2010: Hi,
Maybe this isn't the answer you want to hear but I'm telling you the truth for your own good.
I don't mean to be harsh, but no way should you be having sex! You sound like a nice kid and mature for your age, but no high school student s... (read in full...)
Hes going back to his own country, should I cherish the last days together or break it off now?
Q. Hi I am really bummed out cause the guy I started dating for about 2 months is going to move out of the country and go back to his. I know we have not been dating very long but I really like this guy and started to get feelings for him so this ...
A. 26 April 2010: It depends on whether or not this guy is sincere. Is he interested in pursuing a long distance relationship? Would you consider it? Would he be willing to come back to USA and visit you? Would you be willing to relocate to his country? Once he ... (read in full...)
My recent behaviour is out of character for me. Is it connected to my father's death 4 months ago?
Q. Hey :) well i would just some advice on something that has been bothering me. Basically about four months ago my dad died and ever since i have been doing things that i dont normally do like *going out into town *drinking *smoking and there...
A. 25 April 2010: I'm sorry about your dad... it sounds like you're grieving. This behavior is really destructive though, and it needs to stop because you could do something you might regret for the rest of your life.
I could not agree more with CaringGu... (read in full...)
Horrible Pain when trying to finger.Help Please!!!
Q. *OP's own title* I'm a virgin 16 year old girl and when I try to finger my vagina I can't because IT HURTS A LOT.I can't even stick my entire finger in my vagina,I have tried but I can't,I have been trying to finger my vagina since I was 12 year...
A. 25 April 2010: You should go to a Dr. and get that checked out. I'm sure it can easily be fixed.
I can't give medical advice but I can tell you what it might be. Could you possibly have an imperforate hymen? Or maybe it's a little bit on the strong side. ... (read in full...)
Anal sex - to do or not to do.
Q. Should I let my boyfriend give me anal sex?...
A. 25 April 2010: Don't let him pressure you into it if you don't feel comfortable doing it. ... (read in full...)
Should I accept a big pay reduction in order to achieve my dream?
Q. I have a good job in education but it was not my dream job. I have always dreamt of working for a large international airline as cabin crew. I turned down a job with BA to take up a management job. Now I am hating it. I love the money but no ...
A. 24 April 2010: Look, you don't get many opportunities to be happy, and remember, you can't replace lost time. You can always get more money. Ok, I know the economy sucks right now, but everyone gets a new job eventually and you can probably get another lucrative ... (read in full...)
I wonder sometimes if I should be more bothered by his cheating
Q. my boyfriend told me last night that he cheated on me 3 times with 3 different guys. like any other boyfriend, I sorta freaked out. But an hour later, it didnt really phase me at all. Before I got with him, I knew he had a history of cheating with ...
A. 24 April 2010: I know you love him, but there is no excues for his behavioiur and you shouldn't tolerate it.
I don't want to hurt you, and I'm not saying these things to be hurtful but because I feel like you deserve better. This guy sucks, and you should g... (read in full...)
Should I have outgrown fancying celebrities?
Q. I,m 18 years old and I still really fancy celebritys shouldnti,ve grown out of this?...
A. 23 April 2010: Gael Garcia Bernal. I have no idea what he's like in real life, though.
Perhaps you should think of what you admire about these celebrities and search for someone in "real life" with similar qualities.... (read in full...)
I've got a child-like mind, I daydream, and believe in things that aren't real. Is this normal or am I stupid?
Q. I,ve not really had a great childhood when i was five i moved house to the middle of nowere where there were no kids or anythin and I lived on the main road so i couldnt really go out anywere to explore. Now I,m 18 I tink myself I,ve a very child ...
A. 23 April 2010: You should consider being a writer or artist. The qualities you described are really positive if you find the right path for them. Share more with us about your daydreams, you shouldn't ge judged for it. ... (read in full...)
Eye Color Genetics
Q. Hi I have a question concerning genetics. So I have green eyes and brown curly hair and my boyfriend has brown eyes and black curly hair. Also, I am white and he is puerto rican. We have one child with brown eyes and brown curly hair with very light ...
A. 7 April 2010: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Punnett_square
My square didn't turn out like I wanted it to.
Here's a better example on Wiki. ... (read in full...)
Eye Color Genetics
Q. Hi I have a question concerning genetics. So I have green eyes and brown curly hair and my boyfriend has brown eyes and black curly hair. Also, I am white and he is puerto rican. We have one child with brown eyes and brown curly hair with very light ...
A. 7 April 2010: Genetics is a complicated discipline, but I'll just give the rules of thumb.
It depends on your boyfriend's genotype.
A quick lesson:
phenotype: This means the physical traits you can see... ie, brown eyes, green eyes, red hair, black ha... (read in full...)
Do I ignore my boyfriends anger?
Q. I have written previously about my boyfriends anger problem...which I think is hereditary. He is Italian and hot tempered. I wonder if my only recourse is to ignore it if I want the relationship to work. He gets upset all the time. If something ...
A. 6 April 2010: I totally agree that the guy is childish.
I know loads of Italian guys that are nice and sweet... our music teacher was Italian but never lost patience with us. Of course the fact that I can sing rather well may have helped. :) At least people t... (read in full...)
Do I ignore my boyfriends anger?
Q. I have written previously about my boyfriends anger problem...which I think is hereditary. He is Italian and hot tempered. I wonder if my only recourse is to ignore it if I want the relationship to work. He gets upset all the time. If something ...
A. 6 April 2010: I don't think you can stereotype all Italians as being hot tempered but of course every culture has differences and it's important to understand them.
It could be that the guy is just temperamental. I'm afraid that you can't change someone ... (read in full...)
Help in deprogramming the Subconscious!
Q. If you've been deeply influenced through martial arts (brainwashed) to be "under" the teacher and have been in a serious relationship with him for 10 years, what are some resources to help deprogram the subconscious if all other avenues of strength ...
A. 6 April 2010: I've taken martial arts classes but I've never heard of being brainwashed or under the teacher... nothing weird at all happened to me... which one were you studying?
I would leave, find another instructor who doesn't brainwash you. ... (read in full...)
I thought she was joking but no, she's serious! She's going to hotel in a different city to lose her virginity with this random guy!
Q. Help! My friend met this guy on holiday last August, and kept in contact with him, even though he lives far away. Anyway, they have pretty sexual chats and she talks to him all the time and stuff. However he does this with a lot of girls. He added ...
A. 6 April 2010: You can't make her change her mind but if you tell her everything that's on yours she may see the light.
You're her friend, you care about her and don't have ulterior motives... this guy is probably a jerk; he doesn't value her virginity, it sound... (read in full...)
Sorry... wrong hole!
Q. Me and my GF were having sex last night and I slipped in to the wrong hole. Well she winced at first but didn't yell or object too strongly, so I rolled with the punches and continued in her rear. I thought it was great and she seemed to enjoy it ...
A. 3 April 2010: I agree with Strontiumdog. How the hell do you accidentally penetrate her anus with your penis? I could be wrong but I sense that you did it without asking because you wanted to try anal sex but you were afraid she wouldn't like it, and therefore ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to frequent chat rooms at my age?
Q. I'm 15, and i use chat rooms to release my sexual tension.... Is this normal? i find it a real turn on... Im confused. ...
A. 3 April 2010: I agree with CaringGuy; I think you should be very leery of those chat rooms. Use extreme caution with someone you met over the internet... don't trust anyone. Don't ever give out personal information such as your real name, phone number, ... (read in full...)
I feel like I want to run away! Do I have a disorder?
Q. Someone please save me :( Deep down I know something is wrong with me. Mentally. I just can't take it anymore! For so long i've gone bottling EVERYTHING up because I don't want to bore people with my life story or for them to think i'm some c...
A. 3 April 2010: You say that counseling isn't for you. I ask you this... have you been to a series of counselors or just one?
Finding the right counselor can make a world of difference. I have been to many counselors and I've seen a whole range
I can r... (read in full...)
Are areolae sometimes not brownish/reddish in color?
Q. Hi I'm 20 and I kind of have an embarassing problem with my body and it's really affecting my sex life. Most people have a brownish areola pigment at the nipple of their boob but I don't, and I've been dumped because of it. Is it not normal or am I ...
A. 3 April 2010: As a matter or interest... you say it's not brownish or reddish. I know this is really personal and I'm not pressuring you to answer me, but I'm curious. I'm dying to know... exactly what colour is it?
Anyone who would dump you over that is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forces me to have sex with him!
Q. i've got problems with my new boyfriend.first time when we meet..everything was consider okey between us.but,one day...he start to talk about sexs.everytime he text me..he always said.."i want you baby"...plss....sometimes i feel fedup with ...
A. 2 April 2010: If he forced you to have sex, then he raped you.
Even if he's your boyfriend, he forced you to do it... that's the definition of rape!
Most people are not aware of this, but MOST rape victims KNOW their attacker. Everyone hears the word "... (read in full...)
He never wants children, I definitely do, and I don't approve of his job!
Q. My boyfriend never wants to have children, and I absolutley do, and lives a lifestyle I know I would not be happy with living in the future. (he is a porn director!) I know he won't change and I know I can't change him. For now I have a fantastic ...
A. 2 April 2010: I think that which issues are considered "dealbreakers" are relative, but if it involves a major lifestyle choice, the rule of thumb is that you should agree with one another.
Most people have very strong feelings on the subject of children... (read in full...)
He never wants children, I definitely do, and I don't approve of his job!
Q. My boyfriend never wants to have children, and I absolutley do, and lives a lifestyle I know I would not be happy with living in the future. (he is a porn director!) I know he won't change and I know I can't change him. For now I have a fantastic ...
A. 2 April 2010: I don't think that a relationship can work out in the long term if you all have such drastically different goals about children. It's one thing to disagree about politics, music or religion... if you wrote and said, "I like Obama and he voted for ... (read in full...)
A rough diamond? Compliment? or Insult?
Q. what If your boyfriend says (your' a rough diomand )rough aound the edges.is that insult .or cheeky towards me.?...
A. 2 April 2010: Does he mean, "a diamond in the rough?"
They kept using that phrase a lot in Aladdin (that's where I first heard it).
I concluded that it meant someone who is very special in spite of the fact that a lot of people undervalue or overlook their v... (read in full...)
I haven't forgiven my mother for grounding me when I was 12!
Q. I am a 23 year old, married, new mom. My mother contacted my husband after the baby was born and is wanting to get together. Now, he is pressing me to have my mom in our lives. I have not been on speaking terms with my mom for years. When I w...
A. 2 April 2010: Parents aren't perfect, and they screw up, it's a fact of life. Even if they love you, that doesn't mean that they're inhuman and even parents who really love their children sometimes make terrible decisions! Furthermore, they realize their ... (read in full...)
How can I track down a police officer I fancy with only his first name?
Q. I am very interested in a neighborhood police officer. He is also interested but is always on duty when we see each other and can't ask me out. I would like to get in touch with him but only have his first name. When we introduced ourselves we ...
A. 2 April 2010: Could you possibly locate him on Facebook?
That's what came into my head. I kind of like Timm's idea, though. ... (read in full...)
How can I track down a police officer I fancy with only his first name?
Q. I am very interested in a neighborhood police officer. He is also interested but is always on duty when we see each other and can't ask me out. I would like to get in touch with him but only have his first name. When we introduced ourselves we ...
A. 2 April 2010: Could you possibly locate him on Facebook?
That's what came into my head. I kind of like Timm's idea, though. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fake virginity when she marries?
Q. I just want to know if it is possible for a girl to hide her premarital sexual relations form her husband (she's been having regular sexual relations with other males for 5 years before marriage). She is going to marry after 6 months ...
A. 2 April 2010: Just a bit of trivia:
Humans aren't the only mammals with hymens; it's present in many species of mammals.
A female guinea pig can regrow a hymen, by the way. When she's in heat (her fertile days), her hymen dissolves... and it eventually re... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fake virginity when she marries?
Q. I just want to know if it is possible for a girl to hide her premarital sexual relations form her husband (she's been having regular sexual relations with other males for 5 years before marriage). She is going to marry after 6 months ...
A. 2 April 2010: It's true that it's possible to be a virgin and not have a hymen. To put it delicately I have never had sex but I used to ride horses a lot, and I'm gonna quit while I'm ahead.
I don't think that you should keep secrets from your husband.... (read in full...)
What's the best way to contact an ex?
Q. i want to contact my ex after 6 months of no contact. whats the best way to do it?...
A. 2 April 2010: Add him/her on Facebook.
Keep one thing in mind...
I'm not sure if you just miss this person as a friend, or if you regret breaking it off and want to be in a relationship? In six months, this person may have healed or may not have healed from... (read in full...)
How can I stop losing my temper and beating my girl up?
Q. hey man i have a girl who love me so much and am also very crazy about her but any b tyme i get mad at her i beat her up but yet still she love me canu tell me how to stop cos i love my baby girl so muchits all about my temper....
A. 31 March 2010: Man, I thought I had issues... I have anger, abandonment, and low self-esteem, but I certainly don't go around beating people up. If you love someone, you just DON'T hurt them. I agree that you should leave the relationship, if you can't control ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my insecurities and say "hi" to this guy?
Q. I'm so insecure, it's really bad. I cant give people eye contact because I'm so scared they're gonna judge my face. I know they do it anyways but im scared of what they think, even though I know I should'nt. For example ,I really wanna talk to ...
A. 31 March 2010: Well, what do you know! I see you're 13-15 years old.
When I was exactly the age you are now, I was PAINFULLY shy. I'm twice your age now, and people are shocked when I tell them this, because I'm the last person anyone would suspect of being sh... (read in full...)
How can I stop losing my temper and beating my girl up?
Q. hey man i have a girl who love me so much and am also very crazy about her but any b tyme i get mad at her i beat her up but yet still she love me canu tell me how to stop cos i love my baby girl so muchits all about my temper....
A. 31 March 2010: I hope this is a joke.
I don't judge anyone, but I don't sugarcoat the truth either.
If you truly loved her, you wouldn't beat her up.
How do you stop doing it? You simply stop. You are in control of your actions. No matter HOW ... (read in full...)
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