Are cheaters always cheaters?
Q. My ex constantly cheated when we were dating. I was even the one he cheated on his ex with. I forgave him everytime because I loved him and thought he loved me to death according to the commitment he gave and he would beg his parents and friends to ...
A. 9 April 2014: I think that people who are often cheating are sometimes just the type of person who has poor self control, is selfish, doesn't think of the consequences of their actions, etc. Those traits lead to serial cheating and they don't just disappear.
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Do men find a curved tummy a turn off?
Q. I was wondering if men find a curved tummy a turn off? I'm not overweight by any means (although I used to be), nor am I particularly thin. I'm probably relatively average for girls my age in my country (about size 10, 5ft7/170cm, 65kg/143lb)but my ...
A. 9 April 2014: Only virgins with unrealistic expectations will be bothered.
Most guys are aware that nearly all real women have bellies. I love em. My wife is 110 pounds and doesn't have a flat tummy.
If it really bothers you there's a simple trick that model... (read in full...)
My soon-to-be-deported husband is spending my money on his mother and told me not to spend it on my own parents! Any ideas what to do?
Q. My husband is to be deported and is currently detained by immigration. I have financially supported him for a long time now and also whilst he is in immigration detention i have sent money and visited 3 times per week. He has been detained now for ...
A. 9 April 2014: It sounds like an issue that is just unfixable, aka a deal breaker. I don't know why you'd want to be with him any more.... (read in full...)
How do I get a grip? I am in a jealous, blinded rage and don't know what to do about it
Q. This may be long, so sorry, but I am pouring myself out here. I had an earlier post about my husband talking about a younger female coworker (12 years younger than me) for a couple of years and then suddenly not talking about her. They work in the...
A. 7 April 2014: I don't really understand how anyone could say you're not over reacting. Of course you are! Should you really be "consumed by a jeaulous blind rage" because your husband is attracted to another woman?
That's called being controlling, although... (read in full...)
Perfect girl, why cant I love her like she deserves?
Q. Hi all, For the whole of last year I was fighting cancer... It was horrid and took all my resources to beat it, but I got there! When the news of remission came in I was overjoyed, but also had a cold hard slap of reality and realised that my...
A. 7 April 2014: I don't get where chigirl is coming from either, there's a lot of assuming going on there, don't know why she's trying to impose her ideals on you...
"You need to learn, as well as this woman need to learn, that SEX is for when you are already ... (read in full...)
I was put in an awkward position.
Q. I was put in an awkward position. I have a friend whom I've known for almost 10 years. About 4 years ago she got with this guy who to be honest I'm not that keen on. She has a child with him.He's very lazy - he doesn't work and doesn't help he...
A. 6 April 2014: That is insane! If I was in your situation I'd be blunt. Tell her that what he did made you so uncomfortable that you really don't want to see him again but you'd love it if just the two of you could hang out.
Otherwise he's just going to tag alon... (read in full...)
Perfect girl, why cant I love her like she deserves?
Q. Hi all, For the whole of last year I was fighting cancer... It was horrid and took all my resources to beat it, but I got there! When the news of remission came in I was overjoyed, but also had a cold hard slap of reality and realised that my...
A. 6 April 2014: Your problem is that it's only Ben a month. Case closed. People are all different, but I think true love (vs infatuation) takes more time than that.
The orgasm denial is strange though... Not really a red flag for me, just unusual.... (read in full...)
I did the most well known cliché of falling for my friends with benefits.
Q. I did it. I did the most well known cliché of falling for my friends with benefits. I don't know what to do. All my friends are saying walk away, forget about it, told you so and the usual remarks. Of course I know they are all right but once y...
A. 6 April 2014: Honestly it sounds to me like you might have scared him away... Its supposed to be fwb which means no drama and you started acting a little strange.
I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but relationships change. At the beginning its constant... (read in full...)
Job interview included working for a full day, for no pay!
Q. This isnt a relationship question but im hoping someone can help. My niece who is 19 and currently an office temp wants to get in to hairdressing. She saw that a well known salon in our town was looking to hire trainees so she applied - sent h...
A. 5 April 2014: When you need a demonstration of skills its acceptable. But they were clearly used as entry level jobs don't require a demonstration, and a full days worth at that. I'd call your labor people, whatever they're called in England.... (read in full...)
I want him back even though he's behaving like a complete prat
Q. Since my boyfriend left me 4 months ago I don't know who I am. I grew up with my mum my dad died when i was 4 (now 24) so we have always been quite close. My boyfriend of 4 years who I met at uni left me and has made me question myself complete...
A. 5 April 2014: You just weren't compatible, its got nothing to do with you being rubbish. Find a guy who accepts/loves who you are and your relationship with your mom.
Also you only want him back because he rejected you. People always want what they can't ha... (read in full...)
You shouldn't hide anything in a relationship, right?
Q. Hey everyone, Me and my boyfriend been dating for like 2 weeks I know it's still short but he thinks it's disrespectful to look through his phone... I don't have a problem with him going through my phone but he claims he doesn't go through my messa...
A. 5 April 2014: It definitely is disrespectful. He has a right to privacy whether he needs it or not, and your actions show a lack of trust that isn't justified.... (read in full...)
Am I being horrible to ask him to get tested?
Q. What should I do? Why won't he get tested? Am I overreacting? So I haven't being with a guy sexually for 3years now and I've been dating this guy for almost a year now and I want us to start a sexual relationship. He says he hasn't been with any...
A. 5 April 2014: His reaction says a lit about him, and not in a good way !... (read in full...)
Should I carry on with this relationship? I found out my GF lied to me.
Q. Here is my situation, my gf moved from her home country to another country for a better job, she had a bf of 3 years in her home country and they remained in a long distance relationship after she moved away. She met a guy at work who was a good fri...
A. 5 April 2014: If being with her is making you worried you might kill yourself then you need more help than you'll get here.
The situation can't be changed. Her history is what it is. If you can't deal with that you're with the wrong person. There are worse th... (read in full...)
I feel that nobody likes me, that I'm ugly, that I'm just not a cool person to be around
Q. I feel like such a loser. I'm 21, going to graduate from college soon, I don't have many friends there unfortunately because I have drifted from a majority of the ones I made there; I've tried countless times to make new ones by joining clubs, a...
A. 4 April 2014: First of all, don't compare yourself to what people show you of their life online. Everyone is happier, more successful, and better looking online.
They control the pictures you see and the story you hear.
Second, you are obviously not in... (read in full...)
Should I carry on with this relationship? I found out my GF lied to me.
Q. Here is my situation, my gf moved from her home country to another country for a better job, she had a bf of 3 years in her home country and they remained in a long distance relationship after she moved away. She met a guy at work who was a good fri...
A. 3 April 2014: Some people just can't be alone. When the two of you break up she'll seek comfort from someone else as soon as possible. It won't be pleasant, but that's the way it is.
She lied because she thought she had to. It doesn't mean she's guarante... (read in full...)
I made a mistake. Now how do I choose between my pregnant wife and unborn child, and the love of my life?
Q. Between 2006 to 2009, I was dating this amazing and wonderful girl, due to the long distance of our relationship, she suggested we take a break from our relationship to finish our education, I was so hurt but I agreed. During this period, an old ...
A. 3 April 2014: How much in person time did you spend with your old girlfriend? Enough to know if she's really your ”one true love", or enough to fall in live without really getting to know her?
Whatever you decide, you can still be a good father.... (read in full...)
Does this girl at work 'like' me? If yes, how do I let her down?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I met a girl at work. She is 18 years old. We talked for a bit on that day but barely have since because our difference in work schedules. That day she mostly talked about another guy at work she has a crush on (though I don't know ...
A. 3 April 2014: At this point it doesn't really matter. You only need tobket someone down if they ask you out and you're not interested. At that point just tell her that you don't see her as anything more than a friend.... (read in full...)
Help, my boyfriend is being weird!
Q. Hi there I've been seeing this guy for just over 6 wks now and things were great, he would call me and text me everyday. He would ring me up say he missed me and say you staying at mine tonight and would always want me around, he would make time for ...
A. 3 April 2014: There isn't much anyone can do at this stage. You barely know the guy and he dumped you for another girl. It wasn't a love connection, luckily you found out sooner than later.... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 1 April 2014: SVC's answer is great, I think "waiting until marriage" is often used to hide sexual dysfunction, insecurities, and other issues.
I know someone who claims to be waiting till marriage for some vague religious reason but I suspect he's too insecure... (read in full...)
Don't we all smell the same?
Q. Hey guys.I've got a very weird question to ask..first off,I've been friends with this UK lady for 4yrs.cyber_friendship.we've shared a lot.she recently had a baby born.and she used to tell me she doesn't bath sometimes,they I'd ask y and she'd say ...
A. 1 April 2014: BTW I've been with all types of women and race has nothing to do with smell. Heat actually can affect smell though.... (read in full...)
Don't we all smell the same?
Q. Hey guys.I've got a very weird question to ask..first off,I've been friends with this UK lady for 4yrs.cyber_friendship.we've shared a lot.she recently had a baby born.and she used to tell me she doesn't bath sometimes,they I'd ask y and she'd say ...
A. 1 April 2014: People don't smell the same down there. But let me ask you, when you wash your vagina, do you wash inside? It takes care of itself ideally. Now, the area on the outside certainly needs washing from pee, poo, and sweat.... (read in full...)
I think my vulnerable friend is being taken advantage of
Q. This woman was previously abused in a very long term marriage. (slapped around then forcibly Raped on her wedding night by her husband.) He abused her in many other ways as well. He made her feel guilty and took great advantage of her. She is n...
A. 1 April 2014: I don't think a little bit of consensual intimacy between mentally sound adults is any of your concern.
”Vulnurable” doesn't mean she's not aloud to be intimate. ... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 1 April 2014: In all honesty its possible that he thinks of his grandma naked while you're fooling around, but I don't think it's normal to suppress yourself. A normal person would avoid a sexual situation instead of forcing himself to not get a boner. That's ... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 1 April 2014: There's a number of things it could be which is why its not such a wise idea to leave something so important (sexual compatibility) unknown until its too late.
... (read in full...)
My internet friend doesn't like me the way I like her. I am heartbroken.
Q. Ok so I have this Internet friend. I really like her a lot she is really pretty even though others don't think so and shes super funny and nice and likes a lot of the same stuff as me. I finally got the guts to tell her. She has a girlfriend already ...
A. 1 April 2014: There are plenty of real girls out there, so don't feel too bad that you missed out on a chance at a virtual relationship. Besides,you're taking it personally and it's not; she's already with someone.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't take into account the fact that I'm very sensitive
Q. I've been with my partner for eight-ish years. Some of those were long distance; about half were not. We've had some instability in the relationship, from my breaking up with him multiple times but we've also had some good times. About a year ago ...
A. 31 March 2014: He can't take your anxiety into consideration and be more relaxed with you for the same reason you can't turn off your anxiety. That's who he is.
You do need help, but you also need a new boyfriend. You guys are totally incompatible.... (read in full...)
Don't know if I want to date him or get back with my ex
Q. Is it ok to go to watch a show at the theatre with a man that isn't your boyfriend?. What do you think about that?. I don't know if I want to date this guy, and I don't know if he wants to date me. I'm also not sure whether I will get back with my ...
A. 29 March 2014: It's called dating because you don't know what you want and are figuring it out.
Once you figure it out you can call yourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, etc. ... (read in full...)
Should I have unprotected sex to please my guy?
Q. Please can you give me advice - my boyfriend and I have a great relationship, however he now wishes to make love without using condoms. I am not happy with this, as by his own admission he slept with a lot of women in the past . I just want our...
A. 27 March 2014: +1 everyone else's advice. There is no comparison between the two, sex without a condom is so much better.
So if you trust him and you're both committed then why not? ... (read in full...)
Condom wrapper and girl's scarf found in my boyfriend's car… I'm having trouble trusting him! Any advice?
Q. I'm having trouble trusting my boyfriend of a year and a half . I have been burned in the past (cheated on) and am a naturally suspicious person. Here's my dilemma. 1) I found a ripped open condom wrapper in my boyfriends car. Near the drivers...
A. 27 March 2014: There's only one reason to delete things from your phone. He's trying to hide something... Period.
Condom wrappers aren't in the least bit sticky, but maybe he stepped in gum, then stepped on the wrapper, some how didn't realize it, and it fell ... (read in full...)
I ended it with my difficult BF and now he is being so sweet and I'm confused.
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles. Please advise!! I split with my BF of 3.5 years about two weeks ago. The relationship was volitile and difficult. I really loved him , but was not seeing him enough , and did not feel he was making enough effort to keep me in ...
A. 26 March 2014: If you want someone to love you and treat you right all you have to do is dump them.
Unfortunately as soon as you accept them back, you're back to where you started.
If you do take him back you need to do a couple of things. Take things slow... (read in full...)
Sex when on my period?
Q. My boyfriend won't have sex with me when I am on my period. It's nothing to worry about to have sex on my period - what should I do??? ...
A. 26 March 2014: @Anonymous 123: I don't think that's any of your concern. Driving one mile per hour over the speed limit is also illegal.
@OP: the obvious answer is to respect what he says. Getting blood on their penis may be a little to much for some guys to ... (read in full...)
I need some help getting through a terrible break up.
Q. I've been suffering through a terrible break up and I need some encouraging words and help to get through it. My gf and I were together about two years. We split on Sunday because she couldn't handle a relationship anymore. She deeply suffers f...
A. 26 March 2014: You may have had expectations of this relationship lasting forever, but judging by her mental state, was that really what's best for you?
I don't think it is. You should try to remember that there are billions of women in the world, many that hav... (read in full...)
Is asking this question a good way to find out if girls are interested in me?
Q. I have made a habit of asking girls I like "were you waiting for me". I do this when visiting a shop, coming to work etc., to gauge their interest in me, from girls I know. I have received emphatic "no's" and I have no doubt that means no, nix, nyet ...
A. 25 March 2014: I don't think it's a great way to judge interest since it kind of sounds conceded and some people may answer yes since it may be there job to help you in the first place.
It also could eliminate a girl that likes you because she didn't know how... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I'm no longer included in our group vacation
Q. So I am with my boyfriend for over a year , and its your typical relationships with petty fights about jealousy and everything, but we do have a good relationship. Over the last few weeks, he has changed in some ways, like always saying before he...
A. 24 March 2014: This sounds like a pretty lousy relationship to me. You guys are obviously incompatible which is why you're fighting all the time and are now apparently one step away from being broken up all together.
Let me ask you one simple question: are eith... (read in full...)
Would put him off if my friend told him I like him?? Instead of me communicating to him, in some way, that I like him?
Q. Hi I'm thinking about telling my crush how I feel about him but I'm not sure how to do it and I've been going over it so much that I think I'm confusing myself. My friend offered to tell him for me but I'm not sure if this will put him off if I don...
A. 23 March 2014: If you think he likes you then it doesn't really matter how he finds out. The tricky part will be who makes the first move? Kids at your age are pretty timid when it comes to asking someone out.
Be bold and ask him yourself. It takes guts, bu... (read in full...)
She's leaving in two months and I'd like to be more than friends with her before that happens, but things are moving very slowly!
Q. I've recently been on 3 relatively great dates with a girl I met online who is visiting my city for the next 2 months or so. However, it's moving a lot more slowly than I am used to -- I usually date more sexually aggressive girls because I feel ...
A. 22 March 2014: If she's leaving, what exactly are you pushing for? Sex? If so I think you should forget it. She doesn't seem to be that type.
If you for some reason want to start an LDR, then maybe you should talk to her about feeling like you're getting ... (read in full...)
How could a FWB be any good with a virgin?
Q. I want to understand how an earth this is even possible for a guy to be attracted to and why? I've never, ever understood it! This guy I know, we've been talking for months and we've been out about three times and he asked if I wanted to be friends ...
A. 21 March 2014: I don't think it's a bad thing as far as experience goes, as long as the girl is open minded and enthusiastic. Guys will have sex with any woman (experience wise) as long as she doesn't lay there like she would rather be doing something else. No guy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has saved hundreds of images of women on his phone! Normal or no?
Q. My bf of 7 months saves photos of random nameless girls in his phone. A few of them are pornographic but most of them are girls in their lingerie. It isn't just a few photos but hundreds of them. Is this normal? ...
A. 21 March 2014: Normal for this day and age, yeah. 20 years ago it'd have been pretty wierd. ... (read in full...)
Will she give me another chance after calling her bad names for going out with other guys
Q. we met on zoosk and it was fantasic we hit it off TOO WELL and talked for 5 hour a day she called me in the morning and at work and we talked all night. we wanted to wait to have sex but didn't so the 2nd date we ended up in bed... so i went home ...
A. 21 March 2014: The way I look at rejection is that they're not rejecting me necessarily, there's not something wrong with me, we're just not compatible. You can be the most amazing guy in the world and some women won't like you. Either because they're lesbians or ... (read in full...)
I care what others think about my boyfriend's appearance!
Q. I am 29 and my boyfriend of 8 months is 31. When we first started our relationship, it was one of the most intense feelings I've felt. Every since a couple of months ago, it was almost like I woke up from a dream and I've become very obsessed about ...
A. 21 March 2014: +1 for Cerebus' great answer.
I also want to stress that you really should keep the height/hair part to yourself. He may be secure enough to handle it, but it very well could crush him, too. ... (read in full...)
Will she give me another chance after calling her bad names for going out with other guys
Q. we met on zoosk and it was fantasic we hit it off TOO WELL and talked for 5 hour a day she called me in the morning and at work and we talked all night. we wanted to wait to have sex but didn't so the 2nd date we ended up in bed... so i went home ...
A. 21 March 2014: If not hearing from this loose cannon is making you crazy you were probably crazy to begin with.
You guys are perfect for each other I suspect, some people just like drama. I don't know if she'll contact you but you can keep trying. ... (read in full...)
Will she give me another chance after calling her bad names for going out with other guys
Q. we met on zoosk and it was fantasic we hit it off TOO WELL and talked for 5 hour a day she called me in the morning and at work and we talked all night. we wanted to wait to have sex but didn't so the 2nd date we ended up in bed... so i went home ...
A. 19 March 2014: You went on two dates and had this much drama? RUN! ... (read in full...)
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